I-129F March 2017 Filers

[TearsOfBabylon 1,680]

1 hour ago, Eric&Olya said:

Yet another point of view on how and why beneficiaries are ready to pack up and move

 

For me it's a question of prioritizing, and my top priority is my fiance's happiness. I know that I can find a job (almost) anywhere, I can adapt to (almost) any place, I can get on well with (almost) anyone, etc. It might sound too self-assured, but it's true. He, on the other hand, would be miserable in my country. He doesn't speak the language, which makes finding a job difficult, he would miss his family too much, and so on. That said, I could give a dozen of reasons why it would be hard or inconvenient for me to move but I choose not to focus on them, I put my fiance first.

I totally understand your point! 
For him it would be more complicated to come here as well, since he doesn't speak much German. Actually just fragments.

On the other hand, I am gonna leave a lot...

I'm in my company for 10 years now, being assistant of plant manager/human resources agent, and responsible for production staff. 
I am aware, my carreer is over by the time I leave my company and step on a plane. I won't be able to have this job again, but it's ok.
Being a future milspouse I'll have to move anyways, so I'm fine with that, and I got used to the thought of retail or whatever.
Scott said, a part time job would be enough, so I'll see where it leads to. 

My social life is a different thing... that will be a hard one. 

Not for him. He's in the military for 12 years now, constantly moving and deploying all over the planet, used to being away from family and friends. 

I'm far away from most of my friends as well, but.... I'm very active in concerts, so my circle of people is spread out all over Germany and the Netherlands. 
Less than two concerts a month are bad for health
So I am out A LOT, touring (mostly "with" my favorite band, who I'm friends with and who are from my area), meeting crazy people all the time.
I will miss that... I was at tv productions, video shoots, so many concerts, got to know so many people, who I love to meet here and there and everywhere. 
I dragged Scott with me as well, while he was here and he did enjoy it, too. 
The music thing will be a big hole in my life, once I'm gone. I was very fortunate to experience so many exciting adventures in the past years. 
This will not be replaceable with anything in the US. There will be new stuff to do, but my life here is priceless - in that case. 

So I'm well used to be far away from friends and family, and only have online contact, but there will be no more gathering in the next time, and that's hard.
Of course the reason to leave is more than worth it, but still I would lie if I'd say it's no big deal for me.

I've developed my lifestyle in the past years, after I lived like an alien for the most part of my life.
I absolutely don't need to start over - I only want to.
That's my thoughts!

[Eric&Olya 881]

1 hour ago, TearsOfBabylon said:

I totally understand your point! 
For him it would be more complicated to come here as well, since he doesn't speak much German. Actually just fragments.

On the other hand, I am gonna leave a lot...

I'm in my company for 10 years now, being assistant of plant manager/human resources agent, and responsible for production staff. 
I am aware, my carreer is over by the time I leave my company and step on a plane. I won't be able to have this job again, but it's ok.
Being a future milspouse I'll have to move anyways, so I'm fine with that, and I got used to the thought of retail or whatever.
Scott said, a part time job would be enough, so I'll see where it leads to. 

My social life is a different thing... that will be a hard one. 

Not for him. He's in the military for 12 years now, constantly moving and deploying all over the planet, used to being away from family and friends. 

I'm far away from most of my friends as well, but.... I'm very active in concerts, so my circle of people is spread out all over Germany and the Netherlands. 
Less than two concerts a month are bad for health
So I am out A LOT, touring (mostly "with" my favorite band, who I'm friends with and who are from my area), meeting crazy people all the time.
I will miss that... I was at tv productions, video shoots, so many concerts, got to know so many people, who I love to meet here and there and everywhere. 
I dragged Scott with me as well, while he was here and he did enjoy it, too. 
The music thing will be a big hole in my life, once I'm gone. I was very fortunate to experience so many exciting adventures in the past years. 
This will not be replaceable with anything in the US. There will be new stuff to do, but my life here is priceless - in that case. 

So I'm well used to be far away from friends and family, and only have online contact, but there will be no more gathering in the next time, and that's hard.
Of course the reason to leave is more than worth it, but still I would lie if I'd say it's no big deal for me.

I've developed my lifestyle in the past years, after I lived like an alien for the most part of my life.
I absolutely don't need to start over - I only want to.
That's my thoughts!

Yeah, sounds like your social life will be extremely difficult to replace...

