Bynx24

Do yourself a favor and save yourself future issues by not going thru with it, this is riddled with red flags and not a good idea, sorry if I am blunt but your future self will thank you, Wishing you the best either way.

For those who are confused by my responses, bigamy is a crime and if the OP's husband entered the marriage already married, there is a good chance that that greencard can be revoked .

27 minutes ago, Mike E said:

I believe the man was married when he “married” OP. 

 

Ergo he didn’t actually marry OP.  

 

Thus his visa should not have been issued.  

 

And his green card should be revoked. And the man deported and banned for life. 

 

And presumably bigamy is illegal in his home country.  

 

Start with https://www.uscis.gov/report-fraud/combating-marriage-fraud-and-abuse--immigration-benefit-programs

This right here, OP find out if he was married somehow, if he is report it and his greencard revoked.

7 hours ago, Bill & Katya said:

If the spouse was also legally married to someone else when filing the I130 and it was not disclosed, would that be an issue?

This is where I think she has the upper hand, if she can prove that he was already married, the marriage and be "voided" and he would be in a whole heap of #######, honestly this whole thing is a major risk and not something that I would do again tbh. I feel terrible for the OP, I hope she could find out if he infact is married and crucify his (removed).

13 hours ago, lostsoul504 said:

hello, 

 

        Im stuck in a bad situation right now, going through a bad divorce. After all these years of waiting for my soon to be ex husband to be home in the states with me turned out to be a 

a fake fake person. We married in his home country back in 2010 everything was a long process...I would travel to visit him occasionally...  well his visa finally got approved back in august of 2018

everything seemed to be going fine until he came home..... I found a wedding ring in his bag with his initial and the girl I caught him talking to initial ....but of course typical man denied everything. 

He pretty much left a family back home and possibly remarried and he couldn't be honest with me of course he wasn't going to give up this opportunity.  My question is what can I do at this point ?

is there anything I can do for fraud because thats what it was on his part. He came home august of 2018 and he left to live with his sister in October of 2018 . He pretty much just came to stay with me got

his permanent resident card then he booked it with all the excuses a lying man thats been caught in his game.

 

 

That almost happened to me, thank goodness I got out on time. I am soo sorry

16 minutes ago, Apple Bee said:

Some allow the spouse to enter the consulate with them and some don't. 

 

It's very nerve wracking. I'm tired, stressed, worried, everything. Our future together lies in the hands of another human. We have no control over it. I don't wanna say I'm confident, only in the sense that my husband feels good about the interview so it makes me feel a little at ease.

I believe that if the relationship is genuine and all documents are in order, you should be fine. I truly wish you the best of luck.

1 minute ago, Apple Bee said:

Although Casablanca doesn't allow the petitioner to go in with the beneficiary, I do think I'm able to go in afterwards or if they ask my husband to bring me in for further questioning/clarification. He's bringing my passport inside with him so they can see I am currently in Morocco with him. I'll be outside waiting on pins and needles😥

That must be nerve wracking for you, I can't imagine how intense that would be, how do you feel about things? Are you confident or worried about anything?Etc.

I didn't know that consulates do that, they all might have different ways of doing things.

42 minutes ago, Apple Bee said:

I understand. Hopefully they will still consider it anyway. Thank you.

Me too, I am not sure how it works, but can't you go in and if they have any doubts you can answer, or maybe stay outside etc.

5 minutes ago, Apple Bee said:

why wouldn't it be accessible to the CO by the time the interview comes?

Oh no, I am not saying that they would not have access, I am just thinking in terms of them questioning it, I just think it would've been best to do it say last week or whatever but I totally understand your point. All should be okay since you will have a physical copy plus you uploaded it now, good luck.

3 hours ago, Apple Bee said:

(It was not available to download at the time of submitting all docs to NVC)

I am curious, if they weren't available for upload at the time of document submittal, why wait until a week beofre the interview to hurry and upload? Anyway, you were able to upload it now which is great but because it was after the fact , it may or may not be present for the interview next week, the best bet is to have it on hand and explain that you submitted a week prior, good luck.

47 minutes ago, adil-rafa said:

"the family loves me"  but in many cases they are happy that their son/brother/nephew is getting a chance for a better life and that you are the person offering him a chance

Amen, amen , amen....this is so valuable right here.

Thank you all for the outpouring of support, I spoke to my family and even though it began with tension , it ended rather nicely. I am glad I posted this for that reason, the ideas on how to speak to them was what helped the most in such a crazy time for me, on the other hand, I feel like every person on here will turn their backs to this post as they will feel like it doesn't apply to them. I didn't think it applied to me either, the purpose was to keep your eyes open, this will avoid a situation like mine for yourself, wishing you all a smooth journey.

