Urgent need advise

[OldUser 10,489]

@Pink salt is your wife much older than you?

[Pink salt 0]

12 minutes ago, mitzab said:

Honestly, in the current situation your chances are very low. The best step may be for your wife to come live with you in Pakistan for some time so you can build enough proof before filing again. Pakistan is considered a high-fraud country, so cases here are always scrutinized more heavily.

 

It’s not the end of the world you can still succeed if you plan properly and build the right evidence.

 

Good luck for your upcoming journey.

 

PS: you do not qualify for any K1 or anything like that please do not waste money and time submitting those applications.

Thank for advidw my wife told me other option we can go for divorce she will be here for visit me for enough family and personal pics and evidence and apply for k1 visa it will really work or it happens 

[alliejourney 147]

17 minutes ago, Pink salt said:

So what we have to do there would be a option divorce and then we meet in personal and apply for k1 it will really work what option is best work for us

Do not do this!!! 

 

As part of the I-129F packet, you have to disclose any prior marriages you had and provide the divorce decrees. Imagine how suspicious it will look for them to see a fresh divorce decree for the same exact person you're petitioning for. That is only going to hurt your case and make your marriage look less legitimate. The ONLY option for you is to pursue a spousal visa.

 

What kind of evidence do you have to show the legitimacy of your marriage? Any joint financials? Are you on each other's wills or power of attorney or beneficiaries for life insurance? Anything at all tying the two of you together over the last 10 years? I agree with others here who have said prioritize spending time together in person, but also think about anything you may have that could show a legitimate marital relationship in the last 10 years.

Edited yesterday at 05:38 PM by alliejourney

[Pink salt 0]

3 minutes ago, OldUser said:

@Pink salt is your wife much older than you?

Respected She is 9 years older than me 

[Pink salt 0]

5 minutes ago, alliejourney said:

Do not do this!!! 

 

As part of the I-129F packet, you have to disclose any prior marriages you had and provide the divorce decrees. Imagine how suspicious it will look for them to see a fresh divorce decree for the same exact person you're petitioning for. That is only going to hurt your case and make your marriage look less legitimate. The ONLY option for you is to pursue a spousal visa.

 

What kind of evidence do you have to show the legitimacy of your marriage? Any joint financials? Are you on each other's wills or power of attorney or beneficiaries for life insurance? Anything at all tying the two of you together over the last 10 years? I agree with others here who have said prioritize spending time together in person, but also think about anything you may have that could show a legitimate marital relationship in the last 10 years.

Thank for your advise sir 

Yup she is having a good job with many benefits her organization offering yes sir she put my name on her life insurance from her work also on hospital emergency number when she was hosptlize for fever in her bank she have my name 

[mitzab 334]

7 minutes ago, Pink salt said:

Thank for advidw my wife told me other option we can go for divorce she will be here for visit me for enough family and personal pics and evidence and apply for k1 visa it will really work or it happens 

 

Let me ask you point blank, do you have a genuine marriage?

 

If you do, then the option is still to focus on your marriage and build proper evidence together. If your wife visits you now, use that time to gather photos, family involvement, financial records, travel records, and other proof to show your relationship is real and ongoing. A short visit (multiple) will help, but ideally, spending more time together is what will really strengthen your case.

 

Divorce????? if you are really thinking it will be an easy fix it is absolutely not. it may create more red flags as people are suggesting here. 

 

If you don't then the premise to apply for any family based visa is null and void. 

 

I think you want to hear something from the community here, but unfortunately most of us will not give you any advice with are not per the law of the land. 

 

 

 

 

 

[Crazy Cat 45,342]

6 minutes ago, Pink salt said:

Thank for your advise sir 

Yup she is having a good job with many benefits her organization offering yes sir she put my name on her life insurance from her work also on hospital emergency number when she was hosptlize for fever in her bank she have my name 

That is irrelevant.  For your country, you need a LOT of time actually together as a married couple.  There is no other way.  I have seen cases denied for very little time together over such a long period.  She should consider moving to you.

Edited yesterday at 05:52 PM by Crazy Cat

[SalishSea 18,537]

42 minutes ago, Pink salt said:

Thank for advidw my wife told me other option we can go for divorce she will be here for visit me for enough family and personal pics and evidence and apply for k1 visa it will really work or it happens 

This is an ABSURD idea, and will only serve to confirm that you are in this for a green card, which is how it already looks.

