David & Elizabeth

Happened to me. I’m from South Asia third world country as well. My relationship with my mother who divorced with my dad ( my dad raised me ) when i was 4 is not great. She always used the guilt trip : 
“I almost died when I gave u birth”
”give me grand children”
”give me money”
”god will send u to hell because you don’t want to help me “ 
 
didn’t work with me. I cut her lost and only send money IF I want to and have the mood for. I actually just sent her money 3 days ago because she begged for it and can’t pay for her housing. I feel sorry and sent her some money. And I asked her if she can send me a food recipe that she’s so proud of. She doesn’t want to give it to me. She gave me so much excuse for A recipe !!! 
 
have to have steel mentality because my mother always calling my cousins from my dad’s side and looked for pity and talked bad about me to them. Everyone always believed her because mother is older ( Asian culture = have to listen to your elder  ) so we have to bow down for everything that she said. Cousins learned now days not to judge me or I told them to back of. 
 
do whatever you want to do and block all that “noises” 

Im a filipina and married to a white guy. Before I married my husband I told him what he's getting into in terms of the culture part supporting my family. At the same time, I told my parents and family I'm ONLY gonna help them if I'm able, if it's within our means, and after we pay our own bills. I think there should be a balance because we can never get rid of that culture of paying our family and parents back. But at the same time the family should not be demanding. And if necessary, I will make things right by telling my parents it's too much and I don't want to support them anymore because they're being so ungrateful and demanding. So that being said it's really up to you and your wife, for me $700 per month is A LOT! To give you an idea a regular job will make you around $200-$300 per month depending on which location in the Philippines, and if you work in the government which we view it as "the stable job" then you get around $400-600 per month. 
 
I bought my family a car and give them money here and there so I probably spent around $500-$1000 per month but that's because me and my husband's work is better now.
 
But 4 years ago we only sent them around $100-$200 a month because we struggled financially. 
 
For me if my parent/s is that toxic and demanding? I'm sorry I probably won't cut her off but instead of her $700 demand per month I'll probably send her $100 a month. I don't know it's just me. I love my family and parents so much but there's a fine line between RESPECT and TOXIC BEHAVIOR. 

This won’t cut it in any country or culture.  Tell her to suck wind.  The time to cut this kind of BS off is now.
 
You need to politely advise your MIL this is a marriage not a purchase.  I don’t understand why in a few cases these parents treat their children as coin banks.  You don’t owe this family a dime.  Your job is to take care of your wife and family.

It's emotional blackmail, preying on the Filipino mentality of putting family first.
 
@Timona accurately described what happens to some parents whose kids make it to the US. That $700 remittance is likely being used to keep up appearances to local friends and family. 
 
I am a Filipina. I also despise such behavior. If my parents ever said anything like that to me, I would cut off communication pronto. And to underscore my point, I would stop the money transfers. If they apologized, I would restart sending them a bag of rice a month. 
 
Your wife needs to draw firmer boundaries or the behavior is never going to stop. Filipinos have an extremely hard time saying No, especially to family, so the two of you need to be fully aligned with what is and is not acceptable financial support.

I think in every culture there are a few parents that lives off their children and lay a guilt trip on their children. 
 
I'm a parent and I would never say to my children they owe me everything just because I raised them. My parents would go out of their way not to inconvenient me and always gave me financial help even if I don't need it. 
 
 

$700 is a lot of money in third world country like Philippines. This was my monthly paycheck, after taxes, from a gas station that I used to work at for 30 hours a week while at University.
 
Engineers with 8 years experience earn $1000 per month in Kenya. Your MIL isn't even an engineer. 
 
What I think is happening is she now wants to maintain and show upscale status in the neighborhood being that her children are in the US. This is so common amongst parents in third world countries whose children are abroad. They demand, even if they did not even pay a single dollar to get you to US. Basically, your struggles got you to US and when they (parents) woke up and realized that you're in US, they now start using you as pension. 
 
Well, cut the ungrateful person off. Let her stretch $0. You and your wife owe her nothing. Birthing someone shouldn't guarantee entitlement. Your wife didn't ask them to birth her nor for them to engage in Adam and Eve, the scenario that brought her to existence. The highlighted should be your wife' clap back to her mom, should MIL entitlement reach unbearable levels. 
 
 I loathe such kind of mentality. 

It's not legal to require anyone to take an experimental vaccine. Also, if Biden's administration is soo worried about covid from immigrants, why are the illegal immigrants allowed to cross the border even when positive for covid? Even USC currently have to get the negative covid test prior to entering.

How does opinions kill us compared to a experimental drug that has killed thousands and hundreds of thousands side effects

We all have our own opinions on this jab they call a vaccine and i myself have requested of my wife and family in the Philippines not to get it until it has gone through its full testing and is totally FDA approved and not under the EUA

Thanks.  Maybe the starting point is that i tell my wife about the sibling / F4 category taking 10-15 years.   That could completely change their minds.
 
But yes ...deep breaths.  Thanks again.  I will update if/when anything else happens.

I-765 is Employment Authorization Document (EAD). I-131 is Advance Parole (AP). These have their own timeline sections under AOS. So when you go into the edit timeline, you can add the I-485 AOS dates and then scroll down to add the dates specifically for I-765 EAD and I-131 AP.
 
Check this out to make sense of the alphabet soup:
 

Umm, yes I tried that which is how I found that it would let us enter the dates but then rejected our entry saying it didn't like the dates we entered.
Like I said, we didn't like them either but are just reporting what happened.

So K-1s would be SOL?

The trump Administration is planning to pass an Executive Order in the next 24 hours to suspend immigration to America.  While it's unlikely the President will change their mind on the general policy, we believe they may consider a narrow exception for immediate family members of US Citizens, including fiancés.  We've started a petition a the White House which requires 10,000 signatures to get attention and 100,000 signatures to get a formal response.  Please join us by signing the petition at the following link.  We should have the membership to make a solid run at getting enough signatures!
 
https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/petition/change-immigration-suspension-executive-order-add-exception-immediate-family-members-us-citizens-0
(note the petition was changed to include fiance visa language... please verify you signed the updated petition if you signed earlier)
 
 

Nothing from you needs to be original for her interview 

You can email everything; I-134, most recent tax return (or transcript) and W-2 .      
 
Just a suggestion; email a copy of the I-129F you sent to USCIS, the BIO information for you will be helpful during the interview and for CFO.
 
https://www.visaconnection-philippines.com/us-embassy-usem.html
 
 

1) no
2) no
3) no
4) everything is online.   Go to the embassy website 

Not Manila but my fiancee received nothing physically, everything was provided in email.

No packet.      
 
Here is a guide to the complete process, K-1 info is halfway down the page:
 
https://www.visaconnection-philippines.com/us-embassy-usem.html
 
Do you have your NVC letter/email with the MNL# ?  Then it is ROCK n ROLL time!
 
Pay visa fee
 
Schedule interview
 
Complete medical at SLEC
 
CFO-GCP seminar

There Is nothing you do at this stage. When you complete the DS169 and I134 you'll list your new information. 

Nothing to update.   The filing was correct as of the filing date.

You do not need to do anything at this stage You will need to fill some paperwork out at NVC stage DS160 & I-134 If the new job is also a permanent job and income level is good enough (with your household size), then you will be fine.