Eric-Pris

The women on the new 90-day Fiance season are a cliche.  My god.  They go on vacation to Jamaica, Costa Rica, and cruise, and of course meet their future husband, except that the guys didn't get the memo.

The one in Costa Rica got a proposal on her vacation trip when they met. Proposal in a week.  And like many Costa Rican men, doesn't mind sitting at home and being supported by a woman.  Then he has the stones to ask her to bring him a new cell phone since she's conveniently coming to visit him.

The second one goes on vacation to Jamaica, hooks up with a local, doesn't use protection, and gets pregnant.  And thinks the guy who admittedly has a great life in Jamaica hooking up with tourists and smoking weed, will come to the US get a regular 9-5 job, and be daddy to their baby.  

And the third one that met a Jamaican DJ/event planner (read: sleeps all day, party at night) on a cruise ship.  The guy has already cheated on her once that she knows about, and probably 50 others she doesn't know.  She's completely insecure, and can't handle a waitress recognizing him from a party he DJ'd.  And this is another one who is pressuring the guy for a ring (because the "will show me that he loves ONLY me"---), and thinks that this guy will come to the US and do a regular job, and life.  PLEASE.

This idea of marrying not just the person, but the whole family, is a concept that you hear for the Latino culture also.  I dealt with it before marriage.  My wife's family doesn't demand or expect any kind of regular payments because I discussed it with my wife before we got married.  It was a deal breaker for me.  I make good money but I was not going to support my deadbeat brothers in law or stepfather.  I had plans for us.  Yet, we do get occasional requests for money if something happens, but it's been about 15-20 times over 13 years of marriage. And we send for Christmas and birthdays but I will never allow myself to be seen as somebody's ATM, my wife or her family.

But the Philippines seem to take that concept 10 levels higher when they start talking about honor and "saving face".  The mistake you made was that you initially agreed to support the family, but you didn't stick to the agreed amount.  Once you gave in to more and more, you should have known that that was only the beginning.  They will never be satisfied.  $60k farm?  That's probably 4 or 5 farms for that price.

And the fact that your wife is not adult enough to say no to her family should tell you something else about your relationship.  She's not all-in.  Divorce and move on.  

On 11/7/2021 at 9:18 PM, Jorgedig said:

I get tired reading story after story here on VJ, written by American men....   as if the women they bring over are commodities.   

it works both ways.

American men see foreign women as commodities 

Foreign women see American men as ATM's, means to an end (better life), and look to dump them as soon as they are legal and want to move to a higher tax bracket

Just to be safe, my wife gave herself a little over 2 years to apply for citizenship.

Can the Admins post a sticky on every forum that suggests waiting an extra day or two from the 90th day to give themselves a buffer.  This is insane.

On 11/10/2021 at 6:11 PM, Adujarric said:

Why the rush to apply 🤷🏾‍♂️ I dont get it ?

+1   Most people don't get it.  As intelligent human being, with the ability to think critically, can infer as to why somebody would do want to do this the second they perceived themselves to be eligible.  And one of the reason that can be inferred is that the green card/citizenship is the main goal for the marriage.  Not saying that it's always the case, but to many people it's very shady that somebody would actually count out 90 days exactly, and would not even consider giving themselves 1 extra buffer day "just in case".     

The Granny in India is pressuring Sumit to sprint towards marriage now that his parents said that they won't object and astrologer gave the go-ahead.  The guy is very hesitant about getting married.  I don't think that he ever thought that his parents would sign off on the marriage, so he must be in shock now that he has to go through it.  I think he just wanted her to stay with him until he got tired of her and could boot her.  Now, it's becoming more permanent and more real and he's in a panic.  He clearly is not comfortable with what is happening. What's hilarious is that at first she was skeptical about the whole Astrologer thing that his family does.  But now that the Astrologer told them what she wanted to hear and got his parents to stop objecting, she wants to follow the astrologer to a tee.  He said that they could marry after 9 days, so she said that they should marry on day 10.

Ariela, her overbearing mother and family, are too much to take. She got angry because he continued with his life instead of waiting by the phone for the queen to call him.  It's not fair the way that she's treating him.   

*Why is HIS family sending Ariela messages about what is happening in their apartment?  Are they trying to sabotage their relationship?  It would seem so, yet they were asking Ariela to promise that she will come back to Ethiopia with the baby before she left for the surgery.

Alina is such a naive child.  She is so adamant that he delete his social media.  Yes, because that will magically keep him from talking to other girls.  SMH

And all he has to do is give her some silly gift, like a "book of mormon with flowers on it" (that he himself hasn't followed-hypocrite) and she starts gushing over him again.  She is going to end up getting hurt.

All she wanted is a proposal, and all her drama was to just get him to propose to not lose her.  He thinks taking her for ice cream like a little child will solve their issues.

