HELP!!! My wife's friend being treated like a SLAVE!!!

[yaizz 5]

There's a 50/50 chance if you go searching for love in an undeveloped county full of beautiful woman that's willing to do anything for a better life for them, and their family-- you'll end up broke, heart broken, and on the edge of a cliff wondering what the hell was i thinking.

Edited March 1, 2015 by yaizz

[Boiler 43,691]

At least he had the good sense to have a pre nup.

Edited March 1, 2015 by Boiler

[ExPatty 502]

Nothing you mentioned sounds immediately illegal even if it is all pretty indicative of a terrible husband. This isn't to say she may have an avenue of recourse to detach herself from him but still maintain legality. If what she says is true hopefully she can unwind soon. A 65 year old marrying a 35 year old always raises a good digger red flag with me

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

She should get out of that marriage if what she is saying is true. Sounds like for her part she saw the big house and life in America and was willing to be with a much older guy to get that.

Being in a relationship with someone that controlling is really not good though, maybe she needs to swallow her pride and let her family back home know her situation.

[emcia_81 43]

This is what happens sometimes to people who jump into marriages after seeing each other only one time for a short period of time!!!!

[Ning 619]

the truth is ..it's very difficult to give advice here. We just heard the other side. We still didn't know the reason of the old guy why he's doing this to her. Maybe he knew right from the start that she will just used him to get a green card. So the old guy doesn't want her to have her own money so she cannot leave him. Anyway there's no physical abuse mentioned. just tell her to talk to her husband tell him she knows exactly what to do if

he will not change the way he treat her.

" The old guy " ? This type of thinking is where the origin of the problem is. Why did she marry this " old guy " ? Why is she here?

She just wants to use him to enter the USA & then be supported. His age cant be a surprise to her now.

[LykaMarc 19]

I am a family law attorney, though not licensed in Florida. In most states, a prenup can be deemed unenforceable if procured under very one-sided circumstances, or if the terms are extremely unfair. In my state, I would probably be able to get the prenup thrown out. Additionally, the husband could be made to pay spousal support and attorney's fees while the divorce case is pending.

Your friend should see an experienced family law attorney in her area. Depending on circumstances, there are some who may take the case with the expectation that the husband would be ordered to pay attorney's fees. It's also possible that legal aid is available in her area.

[liampot 3]

I believe your wife is giving you a lot of incorrect information and probably trying to get some money out of you

In another post you posted your wife told it is cost $380 to renew RN licenses in Philippines (That would be 2 months salary nurse pay in Philippines).

My wife has been a RN in Philippines since 2006 and has renewed 2 times.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/537392-philippines-nursing-license-for-cgfns/

lol to renew prc license will cost you less than 500 in PESOS. my wife had just renew her ID last year...

[KMR&MHAH 11]

Your friend is a clear candidate for a U visa that will allow her to stay in the US but also leave him. Please connect her with a legal aid organization in your area. She married an ###.

[VOL 425]

lol to renew prc license will cost you less than 500 in PESOS. my wife had just renew her ID last year...

Exactly, It cost $10 for everyone, but his wife told him it cost $380.

And now his wife is telling him this horror story about a "Friend".

This is why I don't put much belief in this second hand story......

[zuluweta 250]

lol to renew prc license will cost you less than 500 in PESOS. my wife had just renew her ID last year...

$380 minus 500 pesos = a lot of extra money to send to her family in the Philippines

[MS and KK 13]

Maybe Im just having a moment but there are things about this story that seem a bit suspicious to me. Classic reason why people are suspicious of this K1process. We only know one side here so lets try not to judge to harsly, but based on facts presented, something seems a bit suspect.

If the marriage is so bad why is she trying to wait until she gets a green card. I think we need to be really careful how we use the term slave here becuase honestly its sounds like a really bad situation but slavery, um not so sure. There is also an extreme age difference here as well as socio-economic status and power dynamics in the relationship that honestly should not be overlooked. That is NOT to say that these things don't happen and can't be overcome but its really a factor. If he had her sign a pre-nup why/how did she sign it was she corcered? If he has nothing what is her issue now.

I would say to her that her safty and well being are first and formost an issue. I would say that she needs to get out of the home, get herself an attorney and get law enforcement involved as needed. If she can't do that because she is focused on her green card or that she may be out some of his money then perhaps her inital intent was suspect to begin with. No amout of money or stauts is worth me being treated unfairly, abused, used or poetentially being life threatning. If she dead a green card or his penion wont matter.

Get out get help and lawyer up!!

[marklovetina 52]

She lives in Florida. We live in Ohio.

where in FL.?

[Pinkrlion 2,611]

She is not being treated as a Slave, and please refrain from using that statement.

If she is wanting to get out she can go to a womens shelter and file for divorce.

Edited March 1, 2015 by Pinkrlion

[Cmptrsdeal 76]

I believe your wife is giving you a lot of incorrect information and probably trying to get some money out of you

In another post you posted your wife told it is cost $380 to renew RN licenses in Philippines (That would be 2 months salary nurse pay in Philippines).

My wife has been a RN in Philippines since 2006 and has renewed 2 times.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/537392-philippines-nursing-license-for-cgfns/

No that's regarding something totally different. 380 is for her CGFNS here in the states. I wasn't talking about anything of my wife. So not sure where your getting confused. My wife makes alot more than that. It only cost like less than $50 bucks to renew her license, so again, not quite sure what your misreading. Nobody has asked me for money and my wife is not trying to get money out of me. Not sure where yoru getting that from what I am talking about her friend in Florida.