Temi & Obim

Thanks for all of the help guys I have an update. 
 
Timing is so weird, but she just called my wife a minute ago and she is alive. She said she hasn't been reachable because she ended up fainting/passing out from depression, involving the husband's kids and ex wife, and she ended up in some type of mental hospital since July 6th, and that Dr's told her she had to take time away from the kids. She said her phone was inside of a locker so she wasn't able to use it while in there, and she had to wear the hospital gown. She said she was in there with other mental patients who suffered with dementia and other things etc. She says the police actually visited her while she was in the mental hospital, and she didn't tell the police much in order to protect her husband from trouble I guess. 
 
She also says the husband's family is in full support of her and they love her, and she mentioned enrolling in marriage counseling with the husband. Also something involving giving full custody of the kids to the ex wife. She says her husband loves her but the ex wife was the problem. My wife says that she sounded better on the phone than the last time she talked to her, which makes me think she's probably on anti-depressants. 
 
Such a weird story. Well atleast I know she's alive and it appears she's not being held hostage so I'm out of the problem. I will now mind my own business.  
 
Thanks again for all the replies this site is a real peace of mind. 

True, but I would expect people to help me if they know my life is in danger. The fact that OP mentioned about they haven't seen or even her fam haven't heard anything from her that is worrying. 
I understand you don't want to involved in people dramas but once it's involved violent or maybe someone's matter of death or life, I hope your motto of "keep my nose out " doesn't apply

Please call the non-emergency line of her local police department and ask them to do a wellness check.   You don’t have to reveal any details: the fact that her friends and family have not heard from her is enough for the police to do a check.

That's a good policy but if she ends up dead or missing I don't want to know that I could have done something and didn't. 

Funny how in this forum every time a liberal point of view is shown, usually against some executive action or measure, there is an outcry for non partisanship and a rush of conservative members defending the president. But when this kind of incendiary and false statements are done no one complains. 
There was several clauses the democrats wanted to include, mostly to guarantee this is not another bail out without consequences for big corporations and that employees and small businesses  are the main focus. But yeah, give all your money to Delta. In a month or two they will say they will still have to lay off most of their employees anyway because it wasn't enough. While gathering money for next year bonuses and stock buy backs when things calm down and profit returns. 
While that happens small restaurants in my town, most of them run by immigrants, will be closed in a few weeks and who knows how those families will survive. 
 

If you filed taxes alone last year, then you will get whatever amount they pass, if you filed taxes with your spouse, you will get whatever amount x2, assuming you meet the criteria of income (under 75k) and 150k
 
For most of people, you are not technically getting any money from the government as much as you are basically getting a tax cut from the previous year as If you paid 3k in federal taxes, and you are given $1950 (after taxes again if they tax the relief amount)l, you are practically given a one year late extra tax refund, which is nice
 
& since they are some misinformation above,
 
Democratic voted no on the bill because they want workers to get more $, they want permit corp from using the bailout package to buyback their stock, small business get more bailout $$  package, and they want to make sure the bailout goes toward keeping working as much as possible.
 
As I assume you are fluent in English, below are some link to understand what is going on if you are interested
 
1- https://fox11online.com/news/connect-to-congress/lawmakers-point-fingers-as-senate-efforts-to-pass-2-trillion-relief-bill-stall (Right)
 
2- https://www.washingtonpost.com/us-policy/2020/03/23/trump-coronavirus-senate-economic-stimulus/ (Left)
 
Cheers & Good luck
 

I kind of agree with both perspectives above. You do want to put your main focus on divorcing and moving on- You also MUST appear in court for the protection order hearing and present your side of things. If you do not appear an order will most likely be granted and you do not want that! A permanent order will stay with you and haunt you for the rest of your life. Its unfortunate that you decline to press charges for the previous incident (and Im assuming they did not move forward with out you?- but if they did move forward I would encourage you to participate- when someone commits a crime they should be tried and if guilty punished. I personally take the position that as a victim or witness to a case you have a duty to participate and tell the truth. Courts will rule on guilt or innocence- thats not up to you and its not your concern what the outcome is. All you need to do is tell the truth and any consequences the perpetrator may suffer as a result of a guilty verdict is not because YOU did this to them but because they did it to themselves.)
 
