For those who closed the distance, what did you do to make your partner feel more at home?

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

1 hour ago, JJGussiaas (Gush) said:

We also bring back products from Nica when we go down there that we can't find in Bismarck. I have also just mastered the art of making Nicaraguan-style tortillas so I can check off one thing on my growing list of Central American food I need to learn how to make.

 

share the receipe !!!

[YecaCruz 375]

23 minutes ago, Randyandyuni said:

share the receipe !!!

If you mean it here it is: Maseca corn flour, salt, and water.  Ratio of about 1:1 with flour and water. between 1/4 teaspoon for each 1 cup of flour. Add flour little at a time if it sticks to your hands too easily or too much. med-hi to mostly high heat on the stove. My secret is using plastic bags from grocery stores when I press them out as they still stuck to parchment paper. Nica tortillas are thicker so I never have to worry if they aren't thin enough like you would see in stores. Then I put them on the heat. after a couple of times of flipping them I press them down until parts in the middle start to rise. Then I know its done.

 

Enjoy with a chunk of guajada cheese, gallo pinto and some juevos! Maybe some fried plantain strips (tajadas) if you want some crunch!

Edited June 15, 2017 by JJGussiaas (Gush)

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

sounds good, yes I did mean it, thanks so much

 

[mallafri76 1,012]

On 6/14/2017 at 5:29 PM, CaptNaimerica said:

Yes, my fiance is from England and is worrying about her dairy milk chocolate, whatever that is... I am making a list of things like this she mentions so I can find shops that sell things she'll miss. I am making sure I am learning how to prepare some classic British dishes, from bacon butties to more advanced dishes

Tell her she can find both Dairy Milk Chocolate, Hobnobs and PG Tips in the supermarket. 

 

I lived in the U.K. for about six years and it's such a great country. I feel from British than Swedish. 😃 I buy most of my British food, tea and candy on www.englishteastore.com.

 

If you want to surprise her and make her feel at home, maybe buy her some things from there.  And remember tea and biscuit time around 3 pm. 😊

[mindthegap 2,541]

On 6/14/2017 at 6:29 PM, CaptNaimerica said:

Yes, my fiance is from England and is worrying about her dairy milk chocolate, whatever that is... I am making a list of things like this she mentions so I can find shops that sell things she'll miss. I am making sure I am learning how to prepare some classic British dishes, from bacon butties to more advanced dishes

Not sure where you are in Brooklyn, but Java Joe in Park Slope (7th ave / 8th st) sells PROPER cadburys and other UK chocolate and biscuits. There are of course plenty of other places in the city that sell it, and some websites.

 

She may well be excited to see US cadburys in CVS/wherever, but trust me, it is NOT the same. And for gods sake, steer clear of the US cadburys creme eggs...

 

Oh, and good luck finding proper bacon here...

Edited June 16, 2017 by mindthegap

[Russ&Caro 1,548]

On 6/15/2017 at 7:34 AM, JJGussiaas (Gush) said:

We also bring back products from Nica when we go down there that we can't find in Bismarck. I have also just mastered the art of making Nicaraguan-style tortillas so I can check off one thing on my growing list of Central American food I need to learn how to make.

 

Wow! Nicaragua to North Dakota. Best of luck to you both as he adapts.

[KatieAndNaimah 108]

5 hours ago, mindthegap said:

Not sure where you are in Brooklyn, but Java Joe in Park Slope (7th ave / 8th st) sells PROPER cadburys and other UK chocolate and biscuits. There are of course plenty of other places in the city that sell it, and some websites.

 

She may well be excited to see US cadburys in CVS/wherever, but trust me, it is NOT the same. And for gods sake, steer clear of the US cadburys creme eggs...

 

Oh, and good luck finding proper bacon here...

Thank you so much!! That is great to know about the chocolate, I am in BedStuy but don't mind a little travel to please the lady  

 

And yes, I am used to hearing about my "...streaky bacon..." so I will live do more investigating and let you know if I find anything!

[Lenchique 48]

Well after 5 moths of being here (and 4 months of marriage), my foreign fiancé-now-husband is adjusting well to the country. He attends English classes(Free) and got his drivers license. I had him make a "Meetup.com" account so he can start getting out regularly to meet native speakers and practice English. We went skiing a few times and still trying to find  social circles where he feels comfortable. I'm noticing he likes to hang out with other native Russian-speakers (his native tongue) but the English classes have improved his English tremendously so he can converse a lot more with Americans. 

[Lenchique 48]

On 6/16/2017 at 9:08 AM, Russ&Caro said:

Wow! Nicaragua to North Dakota. Best of luck to you both as he adapts.

Bring himto the Twon Cities to check out some of the Hispanic local scene. Familiarity of home will

be comforting. 

[Pat&Vince 97]

It's all about the little (and big things).   :-)

 

My gorgeous husband spent the last two weeks in my country with me and my family, spent two days in Paris then flew together to the US.

We me lost space, bought clothes containers/drawers, took possession of precious space and drawers in the bathroom, got a charging station on my side of the bed...

I was a given a brand new MacBook Pro, we quickly went to AT&T to get me a 415 phone number.

Referring me to a good doctor, a dentist, a barber (we share the same people).

Sharing all the bank stuff (transferring funds form BE to the US) and having my name added (though this takes a little while because of the SSN and GC being requested by the bank).

