Going through

To me, there's a huge difference between (what could be termed as) a-one-time-slap and being threatened bodily harm/death with a knife.
 
Lots of times abusers make amends with flowers the next day and then all is hunky-dory until the next time something occurs.  That's how the cycle of abuse continues---usually accompanying the abused victim then defending the abuser's actions, believing it's part of a normal relationship, etc.
 
Here's the thing, though, that happens quite commonly in abusive situations....it rarely stops at "just one time".  And it always, always, escalates.
 
The knife-wielding incident that took place with your friend?  For all you know, this wasn't the first time something occurred between those two...it just may have been the first time she told you about something that happened.  
 
 

I know of countries where such things as machismo attitudes abound...where the man is the head of the household, and the woman is generally the subservient, etc. 
 
I know of no countries where threatening a spouse with a knife is a common occurrence in everyday marriage.
 
My parents came from a country where domestic violence laws weren't even created until the early 1980s.
 
As for the part of your post about making amends and the violent spouse learning their lesson through counselling, and whether members agree with that stance?---
 
I believe in forgiveness, and I believe that people can change certain behaviours.  But I also believe that there are other certain behaviors which are prone to escalate, not diminish, over time.
 
Call me harsh, but as much as I can love a person?  Even the father of my children?  There's no going back from that.  And I'm not putting myself---or any children---in a situation where it might happen again, or worse.  No promises in the world from someone who did that to me once is going to make me believe something won't happen again.  This time she was lucky.  Next time he might fly in a rage and beat her up.  Next time his mind may be in a place where she won't even see it coming and he slits her throat while she's sleeping.  
 
It only takes one time for someone to threaten me with a knife for me to realize the relationship is over completely.  But that's just my view on it.
 

I know of countries where such things as machismo attitudes abound...where the man is the head of the household, and the woman is generally the subservient, etc. 
 
I know of no countries where threatening a spouse with a knife is a common occurrence in everyday marriage.
 
My parents came from a country where domestic violence laws weren't even created until the early 1980s.
 
As for the part of your post about making amends and the violent spouse learning their lesson through counselling, and whether members agree with that stance?---
 
I believe in forgiveness, and I believe that people can change certain behaviours.  But I also believe that there are other certain behaviors which are prone to escalate, not diminish, over time.
 
Call me harsh, but as much as I can love a person?  Even the father of my children?  There's no going back from that.  And I'm not putting myself---or any children---in a situation where it might happen again, or worse.  No promises in the world from someone who did that to me once is going to make me believe something won't happen again.  This time she was lucky.  Next time he might fly in a rage and beat her up.  Next time his mind may be in a place where she won't even see it coming and he slits her throat while she's sleeping.  
 
It only takes one time for someone to threaten me with a knife for me to realize the relationship is over completely.  But that's just my view on it.
 

I know of countries where such things as machismo attitudes abound...where the man is the head of the household, and the woman is generally the subservient, etc. 
 
I know of no countries where threatening a spouse with a knife is a common occurrence in everyday marriage.
 
My parents came from a country where domestic violence laws weren't even created until the early 1980s.
 
As for the part of your post about making amends and the violent spouse learning their lesson through counselling, and whether members agree with that stance?---
 
I believe in forgiveness, and I believe that people can change certain behaviours.  But I also believe that there are other certain behaviors which are prone to escalate, not diminish, over time.
 
Call me harsh, but as much as I can love a person?  Even the father of my children?  There's no going back from that.  And I'm not putting myself---or any children---in a situation where it might happen again, or worse.  No promises in the world from someone who did that to me once is going to make me believe something won't happen again.  This time she was lucky.  Next time he might fly in a rage and beat her up.  Next time his mind may be in a place where she won't even see it coming and he slits her throat while she's sleeping.  
 
It only takes one time for someone to threaten me with a knife for me to realize the relationship is over completely.  But that's just my view on it.
 

I know of countries where such things as machismo attitudes abound...where the man is the head of the household, and the woman is generally the subservient, etc. 
 
I know of no countries where threatening a spouse with a knife is a common occurrence in everyday marriage.
 
My parents came from a country where domestic violence laws weren't even created until the early 1980s.
 
