PirateLiker

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

All good points. We have already had the break up talk 4 times. Each time, I feel so terrible that I walk it back. If I had stuck to the first breakup 2 months ago, maybe some healing would have already begun to take place. 
 
She has been getting out and doing some things. She even went out of town with some friends she met for a weekend. This is a rare opportunity for her to visit this part of the world. She is aware of that and trying to make something positive of the situation, which I support. 
 
Meanwhile, we are spending time together and trying to enjoy each other's company. Of course that is difficult too, because there is this cloud hanging over us.

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

First of all, thank you to those of you who pointed out that both A and B result in illegal status. Does anyone know where it is codified that B results in illegal status? What triggers the illegal status? Is it not having I864 signed by a certain number of days after the marriage? Or a certain number of days after the visa was used?
 
I agree, you can't control everything in life. There are no guarantees. Many times I think I should go ahead and marry and adjust status and let the chips fall where they may. At this point that is still what she wants. I am a terrible person but I do hate the fact that I've hurt her so badly. 
 
I have already given her money for a plane ticket plus 4 months of her previous wages. 
 
I don't need anyone's pity, but I do detest what I've done and myself.

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

All good points. We have already had the break up talk 4 times. Each time, I feel so terrible that I walk it back. If I had stuck to the first breakup 2 months ago, maybe some healing would have already begun to take place. 
 
She has been getting out and doing some things. She even went out of town with some friends she met for a weekend. This is a rare opportunity for her to visit this part of the world. She is aware of that and trying to make something positive of the situation, which I support. 
 
Meanwhile, we are spending time together and trying to enjoy each other's company. Of course that is difficult too, because there is this cloud hanging over us.

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

My K1 fiance has been in the US for about 2 months. I was very concerned about the open ended/blank check aspect of signing I864 before she arrived, and my misgivings about this haven't changed. I am considering a couple of options.
 
A. Allow her to stay with me without marriage. I realize that in doing so she would become an undocumented resident.
 
B. Marry her but not sign I864. In so doing I realize she would not be able to adjust status, but I believe she would be a documented resident.
 
Am I more or less correct in my understanding of these two paths?
 
I live in an area of the country that is very friendly to undocumented residents. In fact,  a former GF was an undocumented immigrant. She has a job (albeit low wage), driver's license, access to health care etc. Under either scenario, A or B, I am quite certain she would be able to work and have a driver's license.   
 
I am completely aware that she is a person with the ability to make her own choices. If I tell her what I am willing to do, she can choose what is best for her. 
 
Considering reactions to a related post a couple months ago, I am not necessarily expecting very civil comments in this thread. 

It's a good point and it's been mentioned to me by others. I don't see that happening, but I'm not clairvoyant, or even very smart. When I started this thread, I was ready to end it right then and had already told her. As suggested, if there was any hope of getting her job back, I wanted to make it so that she could keep that option open. She said there was no hope, a statement with which I disagreed. Nevertheless, I wasn't going to belabor the point. She was devastated by the news of my feelings. 
 
The next day I told her that if she wanted to stay and try, that we could do that. I said I didn't think there was a very good chance. She thought about it for a day and decided to give it a shot. So we are kind of playing house. I decided that if we split up after a couple of months, it will be harder than right now. But then I reasoned that when she looks back on this 5 years from now, it will be better if she has some memories of doing some fun things in the US.
 
She hooked up with some ex-pats today that showed her around a little, so that was cool. Things have been pleasant the last couple of days. 

My fiance has an approved K1 and a plane ticket. I have been thinking about a getting a prenup but haven't put any effort into it until now. After doing a little research this morning I'm pretty nervous. First of all, I read that a prenup is unlikely to hold up if it is established after POE. This makes sense to me. If it was shown to be signed under duress, it can be invalidated. The beneficiary is motivated to sign it in that circumstance because s/he wants the marriage to occur.
 
I am thinking maybe I should try to get it taken care of before arrival. Maybe have an attorney send it to her then she could get her Ukrainian attorney to look it over. This still might be considered duress, however, since the ticket is already purchased and the timeline is tight. But an advantage 
 
I own my house outright and have considerable other assets (and a young adult daughter) which I wish to protect in the event of the marriage ending.
 
In case you're wondering if I am uncertain about this relationship, that is most certainly true. We have considerable differences which we have discussed. It looked like things were not going to work out a month ago, but now we are moving forward. I think we both know about our issues but have decided to try. I will concede that she might be seeing things through rose colored glasses to some extent.

Thank you for all the helpful ideas.
 
At this point it looks like there is some chance we will set aside our differences and move forward. I'll make sure to update when I have some new information.

We got our NOA2 middle of last week. It was dated August 8, 2018. My filing date was January 29. I suppose my fiance should get a letter pretty soon? I don't really know what to do next. It's exciting but kinda scary too!

I also think copies are ok. I was approved for a k1 a year ago and I sent copies 

Would it be safe to summarize this discussion by saying that, although it is specifically stated that fiances are not allowed to attend the interview, that in practice they are allowed? I wonder if this is something I can count on.

Unfortunately, Google and I are merely acquaintances. And, Google led me here:)

I think it gets exhausting to keep checking and rechecking and at some point you have to just send it! But sorry you made that mistake(

I'm joining this group. I overnight FedEx'd my I129F on January 29. (What's another $57 after spending $535 for the fee, right?) I got delivery confirmation on January 30. So I'm a January filer just barely. Good luck all!