Please help me! My ex-wife used me to get her residency

[slangofoil 50]

I'm so very sorry this happened to you but if you can cut your losses and your parents and you can afford it I would buy her a one way ticket for the next flight to Europe just make sure you drive her to the airport and she gets on the plane. Good luck to you. Just be nice tell her you understand and that you want to help her, two can play at this game.

He has no power to make her leave. Sure, go waste some money buying a ticket for a flight she has no reason to get on.

She's in school. She has a life here for now. The marriage didn't work out. Sorry bout your luck, OP, but just move on with your life.

[Soloenta 2,218]

He has no power to make her leave. Sure, go waste some money buying a ticket for a flight she has no reason to get on.

She's in school. She has a life here for now. The marriage didn't work out. Sorry bout your luck, OP, but just move on with your life.

Didn't mean for him to buy her the ticket and give it to her or force her but offer it to her, since if you actually read the post she WANTS to go live and work in Europe. Geeez sorry I wasn't more specific! I just hope she leaves so hey are off the hook finacially sure seems everyone is on her side and this poor guy is left with a broken heart after this nightmare of a process. Now the fear of her taking advantage of not only him but his parents. He signed the AOS because he loved her, he shouldn't have to haunted by this anymore. The laws need to change to protect citizens from those taking advantage because non of us are psychic! One would think we would all have more compassion geez some of you are just brutal.

[Teddy B 17,251]

If you had took time to fill in your time line.,.,.,and tell us all the details as where she is from, what happened, when and where.,.,.,..,.YOU could be helped so much more!

Why the moderators, do not require a timeline filled out before posting..,.,.,if it is just your name and where you are from.,.,and where your loved one, is from and trying to immigrate from.,.,.,would help so much.,,..,even which office would handle your case..,.,TSC, CSC.,.,.,VSC.,.,.,.,it would just tell us so much more.,.,.,.

Is anyone listening??

I agree that it is usually very helpful when people fill in their timeline, but there is no information in a timeline that would be of further help in this case. Where she is from or details of why the marriage dissolved would not help in this case.

[Caryh 5,206]

Didn't mean for him to buy her the ticket and give it to her or force her but offer it to her, since if you actually read the post she WANTS to go live and work in Europe. Geeez sorry I wasn't more specific! I just hope she leaves so hey are off the hook finacially sure seems everyone is on her side and this poor guy is left with a broken heart after this nightmare of a process. Now the fear of her taking advantage of not only him but his parents. He signed the AOS because he loved her, he shouldn't have to haunted by this anymore. The laws need to change to protect citizens from those taking advantage because non of us are psychic! One would think we would all have more compassion geez some of you are just brutal.

Compassion needs to run both directions. Some have no life to go back to, once leaving their own country to be with a spouse or get married in the USA. Other's have every reason to go back. Should we make a law for those that gave up everything to come here, and have no way of surviving back in their home country now be forced to return home because a marriage didn't work out? I realize this guy is hurting, and its real shame his marriage ended, but I also didn't see anything he said that shows fraud was involved. No doubt he should have waited longer before bringing her here and making sure the relationship was strong enough to handle what was going to be needed to make a marriage work. Some people just don't have the skills or determination to make one work. And just because there is a I-864 in place, doesn't mean she intends to use it in order to take advantage of the sponsors.

[Ortolan 381]

Yes, you're on the hook for the AOS if she needs support; it's part of the heavy-duty nature of bringing someone over from another country to marry.

Since she's the one that has chosen to leave the marriage, give her the goodbye gift of the paperwork burden from this point on.

Get the divorce and move on with your life.

[slangofoil 50]

Didn't mean for him to buy her the ticket and give it to her or force her but offer it to her, since if you actually read the post she WANTS to go live and work in Europe. Geeez sorry I wasn't more specific! I just hope she leaves so hey are off the hook finacially sure seems everyone is on her side and this poor guy is left with a broken heart after this nightmare of a process. Now the fear of her taking advantage of not only him but his parents. He signed the AOS because he loved her, he shouldn't have to haunted by this anymore. The laws need to change to protect citizens from those taking advantage because non of us are psychic! One would think we would all have more compassion geez some of you are just brutal.

