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People have a choice whether to respond or not. If they feel it is a waste of time, then they should not waste said time by responding. In any case, this example that I selected is probably not the best one but I have seen what I consider a heavy handed approach by some mods on a number of posts. This just happened to be the one that led me to create this post. If the mod response was canned, then perhaps the mods need to change their canned responses because I do not appreciate being told to "not restart or refer back to this thread in any shape or form". If I want to do so for a reason that I feel is valid, then that is my choice, as long as I am not breaking the TOS of VJ.

There is also a pinned post at the top of the forum that relates to negative attitudes on the forum. I was simply pointing out that asking a snarky rhetorical question is unnecessary and can be interpreted as a negative attitude. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't have asked. Isn't the whole point of the forum that people should feel open to ask questions without judgement and for others to help them in a positive way? So I hope the mods point that out as well.

Thank you. The reason I was asking is because I wanted to be entirely sure. I didn't think it would be an issue. On another note, is there a need for you to question my post? If you have an answer, as you did, please just respond with that. Your asking 'Why would it be a problem?' doesn't add any value and comes off as a bit snarky.
Save time and money. Plus you don't have to put on pants, if you don't want to.

I'm not disagreeing with that. Other VJ users have asked probing questions to better understand the details so that they can help advise on how to best handle the 3rd interview. We are all still waiting for the OP to respond. My point is only on editorializing on life and relationship issues, which is a common theme on VJ with some users who seem to enjoy slipping in judgemental comments or reactions to parts of the OP's story that are immaterial to the immigration question posed.

I'm not disagreeing with that. Other VJ users have asked probing questions to better understand the details so that they can help advise on how to best handle the 3rd interview. We are all still waiting for the OP to respond. My point is only on editorializing on life and relationship issues, which is a common theme on VJ with some users who seem to enjoy slipping in judgemental comments or reactions to parts of the OP's story that are immaterial to the immigration question posed.

I'm not disagreeing with that. Other VJ users have asked probing questions to better understand the details so that they can help advise on how to best handle the 3rd interview. We are all still waiting for the OP to respond. My point is only on editorializing on life and relationship issues, which is a common theme on VJ with some users who seem to enjoy slipping in judgemental comments or reactions to parts of the OP's story that are immaterial to the immigration question posed.

There clearly is an issue. My point is that there is no value to other VJ users debating or offering up suggestions to what should have been done in the past. We don't have all of the facts yet, so we don't know what issues USCIS might have. Regardless, even if the issue is that the IO has questions about why they would stay apart for that long while she was pregnant and is questioning whether their relationship is bona fide, other VJ users stating what they or their spouse would have done in that situation is irrelevant, because as far as I am aware, the OP does not have a time machine and therefore cannot go back in time to drive to pick up his spouse.

Yes, it is way cheaper to go through the Utah. It is $70 for the license (or $50 if you take a free marriage education course first) and then $35 to schedule time with the clerk to officiate the wedding. If you need an apostille, that's another $50 for 3-5 day shipping or more for faster delivery.

We sent off our I-485 package on July 10, it was received on July 12, check was cashed July 14, and SMS notifications of receipt were received on July 15.

We sent off our I-485 package on July 10, it was received on July 12, check was cashed July 14, and SMS notifications of receipt were received on July 15.

There is also a pinned post at the top of the forum that relates to negative attitudes on the forum. I was simply pointing out that asking a snarky rhetorical question is unnecessary and can be interpreted as a negative attitude. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't have asked. Isn't the whole point of the forum that people should feel open to ask questions without judgement and for others to help them in a positive way? So I hope the mods point that out as well.

Thank you. The reason I was asking is because I wanted to be entirely sure. I didn't think it would be an issue. On another note, is there a need for you to question my post? If you have an answer, as you did, please just respond with that. Your asking 'Why would it be a problem?' doesn't add any value and comes off as a bit snarky.
Save time and money. Plus you don't have to put on pants, if you don't want to.

It was this thread, although I've noticed such heavy handedness where mods take it upon themselves to shut down discussion because they feel the case is closed. This was just the one that prompted me to make this post, particularly due to the mod seeming to threaten users against referring to that thread again.
 
Great point!

As others have said, you don't need the I-129F for the visa interview. However, if you really want it, you can request a copy by submitting a FOIA request to DoS here: https://foia.state.gov/Request/Visa.aspx.
 
Also, in the case of my fiance, the Embassy sent her a copy of the approved I-129F around when she scheduled her interview.

AMEN TO THAT!!!!

There is also a pinned post at the top of the forum that relates to negative attitudes on the forum. I was simply pointing out that asking a snarky rhetorical question is unnecessary and can be interpreted as a negative attitude. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't have asked. Isn't the whole point of the forum that people should feel open to ask questions without judgement and for others to help them in a positive way? So I hope the mods point that out as well.

There is also a pinned post at the top of the forum that relates to negative attitudes on the forum. I was simply pointing out that asking a snarky rhetorical question is unnecessary and can be interpreted as a negative attitude. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't have asked. Isn't the whole point of the forum that people should feel open to ask questions without judgement and for others to help them in a positive way? So I hope the mods point that out as well.

There is also a pinned post at the top of the forum that relates to negative attitudes on the forum. I was simply pointing out that asking a snarky rhetorical question is unnecessary and can be interpreted as a negative attitude. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't have asked. Isn't the whole point of the forum that people should feel open to ask questions without judgement and for others to help them in a positive way? So I hope the mods point that out as well.

There is also a pinned post at the top of the forum that relates to negative attitudes on the forum. I was simply pointing out that asking a snarky rhetorical question is unnecessary and can be interpreted as a negative attitude. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't have asked. Isn't the whole point of the forum that people should feel open to ask questions without judgement and for others to help them in a positive way? So I hope the mods point that out as well.

There is also a pinned post at the top of the forum that relates to negative attitudes on the forum. I was simply pointing out that asking a snarky rhetorical question is unnecessary and can be interpreted as a negative attitude. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't have asked. Isn't the whole point of the forum that people should feel open to ask questions without judgement and for others to help them in a positive way? So I hope the mods point that out as well.

I'm no expert here, but it would seem to me that you did not only not offer up anything that was not asked, but you misled them with this answer. If you were traveling to the US to marry your fiance, then the purpose of your trip was not simply to visit. I'm not criticizing your actions. I am simply flagging this for others to consider who may be thinking about doing the same thing, as it may not always work out well.

Thanks for this guidance. In my case, we are lucky that my fiance already has a SSN as she previously had a work visa many years ago.

There is also a pinned post at the top of the forum that relates to negative attitudes on the forum. I was simply pointing out that asking a snarky rhetorical question is unnecessary and can be interpreted as a negative attitude. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't have asked. Isn't the whole point of the forum that people should feel open to ask questions without judgement and for others to help them in a positive way? So I hope the mods point that out as well.

There is also a pinned post at the top of the forum that relates to negative attitudes on the forum. I was simply pointing out that asking a snarky rhetorical question is unnecessary and can be interpreted as a negative attitude. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't have asked. Isn't the whole point of the forum that people should feel open to ask questions without judgement and for others to help them in a positive way? So I hope the mods point that out as well.

Thank you for being so supportive and detailed oriented in your responses. You are the type of member that makes this community great.