I want to pull affidavit of support before AOS approved

[Lee&Ana 88]

My wife has her ead/AP combo card. We are in the process of AOS. Can I pull the affidavit of support and she goes home and we end the marriage?

[Hypnos 6,576]

You can pull your affidavit of support and prevent her green card from being issued. What would happen after that wouldn't be something you had direct control over.

[Jack2107 46]

What is the reason for pulling out your affidavit of support?

[Anh map 2,098]

Yes, you can withdraw your affidavit of support. You can file for divorce. What happens after that is largely out of your control.

[Anh map 2,098]

OP's previous thread on same topic ----->>>> http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/583919-regret-marrying-k1-pinay/#entry7989574

[Georgia16 2,858]

She's not a puppy dog you can return when you are done playing .... But yeah you can pull it and she won't get the GC but if she returns or not is up to her.

[Caryh 5,206]

Doesn't sound like you're happy at all in your marriage from your post last January. Can't say I haven't gone through similar issues during my wife and I's adjustment. Heck I still deal with some of them. I'm sure she has her own frustrations with me to. But if you can't work through it, you might as well bail out now. But its not up to you if she stays after her green card is denied. Be careful about what her reaction will be, she just might come out swinging rather than go back peaceably.

[Lhanz0729 52]

I feel bad for his wife....

OP's previous thread on same topic ----->>>> http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/583919-regret-marrying-k1-pinay/#entry7989574

[Merrytooth 5,748]

I feel bad for his wife....

It takes 2 hands to clap ....

[Meg&Andrew 297]

From the sound of his previous post, he's given it a couple of more months to try and make it work. I believe you should try and make it work, but if you can't then you can't. Maybe marriage counseling? Anyways, I'm not here to judge, as I'm not aware of the full situation. I know marriage takes 2 People to make it work. Unfortunately, we have to sacrifice things to be with the people we love; but that's what love is about.

[Lee&Ana 88]

From the sound of his previous post, he's given it a couple of more months to try and make it work. I believe you should try and make it work, but if you can't then you can't. Maybe marriage counseling? Anyways, I'm not here to judge, as I'm not aware of the full situation. I know marriage takes 2 People to make it work. Unfortunately, we have to sacrifice things to be with the people we love; but that's what love is about.

Exactly.

OP's previous thread on same topic ----->>>> http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/583919-regret-marrying-k1-pinay/#entry7989574

Your search skills are good

I feel bad for his wife....

What makes you feel bad for my wife?

[Lee&Ana 88]

What is the reason for pulling out your affidavit of support?

My reason for wanting to pull the affidavit of support is to protect myself. I am not happy in my marriage and neither is my wife. She has been here almost a year. In the beginning, I kept saying once she gets ead, job, phone etc, she will be less homesick and happy. Unfortunately, that is not the case. My wife doesn't communicate her needs and wants effectively. She doesn't communicate at all. Unless you consider the silent treatment and sulking for days at a time communicating. When I try to communicate my needs and wants, all I get is silence and a blank stare or a pillow over her eyes or her on her phone. Contrary to a few months ago, where I wanted her to work to pay for her ticket home, I am volunteering to pay for it now. I don't feel as though I am getting enough in return for what I am giving. My wife is working, she has a new iPhone and we agreed to have her contribute some of her earnings to pay for some of her/our expenses. Her 1st reaction is to send money home. I told her she can do that after she contributes to our home. This of course results in sulking and silent treatment for 2 days. I feel as though I have given it my best shot and without pointing fingers, it might be time to pull the plug. I don't want to stay the course because at this point I can walk away. If she gets the 2 year card, it will be more complicated to get divorced and she will be gaining rights that will put me in an unfavorable position. There is no reason to risk this for a marriage that I am not happy with. Additionally, my wife thinks the Philippines is better and I am tired of trying to sell her on why it isn't. If she likes the Philippines better, she should go back there and pursue an opportunity there.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

Sounds like you did try.

[Lee&Ana 88]

Doesn't sound like you're happy at all in your marriage from your post last January. Can't say I haven't gone through similar issues during my wife and I's adjustment. Heck I still deal with some of them. I'm sure she has her own frustrations with me to. But if you can't work through it, you might as well bail out now. But its not up to you if she stays after her green card is denied. Be careful about what her reaction will be, she just might come out swinging rather than go back peaceably.

I don't care if she stays after denial. I care about being on the hook for the affidavit of support. I am not trying to punish anyone, like some of these guys on here. If she wants to stay illegally, that is her option. It will not affect me. I doubt that she would stay here anyway. She doesn't like the USA

[Georgia16 2,858]

My reason for wanting to pull the affidavit of support is to protect myself. I am not happy in my marriage and neither is my wife. She has been here almost a year. In the beginning, I kept saying once she gets ead, job, phone etc, she will be less homesick and happy. Unfortunately, that is not the case. My wife doesn't communicate her needs and wants effectively. She doesn't communicate at all. Unless you consider the silent treatment and sulking for days at a time communicating. When I try to communicate my needs and wants, all I get is silence and a blank stare or a pillow over her eyes or her on her phone. Contrary to a few months ago, where I wanted her to work to pay for her ticket home, I am volunteering to pay for it now. I don't feel as though I am getting enough in return for what I am giving. My wife is working, she has a new iPhone and we agreed to have her contribute some of her earnings to pay for some of her/our expenses. Her 1st reaction is to send money home. I told her she can do that after she contributes to our home. This of course results in sulking and silent treatment for 2 days. I feel as though I have given it my best shot and without pointing fingers, it might be time to pull the plug. I don't want to stay the course because at this point I can walk away. If she gets the 2 year card, it will be more complicated to get divorced and she will be gaining rights that will put me in an unfavorable position. There is no reason to risk this for a marriage that I am not happy with. Additionally, my wife thinks the Philippines is better and I am tired of trying to sell her on why it isn't. If she likes the Philippines better, she should go back there and pursue an opportunity there.

So she works but want to keep that money to herself while you work and pay the bills and food?