Why Upset Over AOS Wait?

[TriloByte 1,818]

I’m new to the AOS game so maybe I’m missing something when I see people upset about having to wait on USCIS for AOS. Maybe it’s the fact that my wife doesn’t plan on working or leaving the US that makes us not care how long USCIS takes?

 

I would like to know why people seem to be upset that AOStakes a long time? I cared how long the K1 process took because I was separated from my Love, but for AOS I don’t care at all how long AOS takes because we are together. Should I care? Is there something I am missing that would make me care? When I see people seemingly upset over the wait I get paranoid that I am missing something.

Edited October 15, 2017 by TriloByte

[KULtoATL 1,551]

I'm guessing it's because AOS-ers are in a limbo. They don't have a proper legal status i.e. LPR other than just a NOA1 to prove their AOS application is pending. Not having a proper LPR status makes it hard to get a lot of things done maybe?

[Roel 7,191]

Because people can't wait for their green cards so they can take full advantage of being a legal resident? Work? School? Bank account? Some States require a green card for a driving license. Also most of spouses actually want to work. 

[Marcelina 246]

Exept info above I think GC as a proof of your legal stay in states gives you a sense of security.. I would like to have mine right away. After permanently entering states there is so many formalities ppl have to deal with.. adding a stress of awaiting for GC for such a long time! I can fully understand others impatience regarding this topic

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53 minutes ago, TriloByte said:

I’m new to the AOS game so maybe I’m missing something when I see people upset about having to wait on USCIS for AOS. Maybe it’s the fact that my wife doesn’t plan on working or leaving the US that makes us not care how long USCIS takes?

 

I would like to know why people seem to be upset that AOStakes a long time? I cared how long the K1 process took because I was separated from my Love, but for AOS I don’t care at all how long AOS takes because we are together. Should I care? Is there something I am missing that would make me care? When I see people seemingly upset over the wait I get paranoid that I am missing something.

Don't get offended but that is a very narrow minded question. You are questioning things that are important to other people that you admit is not important to you.

 

Your fiancé being with you right away was your goal. That is fine. Others want their significant others to also feel like the are contributing to their home and to society by becoming a legal permanent resident.

 

It is ignorant to be like, "I didn't  need my fiancé to have status right away, so I don't see why everyone else is so determined to have it."

 

In closing, and at the risk of being edited by the mods, this is a wasted thread.

 

 

 

[TriloByte 1,818]

13 minutes ago, NuestraUnion said:

Don't get offended but that is a very narrow minded question. You are questioning things that are important to other people that you admit is not important to you.

 

Your fiancé being with you right away was your goal. That is fine. Others want their significant others to also feel like the are contributing to their home and to society by becoming a legal permanent resident.

 

It is ignorant to be like, "I didn't  need my fiancé to have status right away, so I don't see why everyone else is so determined to have it."

 

In closing, and at the risk of being edited by the mods, this is a wasted thread.

 

 

 

Then you need to learn to read and understand intent. I thought it was obvious, but since it was not, I will spell it out. I asked because I was concerned that there might be real risks associated with this phase of the process, that I was missing, like getting deported. The frown emoticons, etc, lead me here, with this question. This is a family based immigration thread which means that the primary intent is being united with a loved one. I am in no way trying to discredit a person wanting to go to school, work, etc. I am simply trying to determine if I am missing something critical that would result in us being separated. If you took what I said to mean something else then you are wrong.

Edited October 15, 2017 by TriloByte

[sparkles_ 456]

Some of us had higher plans for our partners, as did they themselves besides being able to just look at each other on the daily. Not that this isn't great, but still. I know my spouse was stuck in 2 years of standstill during his AOS and was unable to persue education in the states for example, something that greatly upset us both. Some states and cities are less than accommodating to giving driver licenses to those with just and EAD....one would only have to search VJ for a mountain of those threads. The immigrant living in one year incriments is also nerve racking, for both parties usually. Icould name more but I digress. 

Edited October 15, 2017 by sparkles_

[sparkles_ 456]

7 minutes ago, TriloByte said:

Then you need to learn to read and understand intent. I thought it was obvious, but since it was not, I will spell it out. I asked because I was concerned that there might be real risks associated with this phase of the process, that I was missing, like getting deported. The frown emoticons, etc, lead me here, with this question. This is a family based immigration thread which means that the primary intent is being united with a loved one. I am in no way trying to discredit a person wanting to go to school, work, etc. 

Well, it's also enough to grind someone's gears when their AOS has been pending almost a year, and you see a few token people being done in 4mo (no hate, those 4mo folks are so lucky). Kind of a feel good thing to come together and commiserate, wallow and complain among others who get it. 