Then again, if you are so active, you will find something new wherever you go Maybe even start your own band "Anonymous Whiners" 

[TearsOfBabylon 1,680]

4 minutes ago, Eric&Olya said:

Yeah, sounds like your social life will be extremely difficult to replace...

Then again, if you are so active, you will find something new wherever you go Maybe even start your own band "Anonymous Whiners" 

Haha, good point! 
If I wasn't totally free of talent! But I'm a very talented clapper lol 

Nah, it will be fine. I have thought about it, Scott knows about it (and he also likes my people), and I have made my decision with all consequences. So I will stick to it and make the best out of it!
And for the bigger tour legs I'll just fly in and join the Happy Metal travel group!

Everytime he whines about me going to eat all his food and his free time being lost in the future I blame him for screwing up my life plan. I was planning on moving to Hamburg before we got together. 

So it's a win/win. We both screwed each others plans.... and I love we did!

[Eric&Olya 881]

7 minutes ago, TearsOfBabylon said:

So it's a win/win. We both screwed each others plans.... and I love we did!

Now you can make new plans together, isn't it wonderful?

I have already talked Eric into a half of my crazy plans, like learning how to dance tango or starting an escape room business

[KozmicBlues 592]

Ugh, I really feel like crying/screaming today. As if this entire process isn't emotionally draining enough, I also have to deal with really pathetic people saying things about me and my fiance. Long story short - we work for the same company/same department, just different locations (obviously) and met through work. So many people at his office have been saying things implying that he is just using me for money. They think I am some rich girl because I have an "American salary" but little do they know, I'm just as broke as anybody else! I worked 3 jobs to afford the trips to go visit my fiance and recently moved into a tiny bedroom in a house with friends to save money for this whole process. He's been saving everything he can also. They think because I brought him clothes (all purchased from outlet stores like Ross btw) and sent him a phone (which he paid me for!!) that he is only in it for money. They also say things like "ohh so when are you going to the U.S.?" in such a condescending way that you know exactly what they are thinking.

 

They have no idea that we had been talking and in love for years prior to me visiting and frankly it's none of their business. Never once has my fiance asked me for money or gifts and he's the one who was originally begging me to just move there and he would take care of me! I had to convince him that moving here to the US was best for our future. Ugh!! My fiance is probably going to put in his notice soon and I hope that makes things better, but a lot of these people are my "friends" too. They all add me on FB and like all of my stuff. Makes me sick that people feel the need to judge others so much. 

[pajobra 1,395]

25 minutes ago, KozmicBlues said:

Ugh, I really feel like crying/screaming today. As if this entire process isn't emotionally draining enough, I also have to deal with really pathetic people saying things about me and my fiance. Long story short - we work for the same company/same department, just different locations (obviously) and met through work. So many people at his office have been saying things implying that he is just using me for money. They think I am some rich girl because I have an "American salary" but little do they know, I'm just as broke as anybody else! I worked 3 jobs to afford the trips to go visit my fiance and recently moved into a tiny bedroom in a house with friends to save money for this whole process. He's been saving everything he can also. They think because I brought him clothes (all purchased from outlet stores like Ross btw) and sent him a phone (which he paid me for!!) that he is only in it for money. They also say things like "ohh so when are you going to the U.S.?" in such a condescending way that you know exactly what they are thinking.

 

They have no idea that we had been talking and in love for years prior to me visiting and frankly it's none of their business. Never once has my fiance asked me for money or gifts and he's the one who was originally begging me to just move there and he would take care of me! I had to convince him that moving here to the US was best for our future. Ugh!! My fiance is probably going to put in his notice soon and I hope that makes things better, but a lot of these people are my "friends" too. They all add me on FB and like all of my stuff. Makes me sick that people feel the need to judge others so much. 

