Would you pass background check for requirement of ex of my fiance

[Mari1212 4]

Ex wife of my fiance requests background check from me, so that i could be near their common daughter in future. I'm absolutely clear peson and have nothing to hide. Though she had some problems in the past by herself. 

Now i have back thoughts that this person will be third party in my relationship all the time. Would you make background check for your fiance? 

[PaulaCJohnny 712]

Be careful with providing any documents that contain your personal information for any person, you don’t know what he/she can use for it.

Your fiancé need to handle this situation, not you. If the new partner of your fiancé was from the US, will this ex ask for the same information? 

To get the visa you will pass for a process that will check everything, so she doesn’t need to care about.

 

IMO you need to put some limits right now and don’t let this person control your life. 

Good luck.
 

[Rocio0010 5,570]

44 minutes ago, Mari1212 said:

Ex wife of my fiance requests background check from me, so that i could be near their common daughter in future.

Sure, but ONLY if there was a court order. I am assuming the two sides have an attorney, right ?

 

46 minutes ago, Mari1212 said:

Would you make background check for your fiance? 

Not for a fiance, no. For my husband's case, yes. But only if there is a court order and my attorney knew about it.

45 minutes ago, Mari1212 said:

Now i have back thoughts that this person will be third party in my relationship all the time.

Time to talk with your SO about your fear.

[Loren Y 2,732]

As others have stated, If you get , or have gotten a visa and came to the US, you have undergone more background checks then any local wannabe service is going to find. If that isn't good enough for the people concerned, then I would not bother being around whomever they are concerned about.

[Mike E 11,724]

1 hour ago, Mari1212 said:

Ex wife of my fiance requests background check from me, so that i could be near their common daughter in future. I'm absolutely clear peson and have nothing to hide. Though she had some problems in the past by herself. 

Now i have back thoughts that this person will be third party in my relationship all the time. Would you make background check for your fiance? 

Not for my fiancée  nor for my wife.  
 

Nor would I ask my fiancée. Instead I would tell my ex-wife to pound sand. 

[Adventine 3,187]

The others are right that the US immigration background checks are better than any private service an individual can pay for.

 

I'm curious, how did the ex-wife of your fiance make the request?

 

If your fiance relayed the ex-wife's request... your fiance has a serious problem with boundaries. You are right that the ex-wife will become a third wheel in your relationship.

 

If the ex-wife told you directly... they're crazy and they could be setting you up for a scam. 

[JeanneAdil 6,220]

no way do u have to provide this personal and private information for the ex wife

 

totally agree with Adventine above 

be careful and protect yourself

[Marieke H 2,324]

In your previous post you mentioned that you have not met in person yet because you had trouble obtaining a B-2 visa and his "personal reasons" prevented him from visiting you. Have you been able to meet in person yet? If you haven't, you are getting way ahead of yourselves. Tell the ex that once you have met in person and know you want to proceed, you will go through the visa process which includes background checks. So if you end up getting the K-1 or CR-1 visa, she can be sure that your background check came out clean.

[Allaboutwaiting 2,500]

You have never seen him in person, he claims he cannot visit you for "personal reasons" and now he tells you that his ex requires a background check? 

 

That is WRONG. Better to say goodbye to that person. 

[JeanneAdil 6,220]

seriously   

Haven't met this guy?

have u seen his face online?

as this whole senario sounds suspicious 

and even if this man,  is really a man and really a USC ,  we , too have scammers

 

tell this BF that the criminal report will be provided to CO at a K1 interview for use by immigration and no one else

even he does not need a copy unless u marry and go CR1 route and its needed for NVC stage

 

make him honestly apply for your K1 visa 

 

this "wife" if there is one and "if she is an ex"  is not part of your process for immigration

and in the US men can remarry and have joint custody of any child without the wife's permission when he pays support 

only a court order saying he can not see his own child prevents him and u being with a his own child(ren) 

[Mike E 11,724]

2 hours ago, Marieke H said:

In your previous post you mentioned that you have not met in person yet because you had trouble obtaining a B-2 visa and his "personal reasons" prevented him from visiting you. Have you been able to meet in person yet? If you haven't, you are getting way ahead of yourselves. Tell the ex that once you have met in person and know you want to proceed, you will go through the visa process which includes background checks. So if you end up getting the K-1 or CR-1 visa, she can be sure that your background check came out clean.

 

21 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

seriously   

Haven't met this guy?

have u seen his face online?

as this whole senario sounds suspicious 

and even if this man,  is really a man and really a USC ,  we , too have scammers

 

tell this BF that the criminal report will be provided to CO at a K1 interview for use by immigration and no one else

even he does not need a copy unless u marry and go CR1 route and its needed for NVC stage

 

make him honestly apply for your K1 visa 

 

this "wife" if there is one and "if she is an ex"  is not part of your process for immigration

and in the US men can remarry and have joint custody of any child without the wife's permission when he pays support 

only a court order saying he can not see his own child prevents him and u being with a his own child(ren) 

Completely agree.  
 

This is a cat fish. 
 

Block this person. 

[Marieke H 2,324]

8 minutes ago, Mike E said:

 

Completely agree.  
 

This is a cat fish. 
 

Block this person. 

It is either a catfish, or someone who is unable to obtain a passport to be able to travel to meet her (due to owing child support/back taxes?). There is a lot to figure out and resolve before they are even close to living together in the US and having anything to do with the ex and the stepchild.

[Allaboutwaiting 2,500]

To summarize all our concerns here's a visual cue:

[Chancy 6,233]

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