As for the part of your post about making amends and the violent spouse learning their lesson through counselling, and whether members agree with that stance?---
 
I believe in forgiveness, and I believe that people can change certain behaviours.  But I also believe that there are other certain behaviors which are prone to escalate, not diminish, over time.
 
Call me harsh, but as much as I can love a person?  Even the father of my children?  There's no going back from that.  And I'm not putting myself---or any children---in a situation where it might happen again, or worse.  No promises in the world from someone who did that to me once is going to make me believe something won't happen again.  This time she was lucky.  Next time he might fly in a rage and beat her up.  Next time his mind may be in a place where she won't even see it coming and he slits her throat while she's sleeping.  
 
It only takes one time for someone to threaten me with a knife for me to realize the relationship is over completely.  But that's just my view on it.
 

I know of countries where such things as machismo attitudes abound...where the man is the head of the household, and the woman is generally the subservient, etc. 
 
I know of no countries where threatening a spouse with a knife is a common occurrence in everyday marriage.
 
My parents came from a country where domestic violence laws weren't even created until the early 1980s.
 
As for the part of your post about making amends and the violent spouse learning their lesson through counselling, and whether members agree with that stance?---
 
I believe in forgiveness, and I believe that people can change certain behaviours.  But I also believe that there are other certain behaviors which are prone to escalate, not diminish, over time.
 
Call me harsh, but as much as I can love a person?  Even the father of my children?  There's no going back from that.  And I'm not putting myself---or any children---in a situation where it might happen again, or worse.  No promises in the world from someone who did that to me once is going to make me believe something won't happen again.  This time she was lucky.  Next time he might fly in a rage and beat her up.  Next time his mind may be in a place where she won't even see it coming and he slits her throat while she's sleeping.  
 
It only takes one time for someone to threaten me with a knife for me to realize the relationship is over completely.  But that's just my view on it.
 

I know of countries where such things as machismo attitudes abound...where the man is the head of the household, and the woman is generally the subservient, etc. 
 
I know of no countries where threatening a spouse with a knife is a common occurrence in everyday marriage.
 
My parents came from a country where domestic violence laws weren't even created until the early 1980s.
 
As for the part of your post about making amends and the violent spouse learning their lesson through counselling, and whether members agree with that stance?---
 
I believe in forgiveness, and I believe that people can change certain behaviours.  But I also believe that there are other certain behaviors which are prone to escalate, not diminish, over time.
 
Call me harsh, but as much as I can love a person?  Even the father of my children?  There's no going back from that.  And I'm not putting myself---or any children---in a situation where it might happen again, or worse.  No promises in the world from someone who did that to me once is going to make me believe something won't happen again.  This time she was lucky.  Next time he might fly in a rage and beat her up.  Next time his mind may be in a place where she won't even see it coming and he slits her throat while she's sleeping.  
 
It only takes one time for someone to threaten me with a knife for me to realize the relationship is over completely.  But that's just my view on it.
 

I know of countries where such things as machismo attitudes abound...where the man is the head of the household, and the woman is generally the subservient, etc. 
 
I know of no countries where threatening a spouse with a knife is a common occurrence in everyday marriage.
 
My parents came from a country where domestic violence laws weren't even created until the early 1980s.
 
As for the part of your post about making amends and the violent spouse learning their lesson through counselling, and whether members agree with that stance?---
 
I believe in forgiveness, and I believe that people can change certain behaviours.  But I also believe that there are other certain behaviors which are prone to escalate, not diminish, over time.
 
Call me harsh, but as much as I can love a person?  Even the father of my children?  There's no going back from that.  And I'm not putting myself---or any children---in a situation where it might happen again, or worse.  No promises in the world from someone who did that to me once is going to make me believe something won't happen again.  This time she was lucky.  Next time he might fly in a rage and beat her up.  Next time his mind may be in a place where she won't even see it coming and he slits her throat while she's sleeping.  
 
It only takes one time for someone to threaten me with a knife for me to realize the relationship is over completely.  But that's just my view on it.
 

I know of countries where such things as machismo attitudes abound...where the man is the head of the household, and the woman is generally the subservient, etc. 
 
I know of no countries where threatening a spouse with a knife is a common occurrence in everyday marriage.
 
My parents came from a country where domestic violence laws weren't even created until the early 1980s.
 
