Highmystic

Thank you he is truly a miracle that survived when odds were stacked against him. Now he is home and thriving 💙

As far as I can see, your son is not an immigrant, therefor he is not subject to public charge laws.    And I have to say I am sorry for what your son had to endure, and hope all will be well. 

Once you get your greencard, joint sponsor is not a key point anymore. 

That  was just needed for getting your GC, irrelevant now.

Bingo. 

Who said anything about adjusting? You’re overthinking this. It’s not illegal to have a lover in the US. It’s not illegal to apply for a visa to visit that person. It’s absolutely illegal to lie on the visa application form or to the officer. It asks if you have immediate relatives in the USA. Doesn’t matter if you are visiting them or not. If someone with a brother in Alaska is applying for a tourist visa to go to Disney world in Florida, he must still declare that he has a brother in the USA even though he won’t see him on the trip. 
 
Will your fiancé be granted a visa? Who knows? It’s up to the officer. If he’s denied because the officer feels that he will stay avd adjust, he won’t be the first or last person this has happened to. The whole reason the K-1 visa, with its myriad drawbacks, is still very much in existence is because of the difficulties many people have in obtaining visitor visas for the USA because of a love interest here. I visited over 40 times before I emigrated but I’m from a VWP country and had no problems coming to visit and even married my husband on a visit. Many others don’t have that luxury. 
 
If you tell the truth every time there’s no need to worry about visa fraud. There’s no fraud in telling the truth. 

Brain switches quite amazingly. There is usually one “uh oh” moment each time I switch .. usually associated with the other country’s curb to curb turn .. or turning from a one way street. 
Note to self ... if I can see the gutter / curb out my drivers window I’m usually in trouble !!! I’ve spent the past 40 years driving on both sides of the road .. thankfully not often at the same time ! 

Hubby had a state trooper sit with him for his driving test. LOL! No pressure right?  If you're not as confident you can always practice for a while. He's not even sure how he'd feel/remember driving back in the UK now.

Believe it or not, your brain just flips and it’s easier than you think to adjust. 

Yeah I must admit I am really nervous about it. But in America you need a vehicle for everything! Back home you could walk to get bread and milk. Now I can’t even walk to get that lol 

I'd reconsider the Spousal Visa.  Sure, takes 2 or 3 months longer, he can start work as soon as he finds work, (and get insured), and you avoid that wait again, for the AOS, with more anxiety waiting and a lot of dollars. 
You were in an accident, and your daughter had a rare illness,  what if he were in an accident, or caught a rare illness while waiting for a CG? 
 

I'd reconsider the Spousal Visa.  Sure, takes 2 or 3 months longer, he can start work as soon as he finds work, (and get insured), and you avoid that wait again, for the AOS, with more anxiety waiting and a lot of dollars. 
You were in an accident, and your daughter had a rare illness,  what if he were in an accident, or caught a rare illness while waiting for a CG? 
 

What type of encouragement are you hoping for? Given the way you arrived everything has turned out as best you could possibly hope for rather than you all remaining undocumented. You are lucky that you found a way to all become legal. Your son has no option but to go back for CP.

Have you ever wondered why Pakistani citizens have visa-free or visa on arrival access to only 31 countries and territories? (Only Syria, Iraq and Afghanistan have “worse” passports on the Henley Passport Ranking - https://www.henleypassportindex.com/assets/2020/Q1/HENLEY PASSPORT INDEX 2020 Q1 INFOGRAPHIC GLOBAL RANKING_191219.pdf ) All while Pakistan is the 5th most populous country. Or wonder why consulates do not accept Pakistani Police Certificates?  Ever wonder why the US Non-immigrant Visa Fees are so high?
 
I was relayed this story from very good friend I know and trust that I have worked many NGO projects with:
 
The issue in Pakistan is that decades ago Pakistan decided not to modernize it's internal record keeping nor institute security controls on it's documents.  Unfortunately this has led to the inability for Pakistan and any other country to rely on the authenticity of many documents issued from Pakistan. Need a birth certificate or old passport from Pakistan?   He visited a friend's house in Virginia. The friend is a retired State Department Foreign Service Officer. He has a wall with 20 or more birth certificates issued in his daughters name with various birth dates. Some of them are quite beautiful.  They are all “certified” as true and correct. None of them are. His daughter wasn't even born there. In fact he only had a son. . . 
 
So every document has to be checked for its veracity in many cases by hand and in person.
 
It is not just an issue for the US but atleast the US will do the heavy lifting once a VISA interview has occurred. Other countries refuse outright.  That same retired FSO that actual cost to process a Pakistani visa is probably now 20 to 30 times higher than what is charged to the applicant.  That isn't really fair for all of the US Visa Applicants Worldwide who pay for the self funded Visa services of the US Consulates.

OP already clarified this.

Round trip is usually cheaper than one way. So just buy a round trip and then don’t use the way back one. 

Just a piece of advice.
 