I read the whole post. He said she's in school at the moment, so she's clearly not ready to leave at the drop of a hat. She says she wants to go back to Europe, but it's not happening tomorrow obviously.

Sorry, but these forums and the immigration process are not all about feelings. Sure, I feel bad for the guy that his marriage is dissolving, but there's no need for him to try and jeopardize her status in the US just because their marriage failed. It would be better for him to focus on moving on and healing than to dwell on how to get back at her.

[brownbella 13]

Didn't mean for him to buy her the ticket and give it to her or force her but offer it to her, since if you actually read the post she WANTS to go live and work in Europe. Geeez sorry I wasn't more specific! I just hope she leaves so hey are off the hook finacially sure seems everyone is on her side and this poor guy is left with a broken heart after this nightmare of a process. Now the fear of her taking advantage of not only him but his parents. He signed the AOS because he loved her, he shouldn't have to haunted by this anymore. The laws need to change to protect citizens from those taking advantage because non of us are psychic! One would think we would all have more compassion geez some of you are just brutal.

Not intending to be brutal, but there's 2 sides to every story. We don't know if the soon to be ex wife is likewise heartbroken. For me to leave my country and my family, move to a new country, and then realize my marriage isn't working...that would be my nightmare. People aren't things. You can't just return someone to their country if it doesn't work out. There's no return policy on a human being. The woman moved here, is studying, and clearly established a new life. I say this as the US citizen with a LPR spouse. If my marriage doesn't work, I will never try to ship my ex back- even though I'm the sole sponsor (no co-sponsor).

The affidavit of support is a contract that the petitioner makes with his/her government. Should the ex need help, that's not taking advantage of the OP or his parents. That's the contract they all signed and agreed to.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Not intending to be brutal, but there's 2 sides to every story. We don't know if the soon to be ex wife is likewise heartbroken. For me to leave my country and my family, move to a new country, and then realize my marriage isn't working...that would be my nightmare. People aren't things. You can't just return someone to their country if it doesn't work out. There's no return policy on a human being. The woman moved here, is studying, and clearly established a new life. I say this as the US citizen with a LPR spouse. If my marriage doesn't work, I will never try to ship my ex back- even though I'm the sole sponsor (no co-sponsor).

The affidavit of support is a contract that the petitioner makes with his/her government. Should the ex need help, that's not taking advantage of the OP or his parents. That's the contract they all signed and agreed to.

I agree. Unless there is evidence to proof that it was intented fraud, people need to accept accountablity for their choices in a mate and move on.

[djestone 1]

Thank you all so much for the feedback and help. I truly do appreciate it.

The truth is, we were young and she had a student visa before. She had to leave the university because she could no longer afford it and I met her through my mom. I have never had a girlfriend before and I really ejoyed skyping and talking with her. She came to visit me and we talked about how getting married will be a way for her to stay longer, but I truly felt that I loved her and wanted to make things work. I don't know if I am able to prove it, but her education was always soley her main goal in her life and she was really broken that she wasn't able to finish her university on her student visa. I really did love her and I wanted nothing more but for her to love me back and make things work. My family and I sacrificed everything we had for her. We got a house, helped her get a car and a job and the endless amounts of gifts, but in the end she just said 'she didn't love me as much as I loved her'.

I wanted to ask, I thought there was a form that my parents can fill up to remove themselves as the co-sponsor? I lost the link to the form, but when I find it I will post it here.

[Boiler 43,429]

No such form, why bother having it if it was so easy to avoid?

[Caryh 5,206]

There is no such form. but if you go back and read the I-864 you'll see under what conditions they can get out of the I-864.

It also specifically states "Note that divorce does not terminate your obligations under this form I-864."

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Thank you all so much for the feedback and help. I truly do appreciate it.