Oh for pete sake they are just jealous because they wish they had the love you two have. Honestly I think that people like that are missing something in their lives. I also hate how much people judge. It drives me bonkers.  Like last night my Mum and I were talking and she assumed that Chris was paying for all my stuff like my medical and stuff. I said um no mum I have been painstakingly saving from every paycheque so that I could pay that myself. I hate that I will have to rely on him for 3-4 months before I can work. I HATE THAT. Soooo I got the second job so that I could save up as much as I could to pay for stuff myself while waiting to work. Like my damn canadian cell phone thats still on contract until 2019 and my credit card which I will have down to almost nothing by then so I can close it out and work on getting an american one. I just wish that our dollar was better bah for like 100 canadian dollars I can get 75 american dollars. BAH lol

[TearsOfBabylon 1,680]

1 hour ago, KozmicBlues said:

Ugh, I really feel like crying/screaming today. As if this entire process isn't emotionally draining enough, I also have to deal with really pathetic people saying things about me and my fiance. Long story short - we work for the same company/same department, just different locations (obviously) and met through work. So many people at his office have been saying things implying that he is just using me for money. They think I am some rich girl because I have an "American salary" but little do they know, I'm just as broke as anybody else! I worked 3 jobs to afford the trips to go visit my fiance and recently moved into a tiny bedroom in a house with friends to save money for this whole process. He's been saving everything he can also. They think because I brought him clothes (all purchased from outlet stores like Ross btw) and sent him a phone (which he paid me for!!) that he is only in it for money. They also say things like "ohh so when are you going to the U.S.?" in such a condescending way that you know exactly what they are thinking.

 

They have no idea that we had been talking and in love for years prior to me visiting and frankly it's none of their business. Never once has my fiance asked me for money or gifts and he's the one who was originally begging me to just move there and he would take care of me! I had to convince him that moving here to the US was best for our future. Ugh!! My fiance is probably going to put in his notice soon and I hope that makes things better, but a lot of these people are my "friends" too. They all add me on FB and like all of my stuff. Makes me sick that people feel the need to judge others so much. 

Chin up, fellow! And keep your head up high!

Let the morons talk... it's only a short time until he's with you, and you don't have to deal with certain people anymore.

I would also not add those on Facebook. It's all none of their business.

I'm broke as hell as well, but still trying to pay for most of my stuff myself. 
Here people are very anti American.
You have no clue how many of this "politics managers" have felt the need to tell me their opinion about DT after the election, just because they know my fiance is USC.

It's so annoying.... 

YOU know what you have together, so live it and show them a middle finger with a smile on your face! Hugs from potatoland!

Edited April 26, 2017 by TearsOfBabylon

[dkmfan85 832]

2 hours ago, KozmicBlues said:

Ugh, I really feel like crying/screaming today. As if this entire process isn't emotionally draining enough, I also have to deal with really pathetic people saying things about me and my fiance. Long story short - we work for the same company/same department, just different locations (obviously) and met through work. So many people at his office have been saying things implying that he is just using me for money. They think I am some rich girl because I have an "American salary" but little do they know, I'm just as broke as anybody else! I worked 3 jobs to afford the trips to go visit my fiance and recently moved into a tiny bedroom in a house with friends to save money for this whole process. He's been saving everything he can also. They think because I brought him clothes (all purchased from outlet stores like Ross btw) and sent him a phone (which he paid me for!!) that he is only in it for money. They also say things like "ohh so when are you going to the U.S.?" in such a condescending way that you know exactly what they are thinking.

 

They have no idea that we had been talking and in love for years prior to me visiting and frankly it's none of their business. Never once has my fiance asked me for money or gifts and he's the one who was originally begging me to just move there and he would take care of me! I had to convince him that moving here to the US was best for our future. Ugh!! My fiance is probably going to put in his notice soon and I hope that makes things better, but a lot of these people are my "friends" too. They all add me on FB and like all of my stuff. Makes me sick that people feel the need to judge others so much. 

I've heard very similar things about my fiancee because of where she is from. I can take the mail order bride jokes pretty well, but I worry about my dear sweetheart. She is very sensitive, and I'm sure some dummy some day will say something stupid in front of her. Sometimes people just don't think about how their words will affect people before they open their mouths.

[chicago_23 90]

On 4/21/2017 at 7:17 PM, Yasmin&Hab said:

 

[Eric&Olya 881]

8 hours ago, KozmicBlues said:

Ugh, I really feel like crying/screaming today. As if this entire process isn't emotionally draining enough, I also have to deal with really pathetic people saying things about me and my fiance. Long story short - we work for the same company/same department, just different locations (obviously) and met through work. So many people at his office have been saying things implying that he is just using me for money. They think I am some rich girl because I have an "American salary" but little do they know, I'm just as broke as anybody else! I worked 3 jobs to afford the trips to go visit my fiance and recently moved into a tiny bedroom in a house with friends to save money for this whole process. He's been saving everything he can also. They think because I brought him clothes (all purchased from outlet stores like Ross btw) and sent him a phone (which he paid me for!!) that he is only in it for money. They also say things like "ohh so when are you going to the U.S.?" in such a condescending way that you know exactly what they are thinking.