I'm a guy that's been married for about 8 and going on 9 years now. Your husband's behavior is not excusable however from a guy's perspective I think he really wants things to work with you hence why he told her no, he's married and wants to be faithful.
 
I can understand your frustration but marriage is very different from a normal boyfriend/girlfriend relationship where you can break-up for any reason. Divorce is not easy (never been divorced before - my 1st marriage - and never planning to but I'm echoing what I have read and seen others go through) and should be the very last resort. Instead of inquiring about your ROC, I think you should be having a conversation with your husband. Let him know you know what he's been up to. Give the man a chance to explain to you and come clean on everything and if you do love him, perhaps give him a chance to right his wrongs. We're not talking about you catching him in bed with another woman but email communication. Again I'm not excusing his behavior but in the grand scheme of things, I think this is something you two can work through - if you are willing to give him a chance and he is willing to stop his shenanigans.
 
Now regarding immigration, it will actually look good for you if you gave this man a chance, went through counseling etc. and he didn't hold his end of the stick. If I am an immigration officer, I will find the situation very very suspicious (regardless of the story) because of the timeline. You married in December 2019, it's just mid-January and you're already talking of divorce and ROC etc. Not faulting you at all, but just look at things from USCIS perspective.
 
Alright, enough with my essay. I wish you the very best!

You're under no obligation to tolerate his cheating. He's the one who needs to put in the effort to make this work, not you. You shouldn't be doing the work. You should be demanding that he proves to you he's faithful or you're out. He should be completely transparent and give up his privacy so that you can have a peace of mind or he's out. Don't try to find excuses for him and make it easier for him to justify himself and lie to you. Stand your ground and don't be a doormat. 

First off, with the spam emails,   I used one of those dating sites, years ago, and to this day, I get a couple hundred sex spam emails in a yahoo account that I use as a spam magnet and just going in and deleting the 1000 spams every month or so.  So that is not an issue for you or your hubby, that's the past. 
Secondly, not knowing him, I would be likely to bet that he will be very defensive when "caught", and instead of owning up, he may try to switch the blame on you for violating his privacy.  He had a thing with this woman, and possibly others prior to you two getting married,  so that is in the past as well.  However, he does not seem to want to "let go". of Sandy,  Some women, on the other hand can be relentless when trying to make that man hers.
I only quoted the above part, the text he sent, and my first reaction was that maybe he is still seeing Sandy on the side, and knows, or suspects you are reading his emails, and sent that text for your eyes to read.
 
I'm no psychologist,  but I think men and women also, cheat for the same underlying reason,  Self assurance that they are still desirable to someone other than their spouse.  It's an Ego issue, and Sandy knows how to play on that.  
 
Maybe one day you will say to him,  "How's Sandy doing?"  I'd love to hear the "Who?" as his mind stalls to come up with the next answer.
 
Best of luck, sorry you have to go through this but it sounds to me (from the text) that he feels trapped in a marriage he does not want to be in. But know, it would be Sandy's cheater afterwards. 
 
 
 
 

Divorce is not a bar to removing conditions.
 
When you file your waiver, the burden will be on you to prove that you entered into a bonafide marriage.   Retain this evidence now  and you will be fine.
 

Before you have that talk with him,  print out the emails and any texts
you may need this evidence later

We need a little housekeeping on your end. Many of our answers are predicated on the information you supply in your profile. When we look at the left column and can't determine your timeline OR your Embassy it's hard for us to give you a factual answer. Our answers will sometimes be tailored to a specific Embassy hence the reason for you to complete your profile. If you look at the profile of others here, they have a flag for their country, so it makes it easy for us to reply as we can quickly determine their Embassy. The country that should be used is the country where the interview will take place.
 
So, if you could help yourself out and complete your profile that sure would help us out when we want to reply to your question with factual information.
 
Go to the top right of this page select your name (it's on the upper right-hand corner)>my profile>[below your picture on the right column] edit my profile. Scroll to the bottom and fill in "Immigration Info". There now we can better serve you.
 
Once you finish that then return and you will see a flag in your profile. Select it and see what wonderful information will open up for you.
 
Thanks

Ya I was there at PRISM (back in the day), my wife is not the shy, timid type, plus she was in her 30s also which changes things too.  But I was there just the same, sat around outside BS-ing with the guard.  

Does she have her CFO-GCP certificate from attending the seminar?  Just read in your other posting she does not have the certificate.     
 
Not sure if she can attend another CFO once she is in the computer at a different one.       
 
Your fiancee needs to "leave shy at the curb" when at CFO.
 
She can get the sticker at any CFO office if she has her certificate.   
 
 
 
This is the person in charge of CFO (^^ her boss)
 
MA. JANINE ERIKA B. EUSEBIO
Migrant Integration & Education Division
COMMISSION ON FILIPINOS OVERSEAS
Tel No: (02) 552-4759
 
jeusebio@cfo.gov.ph
 
 
 
 

Shy people can be surprisingly assertive when they need to be.