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[Going through 5,674]

17 minutes ago, Islams Wife said:

Such great advice.....

 

I should run back to the states and sit in my comfortable home while my husband is homeless.

 

We knew the sacrifice when we married of losing our families.

Do you  call it love just thinking of myself and leaving him alone???

I call that being selfish.

I dont abandon my partner!

I know it's a tough situation you are in right now....and you feel like you would be abandoning your husband.  I'm sure that he is suffering, as well, seeing you get sicker without appropriate medical attention...and I'm sure that he would not want to see you get worse, or pass away, because you didn't want to leave---that would make him feel guilty and as if he were responsible for your demise, I'm sure.

 

Again, a very tough situation medically, logistically, financially and emotionally all-around.

 

Medically, you can receive treatment if you were to return to the States.  Thankfully you are a US citizen so you have right of entry.

Logistically, you would be in the care of your own doctors, as you stated as your preference.

Financially, you may be lucky enough to be in a better place after you return to the States and be able to then sponsor your husband for his green card so that he may follow you.

Emotionally, it would be hard to be separated for a bit of time---but true love conquers all, as they say, and you would know that once you sponsored your husband there would be an end in sight to be together again in a more secure country where you could continue your medical treatments and live a better life together.

 

Naturally, it's easier said than done, of course---no one is doubting your love and devotion to one another.  Most feel the same way about their own spouses when starting their own immigration journeys.  

 

There is no selfishness in taking care of your well-being.  Selfishness would be NOT taking care of your well-being so that you could, in turn, take care of his.  You have to look at the whole picture here, not just one part.

 

 

 

Edited September 16, 2017 by Going through

[JFH 12,192]

16 minutes ago, Islams Wife said:

Such great advice.....

 

I should run back to the states and sit in my comfortable home while my husband is homeless.

 

We knew the sacrifice when we married of losing our families.

Do you  call it love just thinking of myself and leaving him alone???

I call that being selfish.

I dont abandon my partner!

We call that short-term pain for long-term gain. It's a very simple concept. You spend a year apart, you find a job in the USA, file the paperwork, pay the fees and then your husband gets his visa and becomes a permanent resident. Yes, permanent. You will then never be separated ever again. It's a wonderful life. 

 

Being married and immigrating are both very adult choices and require the maturity of adults. You sound like two lovesick teenagers with all the melodrama and "woe is me" approach. Not one of us here enjoyed the process. Not one of us here enjoyed the necessary separation. But when life gives you lemons, you make lemonade. It took over 2 years for my husband and I to get through the process to be together (including a denial). There are people whose situation in this process is far worse. You have chosen this path. If military spouses can go through months of separation not knowing if their wife or husband will still be alive tomorrow, you can come back to the USA for a while to do what you need to do to bring your husband home. No one ever said this was easy. I promise you I do not love my husband any less than you love yours. It was an awful thing to be apart from him. It caused us physical pain. But everything has an end and when it comes to a CR-1 visa, the end is worth waiting for. 

 

I really don't have sympathy for someone who chose to live in a country where they can't get a work permit and now have no money, despite having a house in their homeland that they could return to tomorrow if they were adult about it. There's no special help for reckless decisions. 

[Lemonslice 5,172]

58 minutes ago, Islams Wife said:

Such great advice.....

 

I should run back to the states and sit in my comfortable home while my husband is homeless.

 

We knew the sacrifice when we married of losing our families.

Do you  call it love just thinking of myself and leaving him alone???

I call that being selfish.

I dont abandon my partner!

Returning to the US would allow you to stay alive and even send some funds to the husband to help him out. Both of you being alive is essential. No long term plans without that. 

 

Other options: moving to a country where you could get care and one of you is authorized to work.  Algeria is a large country, why not move away from your families.  I have a friend undergoing dialysis who visited her family there and got treatment.

 

As they say, when you're in a hole, stop digging. Step back, take a moment to think about your next logical actions. You're only victims of your own choices right now.

[Islams Wife 1]

Iam 43 years he is 37 years old

For going throw the procces i can not stay without my husband iam sick i wanted just to know if their is a fast way to get him with me

[Roel 7,193]

No. The only way is to file the spouse visa. For that, you need a domicile in the US and proof of financial support. 

 

For your age you two seems to be very immature...

[Lemonslice 5,172]

There's no magic solutions, you might not like the answers, however this does not have to be a tragic story where you end up dying in each other's arms.  Sit down and set a logical plan. 

Edited September 16, 2017 by Ryan H
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[Islams Wife 1]

Our lives our choice....

You willing to marry a man and leave him for 2 years in this messed up world?

Risk travel bans?  Risk ban lists?  

This would mean never being together again.

Im not speaking about military. ...

But other than that who in their right mind marrys and stays apart and sits in another country???

Why you didnt move in with him during your wait?

Or didnt he invite you

 

[Roel 7,193]

1 minute ago, Islams Wife said:

But other than that who in their right mind marrys and stays apart and sits in another country???

Why you didnt move in with him during your wait?

Or didnt he invite you

 

 

People who want their loved ones to move to the US with them. I guess they are all crazy people.

 

Why they can't move to the foreign countries during the process? Well, maybe because they need JOBS and money to finance the process and prove they can support the immigrant.

[Islams Wife 1]

5 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

There's no magic solutions, you might not like the answers, however this does not have to be a tragic story where you end up dying in each other's arms.  Sit down and set a logical plan. 

Ok thank you your answer's are fine but some people they answer with a cruel way in this forum 

[carolynhotstuff 252]

We have been married 8 years and he is here in the USA and unlike you we have a home, he has a good job and we have money. We were forced 2 spend 2 years apart so that he could come to the USA and have a good life. 

[Islams Wife 1]

7 minutes ago, Roel said:

 

People who want their loved ones to move to the US with them. I guess they are all crazy people.

 

Why they can't move to the foreign countries during the process? Well, maybe because they need JOBS and money to finance the process and prove they can support the immigrant.

Sorry my marrige is a PROCESS

your only object was a ticket for him to USA.

 

[Lemonslice 5,172]

Being snarky and defensive with strangers on the internet  is not going to help you. Step back and work on a plan that works for your marriage and health situation - you took a few steps back, work your way to the right path. Read the guides, read on other countries requirements and health facilities. 

[Ryan H 3,863]

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Edited September 16, 2017 by Ryan H