Am I screwed?

[thomas1977 0]

I have 3 children with my wife. Married after 10 years. We had problems (better now).

Stupid me popped these questions to the embassy. I used the same email as I have given them. My wife thinks they will not give me a green card now when they suspect that we are getting a divorce, what do you honestly think? Thanks

I wrote this:

I am in the process of applying for a IR-1 Visa. Now I am in the NVC phase.

My wife (after 10y) is american and I have 3 dual citizen children.

Me and my wife have had some rough times. I think that we are fine but I just want to check.

What happens if we divorce:

1. Before the interview, will I still be able to get the g-card?

2. After I have received the IR-1 Visa, Will I loose the green card? Will I be able to gain citizenship?

[X Factor 1,110]

It is highly likely that you will have some explaining to do.

[Cathi 5,617]

It is highly likely that you will have some explaining to do.

[kzielu 1,147]

1. Before the interview, will I still be able to get the g-card?

Of course no, why would you ? Provided you IR-1 is to join your wife, if she is not your wife anymore, what's the concern ?

2. After I have received the IR-1 Visa, Will I loose the green card? Will I be able to gain citizenship?

No, you will not. You will be able to gain citizenship after 5 years of residency (meeting all the requirements - residency, taxes and others).

[Ms Hogan 295]

I'm sorry to say, but the wording of such questions makes it sounds like you're trying to figure out how long you have to stay married in order to get what you want.

[Villanelle 4,121]

I have 3 children with my wife. Married after 10 years. We had problems (better now).

Stupid me popped these questions to the embassy. I used the same email as I have given them. My wife thinks they will not give me a green card now when they suspect that we are getting a divorce, what do you honestly think? Thanks

I wrote this:

I am in the process of applying for a IR-1 Visa. Now I am in the NVC phase.

My wife (after 10y) is american and I have 3 dual citizen children.

Me and my wife have had some rough times. I think that we are fine but I just want to check.

What happens if we divorce:

1. Before the interview, will I still be able to get the g-card?

2. After I have received the IR-1 Visa, Will I loose the green card? Will I be able to gain citizenship?

Are you stating that those are the exact words you sent to the embassy? If so, I think youre going to have an extremely tough interview.

You basically said, as Mrs.Hogan explained, youre contemplating a divorce (you pretty much said so with 'what happens if we divorce') and are asking how long do you need to stay married to obtain benefits.

Remaining married to obtain benefits is fraud. They will not grant you a visa under those circumstances.

Sadly now youre going to need to demonstrate to the embassy that you contemplated divorce and explain the reasons why. Then prove to them you changed your mind and immigrating to the US (getting a GC/becoming a citizen in the future) had absolutely no role in it whatsoever. How in the heck youre going to prove that? I have no idea. Its going to be hard to overcome.

[together4evr 360]

I thimk you will need docuentation of marriage counseling to overcome this. Has your wife been living with you in your country for 10 years. Wjat country are you from

[apple21 953]

I have 3 children with my wife. Married after 10 years. We had problems (better now).

Stupid me popped these questions to the embassy. I used the same email as I have given them. My wife thinks they will not give me a green card now when they suspect that we are getting a divorce, what do you honestly think? Thanks

I wrote this:

I am in the process of applying for a IR-1 Visa. Now I am in the NVC phase.

My wife (after 10y) is american and I have 3 dual citizen children.

Me and my wife have had some rough times. I think that we are fine but I just want to check.

What happens if we divorce:

1. Before the interview, will I still be able to get the g-card?

2. After I have received the IR-1 Visa, Will I loose the green card? Will I be able to gain citizenship?

Yikes. Did you include other personal info like your full name and date of birth, petitioner's full name and DOB and NVC case number?

[Mina90 134]

I have 3 children with my wife. Married after 10 years. We had problems (better now).

Stupid me popped these questions to the embassy. I used the same email as I have given them. My wife thinks they will not give me a green card now when they suspect that we are getting a divorce, what do you honestly think? Thanks

I wrote this:

I am in the process of applying for a IR-1 Visa. Now I am in the NVC phase.

My wife (after 10y) is american and I have 3 dual citizen children.

Me and my wife have had some rough times. I think that we are fine but I just want to check.