You may want to consider hiring an attny for the protection order hearing as there are pro bono services for victims applying for protection orders. So she may have an attny. Or you can go with out one and if she does have one you can ask for it to be delayed so you too can get an attny. Do not try to face her attny on your own. Unfortunately you probably will not be able to get pro bono services for defending against a protection order. You also want to obtain the statement she made to secure the temp order. If you have an attny they should know this and do such (or if you are going to attempt to represent yourself). Most people do not know they are entitled to this paperwork with her statement. The court clerk wont tell you or offer it to you. You have to understand some people do abuse the system but the system is designed for victims and you are the alleged abuser in this. 
 
Anyway when someone applies for a temp protection order they fill out some paperwork. It includes a written statement on why they need this order. It is given to a judge who reviews it and does a quick hearing with the applicant. Usually the judge will approve the temp order to ensure the safety of the victim and then a hearing is set where both sides are present and its determined if a permanent order will be enacted or not. You want to get her statement. (probably a few dollars in copy fees from the clerk) Her statement should detail a specific incident she is claiming occurred in order to get the temp order. You cant just go down and say I was abused give me a temp order. You must provide specific details so find out what her statement says happened and see how you may be able to disprove it. Those who dont obtain this statement are always thrown off at the hearing because the judge is going through things about this 'incident' and they have no idea what is being referred to. Usually the pretend victim will take a fight or issue that actually did occur and embellish it. 
 
As to her potential VAWA or immigration issues as stated already it is none of your concern. You do need to be concerned though that she may be attempting to do a VAWA case and may not understand what is needed for such. Specifically VAWA cases do NOT require police reports or restraining orders but many are under the assumption that they do. Its obviously much easier for one to obtain VAWA with a police report where there was a DV incident. She may be getting bad advice from 'friends' encouraging her to get police/court documents . So there is a high risk of her fabricating a DV assault so she has the paperwork she thinks she needs. Do NOT ever be alone with her. I can not stress this enough. I understand you are getting a divorce but as long as you are still legally married on paper if you are alone with her and she injures herself and calls the cops and claims you did it you will be charged with DV whereas after the divorce you are just two individuals so its not DV. 
 
Regarding the divorce- divorce courts do not care about immigration status. There is no aff of support so thats good, if there was it could be used against you. In most states if one of the spouses are claiming abuse the court can award them more. So if abuse is claimed by her in the divorce you will want to fight it. Partly because a finding of abuse by you in the divorce would help her obtain immigration benefits she is not entitled to, but mostly because it would be a false finding and it would most likely cause the settlement to be more in her favor. 
 
If you are still in the home with her you need to get out. I understand that can be hard and costly and a huge inconvenience but there are just too many reasons why you should not be in the home with her. She has been abusive to you before. You ended up in the ER last time- do not let there be a next time. 

I think all embassies should put a box outside their facility, filled with US Visas of all types. People can just come grab whichever Visa they need, and then come on over to US. I see no other option. 

We had our interview yesterday and it was stress free. Most questions were directed to my husband the beneficiary and it was mostly to confirm the yes or no question on I485 and our wedding. He didn't even collect all our evidence, he checked all of them and returned some, as he was checking the evidence he asked us how we met and so on like i129f. He asked also asked to see EAD/AP card and parole stamp to confirm we didn't abandon the AOS because we traveled outside US twice already.  After the interview he told us we are recommended for approval and gave us a paper as assurance that we'll get the card within 30 days. Within an hour our status change to card is being produced. I didn't asked for new paystubs or 2019 W2.
 
Here are list of evidence we took:
He kept 1. Health and vision insurance  2. Joints bank statements 3. Life and long term insurance beneficiaries  4. Retirement  5. House deeds and insurance 6. Car insurance    Only checked and returned  1. Tickets 2. Pictures  3. Husband current work details  4. 2019 tax return  5. Phone bills 6. Amazon prime   So happy this phase is done till ROC.... Goodluck to everyone

We just came back to the US last week and I used my AP, there was so issue at all. We came back from Nigeria one of the countries on the new ban list. Enjoy your trip. 

