Nervous about how we met.. Though common.

[JQ85 0]

Hi guys,

 

  My fiance is from the Philippines and we met 3 years ago on a site called ChristianDatingForFree.com. Well... We have emails galore, I have two visits under my belt etc... So good, solid evidence (pics, passport stamps)...

 

   The only thing I'm nervous about now is how we met. Someone suggest to NEVER say you met online, but we obviously don't want to lie.. I've searched similar posts and just want some fresh suggestions etc.

 

   I already receieved a letter from the website stating they are NOT a marriage broker.

 

   People have said "if you met online, expect an RFE"... Logically, you would suggest I send the letter from the website with my 129 packet (the "not a marriage broker letter"... But I'm worried if I send that from the start and STILL get an RFE, I wont have a backup plan...

 

    Has anybody else used that specific website wr met on?? Is it true that if they say "we need marriage broker paperwork" that isn't real or unobtainable, we'll be royally stuck or screwed?

 

   Nervous here... Need the advice of this amazing forum.

[afortunada 182]

The people you have been talking to are very mistaken. People are approved ALL THE TIME after having met online. This is a non-issue.

 

You need to submit the evidence of not being a marriage broker with your original petition - that's even in the instructions for the form.

 

As far as not being real or obtainable... That's just not the case. The website has terms and conditions - all you need to is print this out, and you're golden. 

 

So, be honest, state the website where you met, and also send the TOS to prove that it is not a marriage broker website.

 

Good luck on your journey!! And yes, the people here have wonderful information, so continue to ask questions if you're unsure

[Kayla and Andrew 2]

My fiance and I met online through a video game and I stated as such on my I-129F. It was approved. I don't think they mind at all that you met online, but only that you can prove your relationship is legitimate. The biggest thing is that you've actually met in person at some point.

[QueenComley 295]

A huge number of people on VJ met online - this is the norm nower days in general and will not go against you.

[Klepley 4]

Most important thing. Don't lie.  Only rule you need to remember when going through the process.

Good luck!

[cdneh 3,112]

Many people here met online. We did. Didn't get an RFE through the entire process (so far), and not interviewed either for AOS or ROC. Nothing to worry about, not in this day and age.

[millefleur 5,035]

It's been the 21st century for a while now. I would even go so far as to saying meeting offline/in person is the exception here on VJ.

 

As long as it isn't a 'mail order bride' type site, you'll be fine! Like the others said: where you met is kind of irrelevant if you have strong evidence of a real relationship.

[Scandi 3,970]

We met online as well and didn't go into specifics when we filed. Only wrote "met online". I know some people get RFEs for not stating what site they met on, I guess we were lucky.

[soulstriker 274]

the way technology is now meeting online happens often more now , im sure the VJs stats will show that most couples met online , just dont be shocked if the  CO asks what website u met on

[Chair_force1 195]

My question is this... after all the RFE sent out asking for proof a dating site isn't a marriage broker , why do they still need these statements.  Obviously they have heard of every dating site by now used to meet people overseas and I'm sure they have already received proof for these sites aren't brokers.  I would think this shouldn't generate a RFE unless a new dating site pops up.  

Edited January 5, 2017 by Chair_force1

[PhotoJ89 30]

50 minutes ago, Chair_force1 said:

My question is this... after all the RFE sent out asking for proof a dating site isn't a marriage broker , why do they still need these statements.  Obviously they have heard of every dating site by now used to meet people overseas and I'm sure they have already received proof for these sites aren't brokers.  I would think this shouldn't generate a RFE unless a new dating site pops up.  

Yep, you'd like to think USCIS would send an internal memo, listing all dating sites which are confirmed to not be IMBs. But as it stands, looks like the burden of proof is on the petitioner. Don't assume they know anything. 

[j N j 50]

Thanks to the OP, as this got me thinking about if I needed a letter from the site I met my love on. Although it might not be needed, I went ahead anyway to ask them for such a document..

[chinkee28 1]

7 hours ago, JQ85 said:

People have said "if you met online, expect an RFE"... Logically, you would suggest I send the letter from the website with my 129 packet (the "not a marriage broker letter"... But I'm worried if I send that from the start and STILL get an RFE, I wont have a backup plan...

Hi. My fiance and I also met online. He submitted the I-129f with the letter that says we met through an online dating app. He didn't get an RFE for this. As long as you've met in person and has good proofs of your ongoing relationship, I think there would be no problem at all. Just like what they say, just be honest

[narakthisud 174]

2 hours ago, PhotoJ89 said:

Don't assume they know anything

Best thing I've seen on this site. Funny and true at the same time!

[j N j 50]

1 minute ago, narakthisud said:

Best thing I've seen on this site. Funny and true at the same time!

it is true indeed, everyone knows the old saying about assuming!!