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I wouldnt post on here to save my life-

Thats what a member wrote today in the forum. For those that didnt catch it, they were speaking in disgust about the general climate in this section of the forum.

I find that horrifying. And honestly its a bit embarrassing as I constantly refer people here for immigration help, but how can one do that anymore when we are saying this about ourselves.

I am hoping for a discussion here- rather then mixed in between others thread containing their issues- a civilized discussion that doesnt violate the TOS (ie remains respectful) where those that perhaps have grievances with others posting styles or are generally unhappy with the direction or tone of the forum can be heard.

Perhaps a consensus can be made or just everyone will feel better for having their voices heard?

Disclaimers-

1- I know this belongs more in the site discussion section but Id like to keep it here for a bit as its for the users that frequent here and Id like to get input from them specifically before its moved if thats possible.

2- Im making a thread and will not be online for a few hours due to circumstances. I am hoping it will still be around later...

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I did not see the comment and would be interested in the context.

Certainly this section of the site specialises in drama and attracts comments that are not central to the issue at hand.

But them many posters bring it upon themselves by going into unnecessary detail, perhaps they think it is cathartic?


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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I did not see the comment and would be interested in the context.

Certainly this section of the site specialises in drama and attracts comments that are not central to the issue at hand.

But them many posters bring it upon themselves by going into unnecessary detail, perhaps they think it is cathartic?

Boiler, this thread

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/550261-k1-aos-filed-divorceannulment-what-a-nightmare/?p=7643485


Done with K1, AOS and ROC

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That poster does have her own complicated situation.

I was sort of right about the issues.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/550363-fiancee-i-29f-k-1-need-help-with-abusive-immigrant/#entry7643821

Here is another one, probably get moved here, but nothing to do with VJ.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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And it was moved because that is what we do here.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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Drama is not a violation I think.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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It's also way too monitored, a forum should be open for discussion. This is a communistic forum, anyone coming online for information has to be aware of the source. Anyone that has done anything with the government or law knows there are a whole lot of grey areas. This site deals too much in black and white and because of that a lot of people will suffer.

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I think this site is an excellent resource, I have learnt alot here. That being said, any online community is going to attract some "fighting" amongst some members. I only formally joined recently but I was coming here now and again to look up topics. I do think that spending too much time here can drive one a little bit crazy, especially because everyone's case is different and people get upset when comparing timelines and so on.

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I've seen good things and bad things on this site. People do become harsh and I have done it myself, but I don't think any of us claim to be perfect. Sometimes you just see things that are so shocking or ridiculous that you've never experienced yourself that your composure breaks and you're just like "what even is this?!". It's how we are able to survive, by making snap judgements of situations and unfortunately it crosses over into helping people online.

On the whole, I would definitely post here with my problems and have done before. If people judge me then that's fine because it's what people do.

I've probably opened my mouth and proven myself a fool with my on-the-fence opinion, but that is up to other people to judge ;)


ROC from CR-1 visa (Green Card expiration date was Nov 24th 2016)

 

Link to the evidence I submitted. Be sure to send evidence spanning your entire marriage (especially for K-1) or as far back as you can. Just one or two bank statements will not cut it. I primarily focused on the two years of living here since I came in on a CR-1. If you don't have the fundamentals (i.e. joint accounts/policies), you can explain why in the covering letter. E.g. "While we do not have joint utilities, we both contribute to them from our joint bank account".

 

September 26th 2016: I-751 package sent to CSC

September 28th 2016: Package delivered
September 30th 2016: Check cashed
October 3rd 2016: NOA1 received with receipt date of 09/28/16
November 3rd 2016: Biometrics received with appointment date of 11/14/16.
November 14th 2016: Attended biometrics appointment
October 30th 2017: Infopass appointment to get I-551 stamp
February 26th 2018: I-751 case number (aka the NOA1 receipt number) becomes trackable
March 14th 2018: Submitted service request due to being outside of processing time.

March 15th 2018: ROC approved. 535 days (1 year, 5 months and 17 days)

March 29th 2018: Card being produced

April 4th 2018: Card mailed out

April 6th 2018: Card in hand. Has incorrect "resident since" date. Submitted service request on I-751 case (typographical error on permanent resident card) and an I-90 online.

April 2018 - August 7th 2018: Tons of service requests, emails and now senator involvement to get my corrected green card back because what the heck, USCIS

August 8th 2018: Card in production thanks to the direct involvement of Senator Sherrod Brown's team

August 13th 2018: Card mailed

August 15th 2018: Card in hand with correct date. :joy:

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My case is pretty straightforward, so I can't deny I sometimes come here just to read others' drama and be thankful. There definitely is a "Jerry Springer" aspect to some of posts. Those are the most interesting, and also the ones that seem to draw out the most passionate and opinionated. But some people forget that whatever the story is, we're usually only getting one side of it, and even then likely only a small view of the entire picture. Regardless, instead of just answering the questions, the foolish responders among us start applying their own assumptions, jumping to emotional conclusions, going off on tangents, or offering judgmental advice that hasn't been solicited...all based on nothing but speculation.

But that's the nature of forums (and the internet in general), for better or for worse. There is a lot of good information here, and I just think like everything else online, you have to learn to take the good with the bad, filter what you need, and disregard the rest.

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When my fiance and I first got on here.... my fiance (beneficiary) asked what WE thought was a legitimate question about our red flags and how do deal with them (MENA countries are notorious for being very difficult consulates) and were put THROUGH THE RINGER.... I was IN SHOCK reading the assumptions of replies even telling him they thought he was "suspicious" for even asking the question(s).... We were new to the entire process and literally were looking for some help/guidance as we had NO IDEA what to expect. We thought this WOULD be the perfect place to inquire about those types of questions.

In the end, we WERE approved and ultimately only followed a very "general" advice of "tell our story" in the interview.

What we learned is to expect anything here...


Our lovely journey!!

10/08/2015: AOS packet sent to USCIS (Chicago lockbox) via USPS Priority mail (They received it 10/10/15).

10/16/2015: Text/eEmails received from USCIS with receipt number. We received 3.

10/22/2015: Received hard copies of NOA's for I-131, I-765, & I-485.

11/01/2015: Got NOA for biometrics appt (for 11/12/15).

11/03/2015: Did WALK IN biometrics appt - took 15 mins. Person taking said work permit should be in mail in less than 4 wks.

12/09/2015: Got email/text notification for INTERVIEW date.

12/28/2015: Got email/text notification EAD card has been mailed.

12/31/2015: Received EAD/AP card.

01/11/2016: INTERVIEW (in Los Angeles office).

01/11/2016: Case in in "CONTINUANCE". Awaiting approval. (Feels like AP).

06/27/2016: I-485 APPROVED - (FINALLY!!!) / 264 DAYS (8 MONTHS 20 DAYS)

07/01/2016: GREEN CARD RECEIVED

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