The truth is, we were young and she had a student visa before. She had to leave the university because she could no longer afford it and I met her through my mom. I have never had a girlfriend before and I really ejoyed skyping and talking with her. She came to visit me and we talked about how getting married will be a way for her to stay longer, but I truly felt that I loved her and wanted to make things work. I don't know if I am able to prove it, but her education was always soley her main goal in her life and she was really broken that she wasn't able to finish her university on her student visa. I really did love her and I wanted nothing more but for her to love me back and make things work. My family and I sacrificed everything we had for her. We got a house, helped her get a car and a job and the endless amounts of gifts, but in the end she just said 'she didn't love me as much as I loved her'.

I wanted to ask, I thought there was a form that my parents can fill up to remove themselves as the co-sponsor? I lost the link to the form, but when I find it I will post it here.

It is all about your one-sided love for her.

Too bad for your parents as financial co-sponsors.

[rlogan 2,036]

There's no return policy on a human being.

Yes there is. It is called the law. If there is a finding of fraud, they have to go back. Not because they are a "thing". But because it is the law.

This is the most common put-down on this forum, and it says more about the person saying it than it does about the person who has the rightful concern of someone faking love for the purpose of getting here. It is illegal. So here you have someone quite possibly committing a crime, for which the penalty is to be sent home, and people give this asinine lecture about people not being objects.

Is there anyone on the face of the earth that actually needs to be told that people are not objects? Only the sociopaths amongst us, and it does no good to tell them anyway.

If you went to congress and asked them to change the law so that marriage fraud perpetrators could stay here, on the basis that they are not objects - they would laugh in your face. Because simple justice alone and any sense of human decency compels people to demand that yes: when you come here under false pretenses you have no right to be here and should be sent home. Because you are human alright: a human with despicable morals, a criminal, and good riddance to you.

[Boiler 43,429]

Obama etc seem to have a different view.

We have here a disappointed spouse, if there was fraud involved he has proffered no evidence.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Yes there is. It is called the law. If there is a finding of fraud, they have to go back. Not because they are a "thing". But because it is the law.

This is the most common put-down on this forum, and it says more about the person saying it than it does about the person who has the rightful concern of someone faking love for the purpose of getting here. It is illegal. So here you have someone quite possibly committing a crime, for which the penalty is to be sent home, and people give this asinine lecture about people not being objects.

Is there anyone on the face of the earth that actually needs to be told that people are not objects? Only the sociopaths amongst us, and it does no good to tell them anyway.

If you went to congress and asked them to change the law so that marriage fraud perpetrators could stay here, on the basis that they are not objects - they would laugh in your face. Because simple justice alone and any sense of human decency compels people to demand that yes: when you come here under false pretenses you have no right to be here and should be sent home. Because you are human alright: a human with despicable morals, a criminal, and good riddance to you.

Obviously we understand that IF fraud was committed that the beneficiary as per law can/should/will be send back to their country.

What you fail to comprehend from the flow of this thread is that there is no evidence that the marriage was entered into fraudulently, at least

it has not been brought up here by the OP.

What you also fail to realize is that all too often we see threads where someone's marriage failed not due to fraud and they are now on

a revenge kick to try everything and want to "call ice and have them pick them up" just like someone would call UPS for a return.

(You wrote the same not so nice comment in that OTHER thread).

Mostly it is to "get back at the beneficiary" and putting all the blame on them or they think that they can get out of the

signed and agreed upon contract to be financially responsible if the beneficiary takes means tested benefits he is not entitled to or are afraid

they have to pay other support.

To answer your question yes, some people need to be told that human beings aren't to

be treated as objects. It is not a put down but a fact and a 'rightful concern' is not the same as factual evidence.

I do not think that this OP is vengefull but he is hurt and wants out of the financial bind.

As to any future comments by you about reiterating that it is the law to deport fraudsters, believe it or not we all do know that !

I want to remind you of my post in the OTHER thread that the law indeed protects immigrants from "I just want him/her gone back to where he/she

came from" hissy fit tantrum rants thrown by petitioners where there was no fraud committed whatsoever and they are grasping for imaginary

straws to shift blame and responsibility.

Differentiate between the two before you get your feathers ruffled.