dwilder

Finally! Im sure this was the reason why I couldnt sleep last night lol.

Aah. Thanks. Hopefully, none of us who left out the NAs will have a problem since we checked off or filled in the applicable boxes. It seems asking the USCIS folks to use some common sense is a bit of a stretch.
 
It's like when I select male as my gender on a medical form and then fail to mark NA on the "do you think you might be pregnant" question. LOL

Congratulations !!!

I highly doubt it has anything to do with credit card and the like. From what I've observed so far, they are pretty strict to sticking to basics:
Making sure ALL the questions are checked and answered at 129F. Forgot a checkbox? RFE. Required documentation, letters of intent, divorce certificates if needed, etc, nothing extraneous. Additional proof of meeting in person in last 2 years. From what I observed, lawyers don't seem to do any better than self filed ones. In some cases worse, as due to their busy schedules they sometimes tend to "forget" things. 
 
Good luck, and remember to update us once you actually have your RFE in hand!

Seven posts have been removed for reasons of stereotyping and badgering.
This thread, which is rather out-of-control, will remain locked, and it's not to be restarted or referred to elsewhere.
 
TBoneTX
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Personal observations:
          OP, character is crucial when deciding to choose a mate.  It trumps other aspects of background and financial circumstances.
          There's been enough time between your last relationship and this newly contemplated one so that you can file a new petition with USCIS.  However, the consular phase is far more crucial, especially when dealing with the Vietnam embassy.  The consular officers will be looking for evidence of fraud and especially ample "face time."  They used to, and might still, insist upon an exhaustive "relationship timeline."  It's optimal to submit this as part of your front-loaded petition package, and to provide substantial updates to it at the eventual visa interview.  It's highly unwise to get engaged or married on your first in-person visit, and possibly even the second.  See the Vietnam regional forum on this site.
       Your sensitivities and sensibilities still seem raw consequent to your previous experience, which is understandable.  Apply these "sadder but wiser" realizations toward evaluating individual potential mates, rather than toward stereotyping larger segments of society positively or negatively.  Consider avoiding rushing into something before circumspection is re-established.
       We typically get more advice on how to buy a washing machine or a car than we do on picking a mate.  An excellent book, one to read over and over, is "How to Stop Trying to Find Someone Perfect and Find Someone to Love," by Dr. Judith M. Sills.  If that isn't the precise title, it's close.
       Best wishes.
 
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If being poor or having a poor family is a red flag, I just don't know HOW my husband decided I was a catch. Sheeeeesh.

I am just in awe after reading this .... 
 
Have a child with someone because you love them and having a family together is what you both want, not to strengthen your immigration case.
 
A career tells nothing about someone's personality and intentions. I know many kind people who are barely getting by and some pretty awful people that have become very successful financially. 

So much hypocrisy here..whining about a woman using you for a green card and filing VAWA, but ASKING if having a baby with a woman would better your chances.....

If you want to talk with people that have had VAMA filed against them - use the search bar. 

You even said your family came here as immigrants that were poor, yet you are throwing the exact same people under the bus. 

 

Being from a poor family is NOT a red flag.

No, and please don't have a child in order to make your case stronger, that would be absurd. 

SMH. This is an absurd conclusion, IMO. You felt that she and her family scammed you?  Did her family come, too?  Was she able to stay after accusing you of abuse?  Obviously, the police and USCIS believed her and did not believe you. But since you “picked” a better one this time, maybe things will work out for the two of you. 

That the 2nd woman is a dentist does not make her any better person. She could be using you for a GC as well, you know? Get to know her better and if all is fine then petition her for K1 or marry her and do spouse visa.
 
 
 
Having a child does not make any case stronger.  Only proves 2 people had sex.

http://www.visajourney.com/content/guides/
 
http://www.visajourney.com/k1-fiance-visa/

@naitisha i guess by month of October to November we gonna see an approval for April filers...keep waiting and have faith.

