Is this a shame?

[cyclone27 710]

Family obligations are big. One of the reasons you need to know what sort of family you are getting yourself into.

It sounds like your wife's family are not of good character.

[Caykay1 71]

I agree. However, your situation may be very similar. How do you know that it is not?

What do you mean? This isn't worth my energy

[MrsBonsu 138]

Mean while MENA countries are treated as high fraud countries?, I would divorce and move on, you don't what she's doing to make this money, would you want her coming back lying in bed with you? When don't know with who or where she's been? It's hard to understand people character but sometimes we must let go for our own sake

[Sandra G. 5,016]

Clearly she gets married because she wants to send money to her family,but what you are sending is not enough then she just left you and went to work to send money back home. She had everything planned before getting here, she just got wrong that you could give to her parents $1.000

Divorce and move on.

[Dave & Mong 29]

She is here in PA. The debt and her agreeing to do work to pay it back for her parents was set up while she was in Viet. I had no idea till she left and my neighbors mother who was also there returned, she told me of this. I found out she is at a nice nail salon about 1 hr. away from here. She didn't tell me for fear I would not allow this. She said in her note that she will wear her wedding ring and will leave me the engagement ring, which she did plus she left almost all her expensive jewlery. Almost all her clothing is here. Even her suitcase from her trip that I didn't put away yet. Yes, I understand her culture and dedication to parents. She also said she will return in a few months.

[Dave & Mong 29]

The husband and wife that owns the salon she is at are the ones that gave her parents the money. But my wife will not tell me where she is staying, nor will I go there and interfear with her deal. I guess time will tell, May 5th will be 2 months already.

[heo luoi 206]

So wow I can definitely seeing this as being more plausible now. She could simply be in over her head...a bit. Hopefully she can get out of this pseudo indentured servitude and will still want to come back. How long was her timetable?

SHe left all her stuff, but still withholds some details....hmm

Moreover can you get over it if shes clear this 'one time debt ' is paid off. What kinda of obligations does she have also or feel compelled to help parents w/ theres and will your $500 / mo still be ok then? If she comes back, there could be this cloud of ...hey i made xxxxx dollars working at that place

[Expat1 971]

If you know where she is you need to go check her welfare dude. Seriously?

[Ontarkie 13,918]

I'm pretty sure her parents did this on purpose to control her. She didn't give them the money they wanted so they threw a fit.

If she doesn't give them what they want the will borrow it from this person again and leave the debt to their daughter. She needs to make it crystal clear to her parents and this person that she will not pay back her parents debt after this.

If she does come back things like this need to be discussed.

Agree on an amount that you both can live with and she needs to put her foot down concerning money going to her parents.

[Unlockable 7,306]

There is so much wrong with the situation your wife is in. WOW!

Parents should NEVER place a burden like this on their children. The debt is between her parents and the store owner. Not your wife. There was no legal obligation for your wife to work off her parents debt. In fact, this is dangerously close to a type of slave trade.

Listen,

You made a vow to your wife and she to you. She no longer has an obligation to her parents. It is to you. Why do you think during a wedding it is called the father giving away the bride? He is placing her care and happiness in your hands.

I understand some cultures have such strong ties to their parents that it can be a burden. And if your wife can't live her own life and not for her parents you will have nothing but problems.

Edited April 25, 2016 by NuestraUnion

[Caryh 5,206]

Debt bondage is illegal in this country. I would look into the exact laws and throw it at these people who borrowed money to her parents and are forcing her to work to pay it off. Not so much that you will do something this time, but to let them know borrowing money to her parents will bring no obligation on your wife in the future.

Federal law defines “severe forms of trafficking in persons” as 1) sex trafficking in which a commercial sex act is induced by force, fraud, or coercion or in which the person induced to perform such an act is under 18; or 2) the recruitment, harboring, transportation, provision, or obtaining of a person for labor or services, through the use of force, fraud, or coercion, for the purpose of subjecting that person to involuntary servitude, forced labor, peonage, debt bondage, or slavery.¹

[andy78 178]

I suggest that you change the locks to your house.

I have been married to her for about 16 months. She is from Vietnam and I meet her through my neighbor, her cousin. She has had her green card since 11/15. Everything was fine except her parents always want money. I have caught her in a lie a couple of times for instance saying her father was very sick an at the hospital when in fact I just talked to him and he was home. In Feb. see went home to visit her family and wasn't the same, constantly saying she must work for her family. We have been sending a few hundred dollars a month but now she claims the need $1,000. I said I can only send $500 and she agreed. A few days later she disappeared, leaving the attached letter. I have only heard from her buy message, she will not do Facebook messenger or call. Her cousin said his mother was in Vietnam at the same time and someone agreed to give her parents money and my wife agreed to do work for this person to pay it back. She is thought to be around 30 minutes away. The note is what I came home to. O well to large to upload. But i did report her as missing to the police. How should I procede? She only took a few pieces of clothing and he wedding ring which she said she will wear anf left me the engagement ring. Said sorry, Ilove you and I will see you soon.

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

This won't stop now that they know she's willing to work it off...how much did she borrow she's been gone 2 months!!! This is the beginning this will happen again

[Expat1 971]

I believe on the way out i'd feed the nail salon guy's balls to him. You dont traffic someone's wife to work off debt where Im from and I dont believe I'd tolerate that.

[B&Z 201]

Looks like it's time to get the cops involved and get your wife out of that ILLEGAL situation. If you're not part of the solution, as her husband/protector, then you're part of the problem.