What happens if we divorce:

1. Before the interview, will I still be able to get the g-card?

2. After I have received the IR-1 Visa, Will I loose the green card? Will I be able to gain citizenship?

You've been a VJ member since September 2012, so .

I'm assuming you are the beneficiary and your wife is USC.

Does your wife live with you in your home country?

What country do you guys live in right now? (This may make a difference because certain embassies subject people to more scrutiny than others)

You're at the NVC stage, then why are you contacting the embassy?

Why on Earth would you send something like that to the embassy?

There are so many holes in your story and by the looks of it, as other VJ members have suggested, it does seem like you are trying to solely obtain visa benefits through your marriage. There must be more to the story.

Edited March 12, 2013 by Mina90

[thomas1977 0]

I am freaking out!!! Thank you for your support!

I love my children and my wife. Yes we are having problems but I think that we are going to make it.

I live in Norway. She went ahead of me in Oct to USA. I was there this Christmas for 4w.

What happened:

She misunderstood a email I wrote that I was not going to support her financially (my wording was bad in the email).

She emailed angry "Im going legal and filing for legal separation"

I freaked out, spent 4 days on sick leave, considered divorce, checking all the laws and wrote this email to embassy (desparate people do stupid things).

I wrote the question because I was scared. I wanted to know what would happen if my wife filed for Legal Separation.

Before answer from embassy over the weekend I decided to try to make the marriage work with my wife through counceling etc. It is the best for the children and I realised that I can not live without them and my wife.

I talked to my wife and her threats was empty.. she wrote that to scare me. We comitted to contiune to fight for the marriage.

Then I got the answer from the embassy (no surprices, just short answers).

I will visit US in 3w from now and be there until the interview. The plan is to live with her and to go to marriage counceling and try to improve the marriage.

She refuces to live in Norway so if this craps out then my family is in deep trouble.

Your questions:

Yikes. Did you include other personal info like your full name and date of birth, petitioner's full name and DOB and NVC case number?

I think they can figure out who I am using my email address.

You've been a VJ member since September 2012, so .

I'm assuming you are the beneficiary and your wife is USC.

Correct, children USC also.

Does your wife live with you in your home country?

Not right now, she has been in USA since oct. I was there last Christmas 4w.

What country do you guys live in right now? (This may make a difference because certain embassies subject people to more scrutiny than others)

I live in Norway

You're at the NVC stage, then why are you contacting the embassy?

Why on Earth would you send something like that to the embassy?

I was scared and stupid, see above.

I thimk you will need docuentation of marriage counseling to overcome this.

I am planning counceling with her in April so I can bring documentation of that to interview. I have been in counceling alone since she left. Do not know if that improves my situation.

Has your wife been living with you in your country for 10 years. Wjat country are you from

We have always lived together. In USA and Norway (Ive had a green-card before). I have good career and a clean criminal background.

Thank you for your support!

Edited March 12, 2013 by thomas1977

[NikLR 13,220]

I wish your family the best. I hope it doesn't come back to bite you in the butt.

[ndu26 114]

I'm sorry to say, but the wording of such questions makes it sounds like you're trying to figure out how long you have to stay married in order to get what you want.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Stockholm is usually an easy embassy, but.... eeek!

Another problem is that your wife 'refuses to live in Norway'...I'm not questioning the bonafides of your marriage, but you are going to have be very careful with your wording from here on out. If I was a CO, I'd be looking for you to trip up.

[thomas1977 0]

You are going to have be very careful with your wording from here on out. If I was a CO, I'd be looking for you to trip up.

What do you mean? What is "trip up". CO = Customer Official?

Thanks

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

What do you mean? What is "trip up". CO = Customer Official?

Thanks

Consular officer

Trip up = making a mistake. Are you sure you spent 10 years with a native English speaker? (Not to be rude, but it is unusual that you didn't know what that meant).

They are looking for you to indicate to them that you aren't interested in America to be with your wife. Why does she *refuse* to live in Norway if she loves you so much? Why must it be America and not Sweden or the UK or anywhere else?

Why would you want a greencard if you weren't still married?

These are all valid questions that you should probably think about how you are going to answer.