 

They have no idea that we had been talking and in love for years prior to me visiting and frankly it's none of their business. Never once has my fiance asked me for money or gifts and he's the one who was originally begging me to just move there and he would take care of me! I had to convince him that moving here to the US was best for our future. Ugh!! My fiance is probably going to put in his notice soon and I hope that makes things better, but a lot of these people are my "friends" too. They all add me on FB and like all of my stuff. Makes me sick that people feel the need to judge others so much. 

That's quite insulting to get such an attitude from your colleagues... I can't imagine how frustrated you both are.

On the other hand, I feel pity for losers like them - they are trying to find an excuse for being as miserable as they are, and accusing others of being dishonest seems like an easy way for them. 

My ex-husband used to do the same, telling everyone that I tricked a rich American into marrying me. Little does he know that we have almost the same hourly rate Well, my fiance does make more than me, but it's because of his military disability pension, which is not something I would envy.

[Maria124 98]

On 26/04/2017 at 0:44 PM, BlackbirdRN said:

I like the idea of getting screenshots of future plans & screenshots of video calls every week. Although we talk about our future plans more over the video/audio calls because we don't like long texts lol. Hopefully we have some and include it in our proof of on-going relationship  We took screenshots of our call logs from the time we used Skype, facebook messenger, facetime. We had a hard time digging in our old facebook messenger video/audio call logs (the app freezes and crashes). 

 

I don't know if it's advisable to include the duration of the calls or will it just give the interviewer an idea to ask more questions during the interview. (or I'm just overthinking) 

hello . really wondering from what time span of conversations are important? from the beginning of relationship, the rime from sending documents up to approval .. coz if its going to be from start of relationship , that would require a lot of scanning and too bad i changed watsapp number and forgot skype Paswords . 😯

[Estibaliz 3,037]

43 minutes ago, Maria124 said:

hello . really wondering from what time span of conversations are important? from the beginning of relationship, the rime from sending documents up to approval .. coz if its going to be from start of relationship , that would require a lot of scanning and too bad i changed watsapp number and forgot skype Paswords . 😯

Well, for the interview you are supposed to bring proof of ongoing relationship, that it would be the time frame between when you sent the i129F petition and the interview date... Because supposedly you already sent proof of relationship with the aforementioned petition.

[pajobra 1,395]

Good morning March Filers or afternoon or evening wherever you are.  I am feeling pretty good today. Gotta head out in a half hour to help my Mum get the newspaper out since its mailing day but that takes 2 hours and then we all go out for lunch. Its a weekly newspaper thats been in my family for over 100 years. Not my cup of tea but I help out on mailing day. My sister and her hubby are taking it over from my Mum when she finally retires in like 10 years. lol

 

Feeling pretty good today. Just gotta let my brother-in-law know I am taking vacation from July 14th-23rd and that I can not work at the golf course those days. I am heading down to visit Chris then and I am sooooo excited.  I miss him so so much. I also booked off a weekend in August but that is for my other job as we go on a weekend book buying trip to the city. Kinda sad it will be my last book buying trip with my co-workers. 

 

Hope you all have a super day!

[Maria124 98]

3 hours ago, Estibaliz said:

Well, for the interview you are supposed to bring proof of ongoing relationship, that it would be the time frame between when you sent the i129F petition and the interview date... Because supposedly you already sent proof of relationship with the aforementioned petition.

Ok. I see.. Thankyou. ☺️ So no need for the old conversations.. And also some applications with videocalls doesnt Have a date on it. I gues call Logs together with those would be good?? 

[Estibaliz 3,037]

47 minutes ago, Maria124 said:

Ok. I see.. Thankyou. ☺️ So no need for the old conversations.. And also some applications with videocalls doesnt Have a date on it. I gues call Logs together with those would be good?? 

I reckon that would be just perfect. I have to say I'm not bothering with call logs, since we only video chat on FB during the weekends... Maybe I'm making a mistake with that, but I think emails and Messenger captions are enough, given I can also explain everything in the interview. Hope so!