Edited October 15, 2017 by sparkles_

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3 minutes ago, TriloByte said:

Then you need to learn to read and understand intent. I thought it was obvious, but since it was not, I will spell it out. I asked because I was concerned that there might be real risks associated with this phase of the process, that I was missing, like getting deported. The frown emoticons, etc, lead me here, with this question. This is a family based immigration thread which means that the primary intent is being united with a loved one. I am in no way trying to discredit a person wanting to go to school, work, etc. 

Primary intent is bing united with a loved one THE LEGAL WAY. Not worth being together if there is an uncertainty of having a legal status.

 

We constantly see post of people doing things the wrong way. We try to steer them the right way. Also, AOS can be denied. That sucks also. We've seen people have family emergencies back home and had to leave and abandon their AOS. There is always a risk in this process. 

 

By by the way. What you "intended" and how your post actually came off are two different things. Like you said in your own words, maybe you are missing something.

[TriloByte 1,818]

4 minutes ago, sparkles_ said:

Well, it's also enough to grind someone's gears when their AOS has been pending almost a year, and you see a few token people being done in 4mo (no hate, those 4mo folks are so lucky). Kind of a feel good thing to come together and commiserate, wallow and complain among others who get it. 

I get that. That’s why I clarified that IMO these (school, work,etc) are all legitimate concerns. However, I asked the question because of legitimate concerns I have and I see no reason why this would be considered a “wasted thread”, etc.  This thread was about me, which in no way implies that I think another’s concern is invalid.

 

The government bureaucracies suck plain and simple. 

[TriloByte 1,818]

1 minute ago, NuestraUnion said:

Primary intent is bing united with a loved one THE LEGAL WAY. Not worth being together if there is an uncertainty of having a legal status.

 

We constantly see post of people doing things the wrong way. We try to steer them the right way. Also, AOS can be denied. That sucks also. We've seen people have family emergencies back home and had to leave and abandon their AOS. There is always a risk in this process. 

 

By by the way. What you "intended" and how your post actually came off are two different things. Like you said in your own words, maybe you are missing something.

I asked an open ended question trying to gather any information about things that might affect  me, nothing more.

 

I would say that how it came across depends on the person reading. You took it personally, it seems. 

[sparkles_ 456]

13 minutes ago, TriloByte said:

I get that. That’s why I clarified that IMO these (school, work,etc) are all legitimate concerns. However, I asked the question because of legitimate concerns I have and I see no reason why this would be considered a “wasted thread”, etc.  This thread was about me, which in no way implies that I think another’s concern is invalid.

 

The government bureaucracies suck plain and simple. 

Concerns about deportation, no, because the immigrant is in what is termed stay authorized by the attorney general. Can that stay make major headaches for some other things like driving, buying a car, leasing a home, etc? You better believe it, especially if you're living in a smaller city where they have never dealt with an EAD. Example, it took my husband over 6mo and going an hour away to a major city to finally get our state DMV to give him a driver license, despite being entitled to it from day one with the pending AOS paperwork as per calling the state capital. 

 

What may be enough to grind my and my spouse's gears about the process might be trivial to you and your spouse and vice versa, because everyone's plans for married life and family reunification differ

 

Edited October 15, 2017 by sparkles_
using mobile not PC, typos!

[TriloByte 1,818]

5 minutes ago, sparkles_ said:

Concerns about deportation, no, because the immigrant is in what is termed stay authorized by the attorney general. Can that stay make major headaches for some other things like driving, buying a car, leasing a home, etc? You better believe it, especially if you're living in a smaller city where they have never dealt with an EAD. Example, it took my husband over 6mo and going an hour away to a major city to finally get our state DMV to give him a driver license, despite being entitled to it from day one with the pending AOS paperwork as per calling the state capital. 

 

What may be enough to grind my and my spouse's gears about the process might be trivial to you and your spouse and vice versa, because everyone's plans for married life and family reunification differ.

 

 

I got all of this before I posted, about others wanting to work, drive, etc, all legit concerns for some. I am in no way saying it’s trivial for others, even though it is for us. Different strokes for different folks. I think I got the answer to my question, you guessed it, deportation.Thanks ☺️

Edited October 15, 2017 by TriloByte

[Wuozopo 4,285]

I knew what you meant TriloByte and I felt the same way. I had EAD, AP, and a driver license so didn't hover over the greencard. I just got on with everyday life and didn't check status  or join a 'how much longer?' thread.  I was confident it would come so didn't worry or get angry about it. Everybody is different.

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22 minutes ago, TriloByte said:

I asked an open ended question trying to gather any information about things that might affect  me, nothing more.

 

I would say that how it came across depends on the person reading. You took it personally, it seems. 

Nope. Not at all.