As for the part of your post about making amends and the violent spouse learning their lesson through counselling, and whether members agree with that stance?---
 
I believe in forgiveness, and I believe that people can change certain behaviours.  But I also believe that there are other certain behaviors which are prone to escalate, not diminish, over time.
 
Call me harsh, but as much as I can love a person?  Even the father of my children?  There's no going back from that.  And I'm not putting myself---or any children---in a situation where it might happen again, or worse.  No promises in the world from someone who did that to me once is going to make me believe something won't happen again.  This time she was lucky.  Next time he might fly in a rage and beat her up.  Next time his mind may be in a place where she won't even see it coming and he slits her throat while she's sleeping.  
 
It only takes one time for someone to threaten me with a knife for me to realize the relationship is over completely.  But that's just my view on it.
 

Most of us on this site have done it without the assistance of a lawyer---why pay someone else when you still have to do all the leg-work yourself?
Also,  any questions about the form you can ask here.... and not be charged for getting an answer, either  

There really is no place to include anything of the sort in that there's no separate application/form to fill out on your end, nor a place to write any sort of explanation on the application form...since you have yet to file the i-751, you just check off the appropriate box under "waiver request" on the form.
 
USCIS does not care that you are getting divorced/are divorced, or care about why you are getting a divorce.  They only care that you can prove the marriage was entered into with bonafide intent.
 
Your i-751 can be filed with a divorce waiver request, however keep in  mind that it cannot be approved until the final divorce decree is submitted.
 
 

You don't need to prove any sort of abuse with a divorce waiver---this is what makes a divorce waiver easier.
 
With a divorce waiver, you only need to prove that the marriage was entered into with bonafide intent and you lived in marital union until the marriage broke down.  IF asked during your interview, you can explain to the IO why you separated quickly after getting the green card, but don't volunteer any of that info unless directly asked about it.
 
Generally, abuse waivers are harder to go ahead with than divorce waivers for the reasons geowrian mentioned earlier.

Presumably they remain in regular contact with each other, at the very least due to the child they share.  Possible she went ahead and told the ex-boyfriend/father of her child the when's and where's regarding her K1 at some point.  Why she would do so, we can only presume, if that indeed happened.
 
Often we see here on VJ that there's quite more to the story that a beneficiary might not be sharing with a petitioner when it comes to K1 denials.

Previous posts by OP show a few more realistic reasons for the denial.

There really is no place to include anything of the sort in that there's no separate application/form to fill out on your end, nor a place to write any sort of explanation on the application form...since you have yet to file the i-751, you just check off the appropriate box under "waiver request" on the form.
 
USCIS does not care that you are getting divorced/are divorced, or care about why you are getting a divorce.  They only care that you can prove the marriage was entered into with bonafide intent.
 
Your i-751 can be filed with a divorce waiver request, however keep in  mind that it cannot be approved until the final divorce decree is submitted.
 
 

Presumably they remain in regular contact with each other, at the very least due to the child they share.  Possible she went ahead and told the ex-boyfriend/father of her child the when's and where's regarding her K1 at some point.  Why she would do so, we can only presume, if that indeed happened.
 
Often we see here on VJ that there's quite more to the story that a beneficiary might not be sharing with a petitioner when it comes to K1 denials.

You don't need to prove any sort of abuse with a divorce waiver---this is what makes a divorce waiver easier.
 
With a divorce waiver, you only need to prove that the marriage was entered into with bonafide intent and you lived in marital union until the marriage broke down.  IF asked during your interview, you can explain to the IO why you separated quickly after getting the green card, but don't volunteer any of that info unless directly asked about it.
 
Generally, abuse waivers are harder to go ahead with than divorce waivers for the reasons geowrian mentioned earlier.

SB1 visa seems most appropriate to try for here.  He'll have to be able to prove that his time abroad was due to circumstances beyond his control preventing  him from returning to the US at any point over the last 8 years.  Success also hinges on how much he maintained US ties while away for that length of time.

Title of thread states "unemployed".

This is not a legal option.  As mentioned above, you cannot cross the border with intent to adjust status from within the US.
 
Same as above (non-legal option).  You can get married in the USA, but must return to Canada and wait out your processing time in Canada.  
 
