I dont know what to do, need some help.

[gyo 3]

Hi all,

 

I am in dire need of some help right now as i am very confused. I migrated to the US in 2019 via K1, currently have my conditional GC and will be removing conditions next year. Like most couples, we have had our arguments and all but the last one is really freaking me out. We had an argument about going to a party or something like. My wife went down the basement and started hurting herself, beating herself with a hammer. Then walks in and hands me a gun, telling me to keep it away from her that she might hurt herself. This scares me alot as much as i want to forget about it. She is seeing a psychiatrist now tho but is there any way to protect myself. This happened with her past marriage and i thought she had gotten over it. 

 

My mental health is wrecked right now and i have been keeping to myself because i dont want to do? How can i protect myself, do i report or something?

 

Thanks Guys.

Edited June 23, 2021 by gyo

[Sparkle Sparkle 913]

As much as you love her and want to support her...you should go to the police station and make a report ASAP. Not because you want to leave her or you are not willing to work things out, its just to have it on file and have the police investigate it. I have learnt that in marriage any injury on a person even if its self inflicted should be reported and investigated. Especially when a gun is involved...without help she is dangerous to herself and anybody around her. As a mental issue, you are still her husband and you should support her through this difficult period...she needs you psychological and emotionally. 

Edited June 23, 2021 by Sparkle Sparkle

[gyo 3]

1 minute ago, Sparkle Sparkle said:

As much as you love her and want to support her...you should go to the police station and make a report ASAP. Not because you want to leave her or you are not willing to work things out, its just to have it on file and have the police investigate it. I have learnt that in marriage any injury on a person even if its self inflicted should be reported and investigated. You are still her husband and you should support her through this difficult period...she needs you psychological and emotionally.

Thank you, do i call them or physically go make a report? 

[Sparkle Sparkle 913]

11 minutes ago, gyo said:

Thank you, do i call them or physically go make a report? calling them to the house might attract undue attention...you not traying to tell the world your wife has mental issues...you trying to have it investigated and have it on file.

Just walk into the nearest Police station...ask to speak with a police man

Edited June 23, 2021 by Sparkle Sparkle

[gyo 3]

4 minutes ago, Sparkle Sparkle said:

Just walk into the nearest Police station...ask to speak with a police man

Okay thank you so much.

[Sparkle Sparkle 913]

1 minute ago, gyo said:

Okay thank you so much.

I will not call them to the house as it  might attract undue attention...you not traying to tell the world your wife has mental issues...you trying to have it investigated and have it on file.

[Sparkle Sparkle 913]

Just out of curiosity, did you hit her?...have you ever hit her?....are you abusive? 

[gyo 3]

1 hour ago, Sparkle Sparkle said:

Just out of curiosity, did you hit her?...have you ever hit her?....are you abusive? 

Never! i am not abusive. It is an issue from her past and she has not healed from it yet. 

[little immigrant 800]

I was depressed and self harmed. My husband stopped a police car on the street and I was escorted to the ER so I don't harm myself 

 

I have since taken steps to overcome depression and stop self harm 

 

I wish you and your wife good luck 

Edited June 23, 2021 by little immigrant

[JeanneAdil 6,196]

Anytime a person causes harm or threatens to harm themself,  another person or property ,  the police should be notified 

whether you call 911 or go to the police is up to you

but do not ignore the problem

she could seriously hurt herself or you or someone else and blame you for domestic violence 

there is help but you have to get her to it as obviously her present medication is not helping 

 

A note 

HIde all sharp knifes

Get the gun out of the house 

Baseball bats,   fireplace pokers and the such should be hid also 

and i mean hid well or stored with a neighbor so she can not get to them

Edited June 23, 2021 by JeanneAdil

[Lucky2Lucky 2,526]

4 hours ago, gyo said:

Hi all,

 

I am in dire need of some help right now as i am very confused. I migrated to the US in 2019 via K1, currently have my conditional GC and will be removing conditions next year. Like most couples, we have had our arguments and all but the last one is really freaking me out. We had an argument about going to a party or something like. My wife went down the basement and started hurting herself, beating herself with a hammer. Then walks in and hands me a gun, telling me to keep it away from her that she might hurt herself. This scares me alot as much as i want to forget about it. She is seeing a psychiatrist now tho but is there any way to protect myself. This happened with her past marriage and i thought she had gotten over it. 

 

My mental health is wrecked right now and i have been keeping to myself because i dont want to do? How can i protect myself, do i report or something?

 

Thanks Guys.

This is not normal behavior. If it happens again please call 911 she should get sent to a hospital for a psych evaluation. Do you have the number to her psychiatrist? I would call and let them know what happened as well. They may not be able to discuss your wife’s care with you but this will not prevent you from informing the psychiatrist. Did you know your wife owned a gun? I would see if you could give this up to the police as well. Someone in this state of mind should not own a gun. If she got committed to a psych hospital she would have to get the guns confiscated or be taken out of the house and held by someone else (depending on state law). OP please be careful. You were given good advice earlier about going to the police to report this. It must be so hard and scary to see your wife go through this but you need to protect yourself as well. Good luck.

[Ontarkie 13,915]

As others have mentioned, call 911 if it ever happens again. Make a report of it to the police. Get the gun out of the house, the tools and anything else that can be grabbed easily. 

 

Get yourself counseling too. If need be get out and live somewhere else while she is in treatment. 

[Gyyomme 273]

Wow.

Edited June 24, 2021 by Drenimarcus

[Sparkle Sparkle 913]

Is @gyothe same person as @Drenimarcus??... Nonetheless, reporting will have absolutely no effect on kids... They will not be taken away as you are also a parent and capable of taking care of tjem while their mother gets mouch needed help. 

[gyo 3]

4 minutes ago, Sparkle Sparkle said:

Is @gyothe same person as @Drenimarcus??... Nonetheless, reporting will have absolutely no effect on kids... They will not be taken away as you are also a parent and capable of taking care of tjem while their mother gets mouch needed help. 

sorry for the confusion, that was my old account. I was on a different browser.