Possible abandonment of marriage

[Beth & Achraf 328]

On ‎10‎/‎4‎/‎2021 at 1:34 PM, ImagineMe said:

She isn't friends with anyone that I talk to currently. That's what made me wonder why she would never ask me or let me come with her to those "dinners" or hangouts. But I always give someone their space. I just expect people to reciprocate and she never did. So the writing was on the wall. 

I'm really sorry this happened to you.

Sounds like some signs were there, but you trusted,   like we all do , and get hurt.

 

 

 

 

[JeneferAndJohn 1]

One thing I did before proposing was ask my GF if she would rather live in the USA or the Philippines. She said "either one as long as we are together" and later said she is curious about the USA but if she were forced to choose she would stay in the Phil's.

 

I felt confident she had no bad intentions based on our conversations BEFORE I proposed to her.

 

Good luck.

[Redro 4,601]

11 hours ago, JeneferAndJohn said:

One thing I did before proposing was ask my GF if she would rather live in the USA or the Philippines. She said "either one as long as we are together" and later said she is curious about the USA but if she were forced to choose she would stay in the Phil's.

 

I felt confident she had no bad intentions based on our conversations BEFORE I proposed to her.

 

Good luck.

Not to sound cynical but, I know a few people who are super interested in moving to the States and play the long game and state they have no interest in living in the States/ spin the "as long as we're together I'll be happy" line. Did you/she ever investigate what it would take for you to move to the Phils or was it only ever an academic exercise?

 

The truth is if you are marrying someone you've only ever been with for short amounts of time whilst on vacation, you'll never know their true intentions/ what they're like in day to day life until you live with them. And then if the marriage does break down after a year or two you might assume the beneficiary only used you for Green Card. But it could just be the natural breakdown of a relationship after a highly stressful immigration experience (because moving countries is definitely stressful). It's great to feel like you "did it right" but deciding to marry some from another culture and country comes with difficulties you don't encounter when marrying someone from the same country.

 

@ImagineMe it sounds like you and your wife are in a very stressful situation right now. If you haven't already I would file a missing person's report. She might be having a mental health breakdown and if you still care for her, you'll know you did all you could to save the relationship. 

Edited October 11, 2021 by Kor2USA

[ImagineMe 35]

Yeah she definitely isn't missing as she responded to the email my lawyer sent her with a lawyer of her own. She just isn't communicating which is unfortunate. I don't know her plans but I'm doing my own from here on out. It's likely we will be selling the house we bought together, so I'm packing non essential stuff in preparation. 

[Redro 4,601]

2 minutes ago, ImagineMe said:

Yeah she definitely isn't missing as she responded to the email my lawyer sent her with a lawyer of her own. She just isn't communicating which is unfortunate. I don't know her plans but I'm doing my own from here on out. It's likely we will be selling the house we bought together, so I'm packing non essential stuff in preparation. 

I'm sorry this is happening to you. So stressful.

But, it's good to know she is communicating with you even if it is only through lawyers. 

Wishing you strength, a quick sale on your house and a pain free divorce. 

[Mer18 0]

@ImagineMe to get the I-94 you need her new passport information and honestly im not surprised about this situation since china is in the top 10 of countries of high marriage fraud to get greencard, sorry this happened to you.

But if he has the temporary green card or the 10 year green card you definitely has to call USCIS because if you dont call when you report taxes you will have to do it as married and remember that when I file the affidavit of support you are responsible for this person for 10 years or until they become citizen, so yeah YOU HAVE TO LET THEM KNOW. 

[Rocio0010 5,569]

14 minutes ago, Mer18 said:

call when you report taxes you will have to do it as married

My understanding is that he’ll file as “married filing separately “ until he has the divorce decree. Then he can file as single.

 

15 minutes ago, Mer18 said:

so yeah YOU HAVE TO LET THEM KNOW. 

He doesn’t need to contact USCIS. Divorce doesn’t end the affidavit responsibilities .

When she files for ROC, she’ll say they are divorced and she’ll have to mail the divorce decree. That’s how USCIS will know.

[ImagineMe 35]

The ROC was filed Nov 2020 and she did her biometrics a month ago. So I'm just waiting to see if they schedule an interview or just send her card. Also waiting to see if I find out what she plans on doing whether it's staying or going back where she was living before  which was in South Korea where her sister is currently. Plus they still own a home there. Not worried about the I94 anymore since I know where she is generally. I had the GPS on her car through the investigator and retrieved it.

Edited October 11, 2021 by ImagineMe
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[Rocio0010 5,569]

10 minutes ago, ImagineMe said:

The ROC was filed Nov 2020 and she did her biometrics a month ago. So I'm just waiting to see if they schedule an interview or just send her card. Also waiting to see if I find out what she plans on doing whether it's staying or going back where she was living before  which was in South Korea where her sister is currently. Plus they still own a home there. Not worried about the I94 anymore since I know where she is generally. I had the GPS on her car through the investigator and retrieved it.

If they schedule an interview and she never told them you were divorced , she is going to get denied because if you file jointly, the two of you are excepted to show up for the interview. 
On a personal note, I wouldn’t even bother retrieving her gps. It sounds a little intrusive and for better or worse, she had decided to move on.

[ImagineMe 35]

Just now, ra0010 said:

If they schedule an interview and she never told them you were divorced , she is going to get denied because if you file jointly, the two of you are excepted to show up for the interview. 
On a personal note, I wouldn’t even bother retrieving her gps. It sounds a little intrusive and for better or worse, she had decided to move on.

I had already retrieved it because I had all the evidence I needed to make my decision. I want to use it on my own vehicle in case it ever gets stolen and I can recover it. 

[Mer18 0]

You both have to go to ROC interview 

[Rocio0010 5,569]

Just now, Mer18 said:

You both have to go to ROC interview 

Not necessarily. If they are divorced she can go to the interview by herself, provided she has submitted the divorce decree.

[Redro 4,601]

22 minutes ago, ra0010 said:

Not necessarily. If they are divorced she can go to the interview by herself, provided she has submitted the divorce decree.

As long as the divorce is finalized by the time the interview arrives she should able to ROC with sufficient marital evidence. 

If the divorce is not finalized, ROC could be refused. 

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[MateR 68]

Just sent you a PM - figured better not to post it here.