Foreign fiancee pregnant by someone else

[Hunkydory97 10]

9 minutes ago, GregAntillian said:

From the limited information that I have been able to gather, she originally was going to terminate (and likely never tell me), however she has a few issues with her reproductive side of things, and her doctor essentially told her "It's a miracle you were even able to get pregnant, it's not likely to happen again". After hearing that she chose not to terminate and keep it from me for quite a long while, obviously.

 

I still don't know all the details, but suffice to say things aren't exactly looking promising.

 

Just now, Orangesapples said:

I wouldn't call her a keeper at all. 

 

Where is the father in all this? Is he aware of the pregnancy? 

This is heartbreaking. I can see why she choose to keep the child. However, the lack of respect (not telling you) that would lead to significant trust issues. If she can hide / lie about that imagine what else she could if you marry her. You will end up even more hurt run as it’s still early. 

[Orangesapples 1,954]

2 minutes ago, Hunkydory97 said:

 

This is heartbreaking. I can see why she choose to keep the child. However, the lack of respect (not telling you) that would lead to significant trust issues. If she can hide / lie about that imagine what else she could if you marry her. You will end up even more hurt run as it’s still early. 

I'd say that her cheating on him will also lead to trust issues, and not telling him until close to her due date is the cherry on top. 

[Darlyn25 2]

Hello, 

I am sure this was already bought up. 

During the Medical examination they will have to answer to it and you will have to confirm you want to move forward, given this new information. 

If you have one or more children not listed on the visa petition, or a current pregnancy, or a prior undisclosed marriage even if it is now terminated, or currently have a contagious disease of public health significance, be prepared to present a notarized letter from the petitioner stating he/she knows the discrepancies between facts stated on the petition and your actual personal circumstances, and still wishes to proceed with marriage.

There will be a lot of questions at the interview, and given that she cheated, might be grounds for Denial by the officer. 

[JasonGG 270]

I don't think the OP mentioned which country his fiance is in and no profile info....some countries are difficult enough without having a pregnancy with another man during your relationship timeline to explain. 

 

Will you attend the interview with your fiance?  I would think the CO will want to speak to both of you.

 

Definitely a difficult situation and I wish you the best. - Jason

Edited July 23, 2020 by JasonGG

[SJordanS 343]

4 hours ago, GregAntillian said:

Going to try and keep this short, mainly looking for more information to see what kind of complications will arise.

 

USC male here, submitted i-129F back in Jan 2020, still in the waiting process.

 

Found out that my foreign fiancee is currently pregnant, and the child is definitely not mine.

I don't know much for details currently, as it led to a rather larger fight, as one might assume.

 

Providing we decide to move forward with our relationship and such, what kind of complications should I expect when it comes to getting approval for the K1 Visa?

 

Given the time frame of everything, unless the K1 is approved within the next 45 days or so (😂), child will not be born on US soil.

 

If we decide to continue to move forward and bring her child here, if she puts the father down on the BC, I know we would have to get a release from him to even be able to bring the child over, but what kind of things would be required on my part, short of a CRBA?

Honey.... from a womans perspective here....I need to say something. For an engaged woman to get pregnant by another man is more than just cheating. Are there no more chances in life for you where you can't POSSIBLY find another woman to love and respect you? Run now while you can! For so many reasons. Stop the bleeding while you can. You will be raising another mans child because whether you like it or not, she's now a "package deal". 

[Darlyn25 2]

3 minutes ago, SJordanS said:

Honey.... from a womans perspective here....I need to say something. For an engaged woman to get pregnant by another man is more than just cheating. Are there no more chances in life for you where you can't POSSIBLY find another woman to love and respect you? Run now while you can! For so many reasons. Stop the bleeding while you can. You will be raising another mans child because whether you like it or not, she's now a "package deal". 

I totally agree and brings up a lot of different things to think about. 

Not sure how far you are, sounds like still waiting for a NOA2. So yeah, some money wasted, but a lot better than doing the 134 and being locked in for 10 years, I believe. After they get here and Divorce. They will think about Visa fraud. 

If you move forward you should start putting things in place now to protect yourself. 

Key question is how can I Prove and Provide Support to the CO. 

 

[retheem 553]

Cheating is a choice. And she made a choice. Now make a choice which is good for you

[GregAntillian 2]

32 minutes ago, Darlyn25 said:

Hello, 

I am sure this was already bought up. 