Sharing access to a bunch of things and just being a team rather than 2 individuals, while keeping our space and time when it's needed.

 

I couldn't feel better "at home". We're still waiting on some shipped stuff that needs to arrive here and then it'll be complete.

The next step will be finding our next place together, but so far I couldn't be happier about how smoothly things are going. Communication is key!

[10_Neisha 7]

On 6/14/2017 at 7:30 PM, Scandi said:

My husband (the USC) added me to his bank account and gave me a card to that account instead on his own accord, made me really feel like it was "us" and not just "you" and "me". Pocket money like what you described wouldn't have worked at all for me. That would've made me feel excluded and like "oh so I only get some pocket money and you don't trust me to share your account with me?". Glad we all think and feel differently. 

 

My hubby works from home and can choose when to work as he's his own boss, so there were many things we could do because of that. Some of the things he did for me (and still does):

 

-First off, he went to Sweden just to "pick me up and bring me home" once I was ready to move, I LOVED not having to travel alone that time. I could also fill his checkin bags with my stuff so it was perfect. ♡

-Many roadtrips so I got to see and got to know the area

-Went to museums

-Went to all kinds of restaurants so I could find my own personal favorites where he now takes me at least twice a month

-Bought me a huge TV (he never watches tv so he never had one before)

-Let me buy a whole bunch of things for the house to make me feel more at home

-Let me re-arrange furniture in the house the way I wanted them

-Took me to the Scandinavian shops in the area so I could get food and candy I was missing from home

-Went to baseball games (So much fun!)

-Sea World and the zoo of course (we were living in San Diego at the time so it was close by)

-Bought me all kinds of different brands of deodorant, schampoo, conditioner etc so I could try them and find my favorites, so cute!

-Helped me making phone calls when I didn't feel brave enough

-Drove me everywhere I wanted/needed to go

-Helped me find info about all kinds of things (how to get a SSN, state ID, new passport, and everything that comes along with this process)

-Took me to parks around SD and LA (I wasn't used to living in a big city, the parks and nature in general helped a lot)

-Took me to a dog rescue where we adopted the cutest dog together

-Helped me lose a sh*itload of weight, so grateful since I didn't have the discipline to do it on my own. ♡

-Got me little gifts he knew I missed from home (doing jigsaw puzzles for instance, major stress-reliever for me)

-Talked to my parents on Skype together with me at least once a week, he knows how important the relationship I have with my parents is and he wants to be part of that for my sake, he knows it makes me happy

-Just over-all support regarding everything really, it's so amazing to have someone who helps and backs you up no matter what. I never felt alone for a second despite missing my family back home.

 

There are just so many things, he has been amazing. It's not just a difficult transition for the foreigner but also for the USC sometimes, he has done really well and I'm very, very proud of him. Thanks to him I haven't regretted my decision to leave my home country and my family for one second.

 

 

Awww this is so sweet! Your husband seems like a very considerate man! You're a lucky gal. I'm wondering how bad the home sickness is going to be for me! I can be really emotional at times which my fiance knows so I hope he's ready to deal with that when the time comes haha. I do like the Idea of a shared/ joint account especially for when I'm done with school and land a job and start making my own way. Funny though we never discussed that yet so maybe I will bring it up when we have a phone call tonight 😅 anyways seems like you are loving your new American life and I wish you the best! I hope to be there too right before this year is up! Xoxo

[Wuozopo 4,285]

10 hours ago, 10_Neisha said:

Awww this is so sweet! Your husband seems like a very considerate man! You're a lucky gal. I'm wondering how bad the home sickness is going to be for me! I can be really emotional at times which my fiance knows so I hope he's ready to deal with that when the time comes haha. I do like the Idea of a shared/ joint account especially for when I'm done with school and land a job and start making my own way. Funny though we never discussed that yet so maybe I will bring it up when we have a phone call tonight 😅 anyways seems like you are loving your new American life and I wish you the best! I hope to be there too right before this year is up! Xoxo

A joint account is great evidence for your immigration journey to show you commingle your finances. 

Note, I think I am the first person to mention "pocket money" which Scandi rejected as offensive. It was a joint account and I had my own debit card. The point was she would get double the amount of cash she needed and say "I got US some cash today" and hand $100 to me. It wasn't an allowance that had to last a certain amount of time. It was just the favor of picking up enough so we both had some cash for small things we didn't want to put on the credit card. In the early weeks, I may have felt odd asking for cash since I didn't bring a penny from the UK. 

[10_Neisha 7]

13 hours ago, Wuozopo said:

A joint account is great evidence for your immigration journey to show you commingle your finances. 

Note, I think I am the first person to mention "pocket money" which Scandi rejected as offensive. It was a joint account and I had my own debit card. The point was she would get double the amount of cash she needed and say "I got US some cash today" and hand $100 to me. It wasn't an allowance that had to last a certain amount of time. It was just the favor of picking up enough so we both had some cash for small things we didn't want to put on the credit card. In the early weeks, I may have felt odd asking for cash since I didn't bring a penny from the UK. 

Yeah exactly! Hopefully I'd have some sort of money of my own at that point to have with me when I arrive to the States cause I'm a really independant person and never liked the thought of having to ask for money though my fiance always makes sure I have everything I need & I'm sure I wouldn't have to ask for anything. I do look forward to starting school and landing my first job afterwards though! Hehe