No one knows how the ban is going to actually affect everything yet. My opinion enter US before Feb 22, it is easier to "fight" immigration inside the US than outside just incase....

No one knows how the ban is going to actually affect everything yet. My opinion enter US before Feb 22, it is easier to "fight" immigration inside the US than outside just incase....

No one knows how the ban is going to actually affect everything yet. My opinion enter US before Feb 22, it is easier to "fight" immigration inside the US than outside just incase....

I would not wait if I were you.

Welp she was in for around 4 hours and we stayed up here in the US and held our breaths. I dozed off, had enough panic attacks for a life time, prayed and prayed, fought off doubts, etc, more panic attaxks...
Called to get no answer 
Calle my uncle to get no answer
Called again, uncle said she's still in
All of a sudden she called with a happy shouting voice and Yep
 
SHE GOT IT!!!!!!!!!👏👏👏

Congratulationsssss!!!

My suggestion is don't sell your stuffs yet or buy ticket so you don't lose money like me because I did after I was verbally approved but visa wasn't ready for a month. That is the most absurd advise anyone can give, get your Visa first before selling anything....
My status was just showing ready for like 3 weeks and one day changed to AP and the next day issued, I was in AP for a day. 

if they tell you its approved at the embassy , dont worry and save some time by already getting rid of some stuffs . yesterday i sold my car , i already emptied my apartment of all the furnitures 

My husband is not selling anything or doing anything till he gets his passport . 
 
I will let you all know within a week or two 
Pakistan
from union council 

My suggestion is this, the holiday is over a so give it a full work week before requesting for your passport back. Almost same thing happened to us and it wan't because of AP, I went for my interview on Thursday May 23 before memorial day, then my home country had different federal holidays the following week and week after. In short, I didn't get my visa till June 28. There is no more holiday so give it a full work week or two. Good luck

EAD New card is being produced today January 2nd 
got start for this year 
still waiting to schedule my interview.

Online status finally updated to interview scheduled, hopefully we get the notice through mail soon.🤞

Ten years after arriving in the USA from the Philippines on a K-3 Visa, my wife earned a 2nd degree as a Registered Nurse and is currently serving on active duty as a First Lieutenant in the United States Air Force Nurse Corps, stationed in Germany. This is after she already had served 6 years previous to this in the Tennessee Air National Guard as an Airman. Her job in the Philippines had been as an elementary English teacher, and then a school principal.
 

It depends on your relationship with each other, my wife paid for everything because she is good with money things but when I was coming here I came with lots of cash to cover us for about 6-8 months household expenses and I handed it over to her when I arrived. So there is no one way to do things, it depends on you both as a couple. 

It depends on your relationship with each other, my wife paid for everything because she is good with money things but when I was coming here I came with lots of cash to cover us for about 6-8 months household expenses and I handed it over to her when I arrived. So there is no one way to do things, it depends on you both as a couple. 

IMO it’s a joint effort. 
 
Because I knew I wouldn’t be able to work for a while I saved enough money to cover a few months of living expenses, my rent is 1320/month so, I used that amount as a guideline. I also shared expenses of the entire process with my husband.  For our trip, we shared the costs 50/50. We only met once because we have been talking for a few years and because of work we could only have 2 weeks of holidays/year. 
 
For our K1 process my husband paid for the petition and visa fees and I covered the travel expenses to Colombia that included 18 days in a hotel near the embassy,meals and medical. My husband paid for my flight to LAX and I paid for my flight to Colombia, They cost around the same because I was carrying tons of baggage. 
 
For the AOS stage, my husband decided to pay for all of it and in return I took us shopping.  SoCal turned out to be more expensive than I thought.I ran out of savings by the 7th month, I’m on my 8th month right now but with AOS approved. 
 
This process requires aside from money, a lot of patience,love and commitment from both parts. I don’t think one person benefits more than the other as long as your ultimate goal is to be with your love one ❤️. My husband always offered to pay for everything but to me sharing expenses was and still is key in our marriage and in any marriage (to be honest). 

If you’re concerned about expenses I’d recommend to make a spreadsheet (so,I did)  and not to be afraid to ask your fiancée to contribute to the process. In the end, both will benefit from it.