During the Medical examination they will have to answer to it and you will have to confirm you want to move forward, given this new information. 

If you have one or more children not listed on the visa petition, or a current pregnancy, or a prior undisclosed marriage even if it is now terminated, or currently have a contagious disease of public health significance, be prepared to present a notarized letter from the petitioner stating he/she knows the discrepancies between facts stated on the petition and your actual personal circumstances, and still wishes to proceed with marriage.

There will be a lot of questions at the interview, and given that she cheated, might be grounds for Denial by the officer. 

You bring up the primary point of what I had been thinking with the situation. I would've eventually found out, and that would be far worse than her telling me in advance.

 

I find it unlikely that things would get approved, but that's mainly why I came here to seek some advice on the situation. I know the obvious thing would be to call it quits and leave her, and that's definitely a pretty big option at the moment, but I was mainly wondering if I do decide to stay... Is there actually a chance things would even get approved now?

[GregAntillian 2]

32 minutes ago, JasonGG said:

I don't think the OP mentioned which country his fiance is in and no profile info....some countries are difficult enough without having a pregnancy with another man during your relationship timeline to explain. 

 

Will you attend the interview with your fiance?  I would think the CO will want to speak to both of you.

 

Definitely a difficult situation and I wish you the best. - Jason

I had intentionally left things rather vague, but for the sake of information, the country in question is Russia.

 

I had intended to attend the interview, just would need to know when it was going to be, obviously.

44 minutes ago, PatLuvO said:

You had no idea this whole time she was pregnant? Were there any video calls or anything? How long have you been in a relationship? This is a sticky situation I hope you will be able to move on from the hurt. If you were my friend I’d tell you to end things now before you get hurt further. Children are a blessing and I hope she has a safe delivery. 

Plenty of video calls and pictures... But it explains why they were only face height. 😂

[GregAntillian 2]

45 minutes ago, Orangesapples said:

I wouldn't call her a keeper at all. 

 

Where is the father in all this? Is he aware of the pregnancy? 

I have no clue, and... To be quite honest, I don't even care or want to know. If I had to hinder a guess, I'd say likely an ex boyfriend.

[frodolives 7]

1 hour ago, Orangesapples said:

And it looks like she only told him when she was 45 days away from giving birth! And didn't even consider termination. So she knew she was pregnant for months and never mentioned it to her fiancée. But that's OP's business, I don't know how anyone could be OK with this, especially when they are not even married, but it's OP's call

If this were me, I wouldn’t even be referring to the person as my fiancé at this point. But of course, there’s always a stage of shock and denial after finding out such upsetting news. Hopefully he ends up choosing what is best for him. 

[Lucky2Lucky 2,526]

5 hours ago, GregAntillian said:

Oh man, I've accidentally opened a can of worms. Totally not intended to happen.

 

As things are currently, still considering moving forward, but have to figure out the whole child thing. I know I don't want to be legally responsible, or on the birth certificate for someone else's kid.

Is this someone you would want to be financially responsible for potentially her entire life? If the kid comes on a k2 you’d be responsible for him as well.

[Darlyn25 2]

21 minutes ago, GregAntillian said:

You bring up the primary point of what I had been thinking with the situation. I would've eventually found out, and that would be far worse than her telling me in advance.

 

I find it unlikely that things would get approved, but that's mainly why I came here to seek some advice on the situation. I know the obvious thing would be to call it quits and leave her, and that's definitely a pretty big option at the moment, but I was mainly wondering if I do decide to stay... Is there actually a chance things would even get approved now?

I am no expert here: Here are a few things that come to mind:

Since Russian is a High Risk Country likely be extremely hard to convince the CO. 

 

Even if you get the CO to approve, I am thinking the POE officer will send her back. 

You also have to think about do you really want to be tied to her for Ten years? Even if you get her a GC. Will she leave you after? There are a lot of stories happening like that from there. 

The real question, and you do not have to answer here, is why you even want to stay? 

[nykolos 711]

The title of this thread should be; "How do I cancel my K1 Visa Petition?"

 

Disloyalty, Distrust and outright Disrespect, 3 things that will live on into the relationship until you divorce, Is that really what you want?

 

 

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1 minute ago, Darlyn25 said:

 

Even if you get the CO to approve, I am thinking the POE officer will send her back. 
 

On what basis?