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53 minutes ago, flemirebs said:

Thank you for everyones help. I thought at least if I tried I would know I did all I could

You can try, doesn't hurt to try, I understand your concern all too well. I am sorry about your mom, hoping for a positive outcome for you, stay strong ❤️

1 minute ago, Paul & Mary said:

If you are the petitioner, the email will suffice.   You can also email the consulate.   The consulate might not close it out for a year,  but once it it noted in the system the petition is essentially dead.  

Thank you, I didn't email a formal email as I read online that I should, notarized etc. It was he who just sent the email not me, should it be me or is he doing it enough is my question.

Hello,

I have a question I wanted to ask about a visa cancellation email, long story short my relationship has tanked and is still at the embassy showing Ready. My ex emailed them a few days ago, he seems to have moved on and wants to make himself appear as the good samaritan who is cancelling to engage in a possible new relationship and apply in the future. How do I Officially cancel this thing, clearly an email will not suffice from my part, is there a propoer way to do it? Do I even have to at this point or should I just let it expire? The status on CEAC shows Ready updated yesterday, I will not be petitioning anyone else again so for me there is no issue about any future visas but what about for him? Does he cancelling affect his ability to ever receive one? I wish him the best of luck , I am not trying to hurt him in any way, I just want to know what my steps are and what you think about this scenario.

Thank you,

Once a case is completed and ready to go , NVC ships out every other tuesday to the consulates correct?

16 minutes ago, Mollie09 said:

 

Wow, it's usually the USC trying to throw the immigrant under the bus, the other way around is so rare!

Divorce and move on, USCIS doesn't care about your spouse's drug use (why would they???)

Shes trying to set up a victim case or possible vawa, it's what they do when they want to stay and get a GC. USCIS will not give a ####### about weed smoking, and she can divorce without saying that and still be able to get her GC thru divorce waiver, it's cruel and unnecessary.

6 hours ago, bbeaan said:

Thank you for your support!

Can I even say to uscis that my husband smokes weed? It’s legal in our state, but not legal on a federal level..

Why would you do that? That seems wrong to me and unecessary, how about you just get a divorce and not bring up the weed? He brought you here didnt he? You were in love with him at some point werent you? The answer is, you can say it, but that would be wrong of you AND it is not necessary, you can just get a divorce and you will still get the same outcome, you can stay in the great u.s of A. SMH.

41 minutes ago, bigfooot said:

thank you guys for taking the time to reply, the reason why i'm confused, is that we don't have the same status, is this normal ?

Why would it be confusing? You guys have two seperate passports and visas and are two different people, yours is being processed and hers hasnt been worked on yet so it still says "Ready" as in ready for interview. Be patient, it will be issued soon, congrats.

5 hours ago, SoonToBeDivorcee said:

I feel defrauded into attending the green card interview while already separated

You made the decision, his motivations were clear and you still went ahead with it, if there is anyone to blame here unfortunately it's you.😩 😢 I don't think there's anything you can do about this now, you ignored red flags and now you pretty much can do nothing, he already has his greencard, I am sooooo sorry.

The documents that he will get in Morocco are valid for 90 days, you do not know if his interview will take longer than that to be set. I suggest that you wait until you have an interview to start gathering the documents.

They think that you want to come be here with your family, the confusion with who introduced you was taken as you were making things up which that coupled with the family thing and only him going once sank your chances. I would suggest more visits and marrying in Cambodia.

1 hour ago, Dataunavailable said:

I've been back to Cambodia since the denial to spend time with her, more pictures. And I'll be going back for the interview as well. 

I suggest, if it's possible for you, to visit once more then filing and after going for the interview. I would wait a few months after the denial to file again and not do it so soon.

Congratulations!

You're being paranoid LOL

2 minutes ago, little immigrant said:

This isn't the first time this has happened here on VJ and I'm not talking about me and OP only

Well I sympathize and all Americans do not do this believe me, it's usually us that end up screwed or almost screwed.

6 minutes ago, little immigrant said:

Why is this surprising? The American is entitled and spoiled and they have the immigrants come over to work for them. Then they take your hard earned money and accuse you of using them for a green card. This happened to me. 

Surprising because it just seems to be the other way around mostly, not saying that it cant happen, but an oddity around here.

5 minutes ago, bestluck said:

You didn't make an sense , he is us citizen and looking for divorce  help 

Apparently there is a serious comprehension issue , I understood thank you.

3 minutes ago, NikLR said:

That makes no sense... He's ALREADY a USC.

It soes not make sense, you are right, I am telling you what he is trying to do as he is clearly not informed and doesnt know that he clearly is okay since he is already a USC. I clearly said that he is just gauging whether leaving now will be no problem.

1 minute ago, Going through said:

From past posting history, seems the step son is already inside the US (arrived a few years ago on a K2), and now has the conditional green card?

  

OP's soon-to-be ex spouse can also continue the process on his own for his son, if this is the case.

Thank you for the clarification , maybe I read wrong but I thought she said he expected her to sponsor him etc, either way, shes screwed and big time.

On 5/18/2019 at 4:08 PM, Jorgedig said:

Why are you worry about getting deported if you are a US citizen??  That makes no sense.

Hes just trying to make sure hes got that greencard in the bag by not hurting himself if he divorces before hightailing it outta there.

Divorce and move on, theres nothing else that you can do at this point. It's clear that you still love her and are looking for comfort in the midst of this but if you continue in this relationship you will only be continuously abused and heartbroken. Your eligibility in this country is not at risk, you have plenty of proof that you have done your part and all they are trying to do is intimidate you using tactics that are abusive and manipulative, this lady is clearly not right in the head.

You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and will make it out of this. How old are you if you dont mind me asking?Country? I ask because it's surprising to see the immigrant being screwed over. It just goes to show that bad behavior can come from both sides.

Good luck.

2 minutes ago, boris64 said:

We are just getting her side of the story here. Also, I said that immigration is a big risk. People go rushing in with their heart on their sleeves ignoring the problems that are right in front of them. The truth is now it really doesn't change anything by looking back and assigning blame. He can adjust status without her with a divorce waiver and she will be on the hook for the I-864.

I think we have found common ground)))

Agreed.

Just now, nguoivietnam2019 said:

There will be people deceived and fell into this as ...well love can be blind.  Generally, people will only see it after the fact.

This is true, love is blind, but logic is logic, I am sorry but when your life and finances are on the line for someone, and there are serious red flags, why continue and send papers?

13 minutes ago, boris64 said:

It sounds like you both tried and it just didn't work

No, it's clear that he wasnt even attracted to her and made any excuse to not even have sex, this is a harsh reality to accept but the women in this case are to blame as well.

5 minutes ago, NilsaNAnil said:

Who said it’s not normal for a Muslim man to marry a divorced or widowed woman?

 

or not normal for one to marry an older woman? Or to marry a woman who can’t have children ?

 

that is not true. If the man is a true to his religion and lives for his maker. Those things won’t matter... 

If the OP have red flags I think it will be due to the fact she’s sponsored 2 before. And maybe the age difference if it’s a big gap. But to say it’s not normal.... I don’t agree

No, I am sorry, it is not normal