 

OP, you have an uphill battle.  You will not be coming to the United States anytime soon, if at all.  Like others have said, the best thing you could do is have your wife move to Pakistan and live together as married partners.

 

The vetting and scrutiny is wayyyy harsher now than it was 10 years ago.  

[Lemonslice 5,318]

Forget about immigration, and think about it a minute... 

 

Your priority was not your marriage, or each other, in the last 10 years.  You said so yourself in your initial message. Ten years is a long time.   Why is immigrating suddenly important? 

 

Don't you want to spend some time together to see if you are actually able to be "married" first?

[S2N 446]

I don’t disagree with anything anyone else here has said, but I also don’t believe in beating a dead horse.

 

If you guys are committed to this the best steps are:

 

1) Consult a lawyer

 

2) Your wife should spend every second of her vacation with you and your family. Third countries are also fine, but in countries where family is prioritized time with family also matters.

 

3)If she’s not already filing joint taxes, she should start doing this in 2026, even consider amending and getting you an ITIN this year. It’ll be advantageous for her financially and will show some degree of commingling (it’s not necessary, and people on this site downplay it sometimes, but it’s usually listed as evidence you can provide in RFEs and NOIDs. I choose to take the government at its word that it helps.)

 

4) If you have other joint assets that’s a positive, but don’t do anything that looks manufactured

 

Listed in order of importance. Also I can’t emphasize enough that I agree with others this is a tough case, but I also believe in trying to be solution oriented. If you’re convinced this is a legitimate marriage, great. You have work to do to prove that to the government.

Edited 23 hours ago by S2N

[Daphne . 2,124]

1 hour ago, Pink salt said:

Thank for advidw my wife told me other option we can go for divorce she will be here for visit me for enough family and personal pics and evidence and apply for k1 visa it will really work or it happens 

Why would you do that? 
 

Also, just doing 1 visit again and creating evidence from that 1 trip alone is not going to make a strong case. 
 

Start spending more time together, or actually get to know each other and file after that. Apart from not seeing each other for 10 years, did you have regular communication? Phone calls, video calls, texts? 

Edited 23 hours ago by Daphne .

[JeanneAdil 7,252]

At this pont there is absolutely nohting , you the immigrant , can do

Alll this is in the hands of the USC wife as she would have to make the effort to be with you to satisfy immigration

 

she should join the forum

at this point the "Why" she did not visit is not as important as the fact that she did not make the effort 

any good CO at a new interview will look into the 9 out of the 10 years you were not together / new visits will not change the fact that your marriage is less than important to both of you

 

How has she been doing her tax returns ?  If as single,  she is not and the CO may want to know why

Has she tried to commingle any assets with u? 

has she been sending money to u in Pakistan?  which is not a good idea 

 

Looks to me and many of us that she wasn't keen on doing the travel and work needed to secure your visa 

that is harsh i know but my wife came to Moroc 5 times and spent a total of 10 months with me and family

 

you say the ceremony is a big thing and treated as a family gathering -with few photos?  It is a big family thing too in Moroc and all my family and friends had to be in photos especialy the little kids -couldn't leave any of them out and even had a USB made so they could have copies

 

Enough rant from me -just make sure your wife is wllling to go the long long haul to be with u in marriage as this is a visa for family unification

[Boiler 48,003]

Why is it urgent?

[SalishSea 18,537]

1 hour ago, S2N said:

If you guys are committed to this the best steps are:

 

Zero time spent together in person during a ten year marriage would strongly suggest they are not.

[appleblossom 4,950]

3 hours ago, Pink salt said:

Thank for advidw my wife told me other option we can go for divorce she will be here for visit me for enough family and personal pics and evidence and apply for k1 visa it will really work or it happens 

 

Tell your wife this is a VERY bad idea. Look at it from the immigration officer's point of view - you're trying to convince them you have a good legitimate marriage and yet you were married for 10 years, spent no time together during that decade, then divorced, then got engaged to marry again. How does that look like a good case for a relationship based visa?!? It will hurt your case, not help it.

 

Your only option is to start living your lives as a proper married couple. Visit each other regularly, as often as you can. Gather evidence of time together. And then apply further down the line once you have a solid foundation.

 

And be prepared to answer a lot of questions when you do come to apply. Most of us are finding it very odd that you've not seen each other, and to be frank, the reasons you've given don't make any sense. What is the actual reason you haven't seen each other in person for x number of years? How often do you speak on the phone or video call? 

Edited 21 hours ago by appleblossom