20 hours ago, Wildlife said:

Before misleading people or putting things out there, get your facts right!!! If you get cheated on by a citizen, he/she is called a cheater but if he/she is from another country, they are using you. I’m not exonerating anyone but don’t forget cheating knows no geography. 

First of all, no need for the exclamation points, second thing, please relax as I am in no mood for you to check my "facts". Mt facts are checked, it's my life and I know the details thank you very much, it's not my fault that you are butt hurt because your beneficiary is from Nigeria, the most fraudulent of all and what I wrote struck a nerve, sorry if my story tiggered you in any way. I never said that people near me won't cheat, I am misleading no one.  GTHO with your negative attitude, thank you.

16 hours ago, Derik-Lina said:

"Some"  

MOST sorry, 90% of the relationships with one, an immigration based one is not real but that's another topic altogether.

2 minutes ago, cyclone27 said:

Well if it’s fraud I would say he is not very good at it. Normally it happens after Greencard is in hand. 

Exactly!!!! This is the part that blows my mind!

1 minute ago, junkmart said:

Just withdraw. They won't care that he might be a potential cheater. And you haven't mentioned any concrete proof that he was using you just for a green card. Sorry this happened to you. Best of luck!

His being a cheater or in it for a greencard is irrelevant in my decision, the point is that I do not want to marry a piece of #######. I will say though, I believe the consulate would think differently, especially when I confronted him and he said, "too late, I am on to the next" and he has an open dating site now with his picture right smack in the middle, but this is irrelevant, I will not stoop that low, I will let life take care of him and me I will move on.

Just now, bakphx1 said:

So, a question to you.   Sometimes I see questions posted by women with fiancées/spouses in high fraud countries and the situation sounds like textbook fraud.   I used to point this out, but the response is always angry and they are in love and we’re different, etc.   Is there anything you would say to these people in the future or can you not talk someone down from that?

Good question, I was one of those saying that it couldn't happen to me because I was this or that and we were real etc AND believe me, I have no advice tbh, the Oscar nominated type performance was so convincing that it didn't even cross my mind. As a left brained individual I was skeptical from the beginning, but as time progressed and we interacted and I experienced the feelings amongst us, I was convinced, these freaking con artists are so good, whoa, I mean good. Anything for the green card, next time around if there is one, I will stick with my good ole' American man !

Just now, SanjaAlex said:

I'm so sorry you had to go through something like this, I believe it's heartbreaking... But it's better this way, for you and your future. I love the confidence you have, that's the way to go girl! Just stay positive, think positive and take necessary steps to withdraw the petition. 

Wish you a wonderful future! 

You are soooooooooo sweet! Thank you dear, I truly hope the same, it feels earth shattering right now, but I didn't follow my own advice and ignored things that I shouldn't have, either way there's no way but up and out, thanksss again

5 minutes ago, missileman said:

AOS interview or consulate interview?

Consulate interview

1 minute ago, missileman said:

I would IMMEDIATELY contact USCIS, NVC, and the consulate to withdraw the petition and the I-864...........

Do I give a reason or just say I want to withdraw?

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Sadly a not uncommon story and if the VJ experience is anything to go by will not be heeded by others as they will consider their situation different. I think this is the third similar post today.

Interview for what?

I was one of those who thought I was different, looks wise a perfect match, no red flags, beautiful love story. Oh well, we do not think it can happen to us until it does. I am convinced now that these countries are high fraud for a reason and atleast for me, I would never again do something this follish, lesson learned.

1 minute ago, Amadia said:

Which interview exactly? Maybe there's a chance you can cut the cord for him there as well.

We are waiting for his interview with the consulate, he is not here yet.

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

Sadly a not uncommon story and if the VJ experience is anything to go by will not be heeded by others as they will consider their situation different. I think this is the third similar post today.

Interview for what?

Sad state of affairs, truly is

Our interview with the consulate is pending, how can I cancel it? I don't want to react out of anger so I will exclude the part where his intention was a greencard , I will let life deal with him BUT, do I have to give a reason?

2 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

You've saved yourself a lot of time and future grief.  Thanks for the cautionary message, and all the best to you.

Spot on, the most amazing thing about it though is how convincing it all was , right down to his family. I am beginning to think that they also were a part of it. Tryly heartbreaking day for me but necessary.

What should be my next step? Emailing NVC or the consulate to withdraw my case? We are at the interview stage.