Bringing Mother-In-Law

[the VISA blues 0]

Hi All,

Just found out my wife is pregnant with our 2nd child. Our oldest will be 2 next month.

My wife is from Vietnam, and is a citizen. She wants to bring her mother over to help with the children. 

 

Her mother suggested my wife and son should go there so she (and rest of family) can take care of her, but I don't like the idea of the baby being born there. Not to mention

my son being there and not learning (or hearing) English for a period of time. Wouldn't there be a huge hassle to get the baby back to the USA?

 

Need some guidance/suggestions please.

[SalishSea 16,794]

28 minutes ago, the VISA blues said:

Hi All,

Just found out my wife is pregnant with our 2nd child. Our oldest will be 2 next month.

My wife is from Vietnam, and is a citizen. She wants to bring her mother over to help with the children. 

 

Her mother suggested my wife and son should go there so she (and rest of family) can take care of her, but I don't like the idea of the baby being born there. Not to mention

my son being there and not learning (or hearing) English for a period of time. Wouldn't there be a huge hassle to get the baby back to the USA?

 

Need some guidance/suggestions please.

There is no “helping with the children” visa.   If your MIL doesn’t already have a visitor visa, she’s free to apply.  
 

She can petition her mom for an immigrant visa if and when she becomes a US citizen.

[Cathi 5,613]

I second @Jorgedig

You cannot bring you mother in law here to "help" with the children. That would be considered working and that is a big no-no (illegal) on a visitor visa. 

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

2 hours ago, the VISA blues said:

Hi All,

Just found out my wife is pregnant with our 2nd child. Our oldest will be 2 next month.

My wife is from Vietnam, and is a citizen. She wants to bring her mother over to help with the children. 

 

Her mother suggested my wife and son should go there so she (and rest of family) can take care of her, but I don't like the idea of the baby being born there. Not to mention

my son being there and not learning (or hearing) English for a period of time. Wouldn't there be a huge hassle to get the baby back to the USA?

 

Need some guidance/suggestions please.

This sounds more like a family decision issue than a visa issue. Your MIL clearly does not want to uproot her life to come and look after the newborn and that’s her prerogative. You don’t want your wife and son to go for an indeterminate amount of time to Vietnam - also a completely understandable position. Maybe your option is to hire a nanny full or part time to help for a bit if you need extra help with the new baby and want everyone to stay in the US. 

 

Btw: if the baby is born either to a USC (you or your wife) who can pass on citizenship or to a lpr who brings him/her back on their first return to US before the baby turns 2, no there is no hassle bringing the baby back. 
 

 

Edited November 14, 2022 by SusieQQQ

[Dashinka 23,267]

15 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

This sounds more like a family decision issue than a visa issue. Your MIL clearly does not want to uproot her life to come and look after the newborn and that’s her prerogative. You don’t want your wife and son to go for an indeterminate amount of time to Vietnam - also a completely understandable position. Maybe your option is to hire a nanny full or part time to help for a bit if you need extra help with the new baby and want everyone to stay in the US. 

 

Btw: if the baby is born either to a USC (you or your wife) who can pass on citizenship or to a lpr who brings him/her back on their first return to US before the baby turns 2, no there is no hassle bringing the baby back. 
 

 

Except for the need to do CRBA to get the newborn a US passport if they are born outside the US.  Otherwise I agree, this is really a family decision, and even if the MIL has a valid B2, this is a no-no.  

Edited November 14, 2022 by Dashinka

[Rocio0010 5,567]

4 hours ago, the VISA blues said:

She wants to bring her mother over to help with the children.

She can't do that on a B1 B2 visa.

If baby is outside of the USA, filing a CRBA would be the best path in terms of citizenship.

 

 

[JeanneAdil 6,203]

wife can not take your son out of the country without your permission

 

u need to discuss with her what u and she will do 

What help does she need?

[Kanja 201]

It seems like your wife is a citizen, she can petition to bring her mom over then she can help with kids.

 

otherwise mom can apply for a visitor visa to come visit grandkids but won’t officially be able to “help”. 
 

Last option, your wife could travel to Vietnam AFTER the baby is born and has a passport etc. and get help with the kids. From an educational standpoint a baby that young won’t be impacted by not hearing English, the two year old can be engaged with games books etc.

 

Those are my suggestions - as others said it seems like you need to decide this with your family. 

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

If mother doesn’t want to be “brought over” then visa discussion is pointless anyway.