Dont rush on Marriage after Fiance(e) arrives in U.S.A.

[riaz_m_syed 4]

I hope people take this seriously...If you do, you will save yourself huge grief. After your fiance comes to U.S.A. take at least one or two months or full 90 days before you get married. Remember, all this while you have not gotten a chance to live with each other. chat and video is different from the reality of living together. So it gives both partners time to make sure they really want to get married and after you are absolutely sure, then go ahead with marriage.

Actually, that is the purpose of the 90 day limit of marriage. Because getting married will bring lot of liabilities on the couple, so be careful. Helps eliminate fraud as well

[vocal 41]

What you're saying is both wrong and dangerous actually.

"Actually, that is the purpose of the 90 day limit of marriage" -> No! The 90 day limit is to give you a little time to prepare, you have already attested that you *will* get married.

 

What does fraud have to do with it as well?

 

Also, you're implying the couple haven't met, which usually isn't the case because it is a requirement to meet for K1.

 

[RJandHamid 1,128]

You gave some good advice. Having a long distance, online relationship is so much different than living in the same house with one another day after day. I think timing of the actual marriage to be up to the couple, since many have spent a considerable amount of time living together before or during the K1 process. On the other hand, there are couples that spend years living together and still end up separated or unhappy.

 

Personally, I'll be getting married shortly after my fiancé arrives, mainly for the purpose of filing AOS as soon as possible. I think a lot of problems could arise if he had to wait 90 days and then an additional 3 months again before being able to work or travel outside the US. Ultimately the couple should decide what is best for relationship in the long run.

[riaz_m_syed 4]

3 minutes ago, vocal said:

What you're saying is both wrong and dangerous actually.

"Actually, that is the purpose of the 90 day limit of marriage" -> No! The 90 day limit is to give you a little time to prepare, you have already attested that you *will* get married.

 

What does fraud have to do with it as well?

 

Also, you're implying the couple haven't met, which usually isn't the case because it is a requirement to meet for K1.

 

Not everyone have spent significant time together under one roof. But many have like you may not need extra time.please don't be riled up, this is helpful for those who haven't spent enough time under one roof. 

[riaz_m_syed 4]

11 minutes ago, vocal said:

What you're saying is both wrong and dangerous actually.

"Actually, that is the purpose of the 90 day limit of marriage" -> No! The 90 day limit is to give you a little time to prepare, you have already attested that you *will* get married.

 

What does fraud have to do with it as well?

 

Also, you're implying the couple haven't met, which usually isn't the case because it is a requirement to meet for K1.

 

There are many people who fully satisfy the meeting requirement and they still haven't lived together. Long distance relationship is NOT the same as living together. After you live with the person...that's when you know the real person

[Mary Lou 670]

Just now, riaz_m_syed said:

There are many people who fully satisfy the meeting requirement and they still haven't lived together. Long distance relationship is NOT the same as living together. After you live with the person...that's when you know the real person

The same can be said for spouses who have not lived together after marriage, its not possible for all couples to live together. The 90 days isn't for seeing how it is to live with the other person, or a trial period as you are implying in your original post.

[Scandi 3,970]

No. When you apply for the K-1 visa you have already decided that you want to get married and will get married. The K-1 visa is not a "try before buy" visa. 

[Scandi 3,970]

22 minutes ago, riaz_m_syed said:

There are many people who fully satisfy the meeting requirement and they still haven't lived together. Long distance relationship is NOT the same as living together. After you live with the person...that's when you know the real person

Then you shouldn't apply for the K-1 if you're not sure you want to get married with the person. Then you or the foreigner have to spend more time together until you're sure that's what you want to do. 

[Ontarkie 13,915]

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[Jon&Daiz 19]

The K1 visa application is very lengthy and laborious so make sure you're 100% sure you've chosen the right one. I've married my fiance less than 24 hours upon my arrival in US. He already prepared everything before i even came here. We only spend time together twice (6 & 11 days) before we realized that the time away from each other is agonizing so we applied for K1 visa. Now we're happily married for almost 5 months. Sure every relationship has its ups and down but its part of the deal. Don't waste your time and money in applying for K1 visa if you're not sure with your feelings. It's unfair to the fiance/fiancee to leave their job, family and friends in their home country and end up jilted.

[Unlockable 7,306]

21 hours ago, riaz_m_syed said:

I hope people take this seriously...If you do, you will save yourself huge grief. After your fiance comes to U.S.A. take at least one or two months or full 90 days before you get married. Remember, all this while you have not gotten a chance to live with each other. chat and video is different from the reality of living together. So it gives both partners time to make sure they really want to get married and after you are absolutely sure, then go ahead with marriage.

Actually, that is the purpose of the 90 day limit of marriage. Because getting married will bring lot of liabilities on the couple, so be careful. Helps eliminate fraud as well

The last sentence is debatable. We have seen immigrants go as far as stay in a marriage for multiple months/years and even have children while their only goal was to get a green card or citizenship. After the green card/citizenship is received they leave the US citizen and the child behind.

[doggieandsam 765]

21 hours ago, riaz_m_syed said:

I hope people take this seriously...If you do, you will save yourself huge grief. After your fiance comes to U.S.A. take at least one or two months or full 90 days before you get married. Remember, all this while you have not gotten a chance to live with each other. chat and video is different from the reality of living together. So it gives both partners time to make sure they really want to get married and after you are absolutely sure, then go ahead with marriage.

Actually, that is the purpose of the 90 day limit of marriage. Because getting married will bring lot of liabilities on the couple, so be careful. Helps eliminate fraud as well

i have to agree with the others here. i am not discounting your point because it is valid, but @Scandi is right, applying for the K1 visa means you have decided to marry your fiance/e. you provide proof of intent that this is what you intend to do under threat of perjury, you do not use a K1 visa for trial purposes! 

[yuna628 9,528]

If you don't know your partner well enough to marry them, then you shouldn't be applying for a K1 period.

[riaz_m_syed 4]

51 minutes ago, iamdegie said:

i have to agree with the others here. i am not discounting your point because it is valid, but @Scandi is right, applying for the K1 visa means you have decided to marry your fiance/e. you provide proof of intent that this is what you intend to do under threat of perjury, you do not use a K1 visa for trial purposes! 

Yes I agree that's the best way unless u know well don't file for k1 There are many people I know who get really excited to marry someone just through interactions on whatsapp skype. That's not enough. Yes they go and meet the fiancé(e) once or twice for few days just to meet the requirements of k1 visa. That's not enough to make up your mind for marriage. 

[Limey 550]

22 hours ago, riaz_m_syed said:

I hope people take this seriously...If you do, you will save yourself huge grief. After your fiance comes to U.S.A. take at least one or two months or full 90 days before you get married. Remember, all this while you have not gotten a chance to live with each other. chat and video is different from the reality of living together. So it gives both partners time to make sure they really want to get married and after you are absolutely sure, then go ahead with marriage.

Actually, that is the purpose of the 90 day limit of marriage. Because getting married will bring lot of liabilities on the couple, so be careful. Helps eliminate fraud as well

Why on earth would you agree to marry someone you weren't sure you wanted to marry?

 

By the time I came into the USA on my k1 visa I'd spent around 6 months in total living with my fiancee during several trips. I wouldn't marry someone I hadn't really spent time with.

 

Delaying marriage means AOS is going to be delayed. For many people that isn't an option (they don't have the resources to go months without working).