 
There are three options for you to be together in the same country:
 
File the K1 fiancee visa while you remain in Canada---once the visa is approved you can then enter and marry in the US.   You will not be able to leave the country without AP, nor will you be able to work in the US until authorized (which can take several months).   After marrying within 90 days of entry, you would apply to adjust status (perhaps a year or so for processing) and be a legal permanent resident.
 
or
 
Your fiancee travels to Canada and marries you there.  You remain in Canada and your new spouse files the CR-1 spouse visa.  You are able to visit (pending CBP admittance each time) while you wait for your visa to be processed/approved.   Upon entry into the US you are a legal permanent resident with the immediate authorization to work/travel outside of the US. 
 
or
 
Your fiancee/spouse moves to live in Canada with you.
 

This is not a legal option.  As mentioned above, you cannot cross the border with intent to adjust status from within the US.
 
Same as above (non-legal option).  You can get married in the USA, but must return to Canada and wait out your processing time in Canada.  
 
 
There are three options for you to be together in the same country:
 
File the K1 fiancee visa while you remain in Canada---once the visa is approved you can then enter and marry in the US.   You will not be able to leave the country without AP, nor will you be able to work in the US until authorized (which can take several months).   After marrying within 90 days of entry, you would apply to adjust status (perhaps a year or so for processing) and be a legal permanent resident.
 
or
 
Your fiancee travels to Canada and marries you there.  You remain in Canada and your new spouse files the CR-1 spouse visa.  You are able to visit (pending CBP admittance each time) while you wait for your visa to be processed/approved.   Upon entry into the US you are a legal permanent resident with the immediate authorization to work/travel outside of the US. 
 
or
 
Your fiancee/spouse moves to live in Canada with you.
 

This is not a legal option.  As mentioned above, you cannot cross the border with intent to adjust status from within the US.
 
Same as above (non-legal option).  You can get married in the USA, but must return to Canada and wait out your processing time in Canada.  
 
 
There are three options for you to be together in the same country:
 
File the K1 fiancee visa while you remain in Canada---once the visa is approved you can then enter and marry in the US.   You will not be able to leave the country without AP, nor will you be able to work in the US until authorized (which can take several months).   After marrying within 90 days of entry, you would apply to adjust status (perhaps a year or so for processing) and be a legal permanent resident.
 
or
 
Your fiancee travels to Canada and marries you there.  You remain in Canada and your new spouse files the CR-1 spouse visa.  You are able to visit (pending CBP admittance each time) while you wait for your visa to be processed/approved.   Upon entry into the US you are a legal permanent resident with the immediate authorization to work/travel outside of the US. 
 
or
 
Your fiancee/spouse moves to live in Canada with you.
 

Section 212(a)(6)(C)(i) of the Immigration & Nationality Act (INA) states that foreign nationals, who by fraud or willfully misrepresenting a material fact, seek to procure (or have sought to procure or have procured) a visa, other documentation, or admission into the United States or other immigration benefit are inadmissible. 
 
He is completely toast. There is nothing he can do. When he appears for the interview this time, they will ask him for proof that his "previous marriage" was terminated. If he cannot produce the divorce papers (which is nonexistent because there was no marriage), he will not be granted a visa because he could not produce proof that he was "free to marry" "the second time". If he admits to lying on the B1/2 application, even though he did not get the visa (have sought to procure the visa is enough), he will be found inadmissible under 212a6c1, which carries a lifetime ban from entering the US. 
 
There is technically a waiver for that. That will involves his wife being able to prove that his absence in the US will cause her extreme physical or emotional hardship, which is very hard to do. Anyway, he has long long road ahead.  

It's normal to worry.  Every part of the immigration process can be stressful even for those with the most straightforward applications  

Its called prosecutorial discretion. You can google it for more info but basically its when they decide to not pursue your case but you are required to check in with them periodically. You can get this PD while your case is pending (no final decision for removal yet) or even after a final decision for removal has been made. 
 
From what you posted it seems the husband had a GC based on his first marriage and the DV charge caused him to get put in the immigration court system for removal (DV is a removable offense) It seems ICE decided (based on his new and improved character via the church) to not pursue his removal case and have him check in yearly and the Judge OK'd that. It seems they are anticipating ICE eventually agreeing to drop the case entirely (which they can) and him being able to apply for citizenship once he passes the 5yr mark if he hasnt already. His DV incident would also need to be past the 5yr mark to not be considered for GMC requirements.