Is this a shame?

[Dave & Mong 29]

I have been married to her for about 16 months. She is from Vietnam and I meet her through my neighbor, her cousin. She has had her green card since 11/15. Everything was fine except her parents always want money. I have caught her in a lie a couple of times for instance saying her father was very sick an at the hospital when in fact I just talked to him and he was home. In Feb. see went home to visit her family and wasn't the same, constantly saying she must work for her family. We have been sending a few hundred dollars a month but now she claims the need $1,000. I said I can only send $500 and she agreed. A few days later she disappeared, leaving the attached letter. I have only heard from her buy message, she will not do Facebook messenger or call. Her cousin said his mother was in Vietnam at the same time and someone agreed to give her parents money and my wife agreed to do work for this person to pay it back. She is thought to be around 30 minutes away. The note is what I came home to. O well to large to upload. But i did report her as missing to the police. How should I procede? She only took a few pieces of clothing and he wedding ring which she said she will wear anf left me the engagement ring. Said sorry, Ilove you and I will see you soon.

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

O man everyones worst fear!!!!! This happens so much its sick!!! Do an info pass and let them know she abandoned the marriage.

[Caykay1 71]

I have been married to her for about 16 months. She is from Vietnam and I meet her through my neighbor, her cousin. She has had her green card since 11/15. Everything was fine except her parents always want money. I have caught her in a lie a couple of times for instance saying her father was very sick an at the hospital when in fact I just talked to him and he was home. In Feb. see went home to visit her family and wasn't the same, constantly saying she must work for her family. We have been sending a few hundred dollars a month but now she claims the need $1,000. I said I can only send $500 and she agreed. A few days later she disappeared, leaving the attached letter. I have only heard from her buy message, she will not do Facebook messenger or call. Her cousin said his mother was in Vietnam at the same time and someone agreed to give her parents money and my wife agreed to do work for this person to pay it back. She is thought to be around 30 minutes away. The note is what I came home to. O well to large to upload. But i did report her as missing to the police. How should I procede? She only took a few pieces of clothing and he wedding ring which she said she will wear anf left me the engagement ring. Said sorry, Ilove you and I will see you soon.

It's obvious she came in the marriage for green card status only. She's not interested. Report everything to immigration and they will handle it. Situations like this makes me sick because I'm here trying hard to get my husband here and people lie and make us "real life situation" hard.

[zuluweta 250]

I suspect the neighbor/cousin to be involved somehow. Aiding and abetting the fraud.

[Dave & Mong 29]

Her cousin, my neighbor, seemed very reluctant to say where she may be, as if this person has influence. I was told that I did not hear that from him. He is up and up, seems.

Who do i report this to? USCIS?

[Unlockable 7,306]

I am confused.

Is she missing or did she leave you?

[Villanelle 4,121]

She left him. Left a note it seems explaining she was going home to work off money her parents borrowed.

This is not really considered marriage fraud but incompatibility of a couple to be honest. Her priority and it could be just her personally or it could be cultural but her priority is her parents not her husband. The OP has to decide if that is the kind of marriage he wants and deal with it accordingly. But there is nothing here in regards to fraud or USCIS really.

She has a GC and can come and go as she pleases.I dont know how you can report to the police your spouse went overseas to see her mom and didnt tell you and them caring. (?) If the OP wants to continue the marriage then ROC can be discussed but otherwise....

[Penguin_ie 5,986]

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[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

She left him. Left a note it seems explaining she was going home to work off money her parents borrowed.

This is not really considered marriage fraud but incompatibility of a couple to be honest. Her priority and it could be just her personally or it could be cultural but her priority is her parents not her husband. The OP has to decide if that is the kind of marriage he wants and deal with it accordingly. But there is nothing here in regards to fraud or USCIS really.

She has a GC and can come and go as she pleases.I dont know how you can report to the police your spouse went overseas to see her mom and didnt tell you and them caring. (?) If the OP wants to continue the marriage then ROC can be discussed but otherwise....

^^ This.

OP it is up to you to decide if you can live with a person that hides things and is not upfront with you.

You can give it another try when she comes back and tell her in no uncertain terms that this was the first and last time to be

disrespected like this and further more if she wants to send more money over than you are comfortable with then she has

to work for it with a job here and not in her country.

If it continues divorce and move on and let her deal with her immigration issues, it then would no longer concern you.

There is no need to inform USCIS with a marriage dispute. She has 'not really' abandoned you but informed you that she

loves you and will be back. There is no fraud, nothing to report. What she has done is disrespectful and plain stupid

but it's not fraud.

Give her a certain time to be back and if she refuses then move on without her and and change the locks.

[heo luoi 206]

Not a whole lot of information to go unfortunately. Maybe shes stuck in a rock /hard place. ...but I see hard to give her benefit of doubt.

But she didnt have to leave a letter at all if she was just going to bail....gl OP.

[Ontarkie 13,915]

I really hope the person that lent her parents money is not bad news.

She may be in over her head, I hope she is alright and nothing fishy or dangerous is going on.

Edited April 25, 2016 by Ontarkie

[san diego 407]

It's obvious she came in the marriage for green card status only. She's not interested. Report everything to immigration and they will handle it. Situations like this makes me sick because I'm here trying hard to get my husband here and people lie and make us "real life situation" hard.

I agree. However, your situation may be very similar. How do you know that it is not?

[IguanaCouple 26]

USCIS only cares if a marriage was entered in good faith; not if it was entered in 'mistaken good faith'. She expected OP to send more money to her parents; didn't happen and now she is out there working it off. God knows what she is having to do to work it off.

Not marriage fraud nothing to report.

She left to make money for her parents; it's up to the OP to decide whether he wants to work this out or get a divorce.

Edited April 25, 2016 by IguanaCouple

[CplusC86 22]

And some people are still angry because some countries are concidered high fraud and has a year in AP? I'm sorry to say but there's a legitimate reason behind it. These kinda things makes me so mad.

[Jawaree 717]

I think the lady got her GC she was seeking, theres no excuse on

her doing this...did you promise her a rose garden? seem like it

was well planned with the neighbor...$500 for her parents ...phew !!

that's some ppl here SS payments....what were you suppose to be

the Money-train...divorce & move on.

Why did you report her missing when she left you a bye bye letter

with fake reasons? She left you in that case..just hope shes alive

& well