If the USC (petitioner's) income is below the 125% threshold, you can use assets to make up the difference. For example, 125% is $25,000 USD and the petitioner only earns $20,000. They are currently $5,000 under the required amount. Five times the amount of assets will be required to make up for the shortfall. In this example, the petitioner would need to have assets of $25,000 to make up for the difference income. Alternatively, the petitioner might be out of work or retired. They could use their pension and assets they have to make up the $125,000 USD they would need. 
 
If a petitioner does not have five times the assets or is a more risky/borderline case, having a joint petitioner is a great option. If you have the option, I would always recommend it.

Job fair or networking is the best solution. Linkedin is a good platform.
Applying online won't get you much, they don't even read resume submitted online.
"It's not what you know, it's who you know" and this has been proven to be working.
BS hiring system, but you gotta play their game.

they will advertise when a job fair is to be held near u (usually twice a year)
several companies set up booths and talk to propective employees /
they are equiped to show products and tell about their serivices
if hiring they will show list of jobs available and website to apply for jobs / at times they may be free to take a resume on site 
a good resume is always a plus 
don't forget to check out the temp services / many companies now hire thru a temp agency offering full time work if your quality of work suits the company after a trial period

I think the resume is different from the CV. I've seen CVs that list things like "I enjoy camping and hiking with my family". 
 
The resume almost seems like boasting to some Brits. Use action words to show your accomplishments.
Sold more products than anyone on my team in 2016 and 2017 Organized  the ....whatever Supervised a small group  planning.... whatever Wrote a new sales manual for.... Provided excellent customer support  Managed, created, developed, achieved, provided....action words showing things you did.
 
 
 

I don't look my 50, no. I am smartish looking, cleanly well dress, modest and contemporary, not modern. I work in sales, so smart is essential along with self perspective.
 
As a foreigner, have you noticed anything odd in the american way of the employment process you would have never had thought of before immigrating?

May I ask, do you look it? Perception of the job candidate is everything, just like dressing more formally and neatly is. And sorry to say it, but there is unspoken age discrimination (nearly impossible to prove). My advice is to get any gray hair professionally colored, (and if male) lose any gray facial hair, or facial hair altogether unless meticulously trimmed; update your wardrobe to current trends you may not have noticed (like brightly patterned socks for men, and lower heels for women); and contrary to what others have said, (if male) a shirt buttoned at the collar but no tie, unless the interview is for a very straight-laced company; and (if female) no bright colors or bold patterns for women, and reduce the big jewelry and makeup. And for both sexes, manicured hands. 
 
The odds are very high that your interviewer will be decades younger than you, and few will feel comfortable hiring someone who looks like their parent.

It all depends on the nature of the job or industry it is in, IMO. In some areas, who you know is king. In others, they will seriously look at what you know first and foremost...knowing somebody just gets you a heads up or interview at best. In yet others, experience and where you've worked / your area of expertise is king.
 
Job fairs are a good way to meet people and see who's looking for employment. Job postings online are also important, although response rates tend to be lower (but there's typically many more jobs available than just those at a job fair...not all companies spend the time/money to set up a booth at a fair).
Recruiters are also a great way to present yourself to an employer.

Meet people. The more people you know the better. Even if you don't have any skills you can get a job pretty easily by knowing someone. Find networking events in your area and check them out and talk to lots of people. "It's not what you know it's who you know"

I forgot about those, yes I do see a lot of those advertised here. Most have 30 plus places hiring and will all be at the job fair. A good place to get your resume into the hands of people that can get you a job. They always say in the ad you can be hired on the spot! I'm sure that happens, but not very often, but it is a good place to get your name out there. They hold them at conference halls, and other big venues like convention centers, and it is worth checking out.

Thank you guys!
It's intetesting to see that it's pretty similar to the UK.... online, network, confidence, dress code etc. Thank you!!!
 
Kris&me: I'm starting to notice that job fairs are quite a thing over there.....
I'm nearly 50 and have never seen one on this side of the world.... how does that work please?

I agree that networking is very important here in the US. That is also how I got my job: I was recommended to apply for a job where a friend of my husband works.