Kenny from the gay couple is definitely the woman, what a whiny cry baby.  He wants a sunset wedding but when told it won't be possible due to covid curfew and they have to do it earlier to be done with everything by midnight he throws a hissy fit.

Sumit's parents probably poisoned Jenny when they moved in then accused her of faking it when she said that she was sick.  The scene of his parents flossing their sinuses during yoga was funny as hell.  She was about to vomit whatever was still in her system, priceless.

The town bicycle is happy to have Corey under total control again.  She wasn't feeling it when she's wasn't.

I think they are off by 1 letter... STI

Danielle is giddy because the tattoo guy showed some interest.  She's in love already.

That guy Steven is such a weirdo!!!

I'm watching the Single Life now that it's on TV.  I think it was only on the membership website before which I refused to pay for.  

Anyway, that kiss that no-neck needy Ed went in for was awkward.  I felt embarrassed for him.  That girl is too young and hot for him.  He needs somebody in their late 30's-40's who is short like him.

Brittany thinks she's much hotter than she actually is.

Danielle and her single "friends" are so mismatched.  They are much younger, and much better looking (although they are chubby, but pretty).  That blind date that Danielle went on the guy seemed to want to run away right away.  I kinda feel bad for her.  You can't help how you look, but she can get in decent shape, not be 250 lbs at 5 feet tall.  

Coltee and Vanessa (who seem to want to be together) inviting his ex Jess (who now lives in Vegas and married another USC after 5 months... yeay! Green card!) for drinks to apologize to her was a fantastic idea.  Jess basically confirmed to Vanessa what a dirtbag Colt is.  They told Jess that they cheated on her for almost their entire relationship.  Who does that?  Invite an ex to tell them that you cheated on them during the whole relationship.  This should've been a text if you want to confess and get something off your chest, not an in-person sit down with the woman that you cheated on her with.  You gotta love TLC storylines. 

The southern fatty Molly keeps going after guys half her age, and then wonders why it doesn't work out.  

A common theme among all the people seems to be that they must get their friends' approval to be in a relationship with somebody.

On 9/14/2021 at 3:25 AM, debbiedoo said:

ive always refused to watch them, but i might have to re-evaluate JUST to see that LOL

They are like cartoon characters, good for a good laugh, but not much more.

Bottom line is that there have never been any normal people on this series.  The show exists because of the ridiculousness of the antics.  For me, I can't stand: Angela, the old one in India with Sumit, and Darcey/Stacy.  The rest I can watch even if many are dull.

From what you wrote (that's all we have to go on), it sounds like your husband is having doubts/cold feet.  But you seem to be more concerned with getting your son into a US college than fixing whatever is broken with your relationship.

Hi all,

I went through the process end to end with my wife some years ago but I haven't been following it closely much.

I know somebody who will be sending his K-1 petition to the lockbox next week.  The beneficiary is in Costa Rica.

What kind of timeframe can they expect?  I was watching one of those 90-day fiancee spinoffs in TLC and some "lawyer" told them 22-24 months.  Can that be right?  It used to be 6-9 months total.

Thanks

Ask her to move out.  If she won't, then take your stuff and find a new place to live.  She is not your problem.

I used to be a big fan of the 90 day spinoffs but once they went to the website i refuse to pay extra for that garbage.

The green card is about to get denied so you re-file as VAWA?  I don't get the progression from i-485 to VAWA.

On 7/18/2021 at 6:19 PM, Ryan76 said:

Interesting.  I kind of feel my situation will end up like that.

 

I mean, just the aspect of her mother. Over 60 with no money, will never be eligible for Medicaid, food here is more expensive, medical care and insurance more expensive, etc.

I don't think they are comprehending that the situation they have now is about as perfect as it can get, with her being able to be on her daughter's medical insurance in Colombia.  And we don't have several hundred extra dollars in our monthly budget to help.

What they told you their intentions are are wayyyy different than the real plan.  The real plan is for them to live with YOU and for YOU to support them permanently.  If the sister gets a job, it will be for her personal spending.  Your wife will have to "take care" of the mother because that's what good daughters do, which basically means that you'll be taking care of mom too.

Time to man up and put your foot down.  Yes, your wife may be a little upset but she'll get over it.  

Btw- something tells me that they won't believe you that it takes 14+ years for the sister to get a visa.  Your wife may accuse you of trying to discourage them from moving here (like it's that easy to just "move" here)--trust me on this one, i speak from experience.  They may suggest the whole tourist visa overstay route.  I would let them and then ICE would get an anonymous call about 2 illegals living at at a certain address.  Problem solved.  PERMANENTLY!

On 6/20/2021 at 1:35 AM, laylalex said:

Nightmare fodder:

She has to be really desperate for a visa.

Natalie is nuts.  She has some kind of mental issues.  The way she just started laughing at the dinner table.  Grant the mother is a to her in general, she is acting bizarre.

Clearly, these people are clueless.  When Julia got her work permit/travel document card, they were celebrating like they just won Powerball.  LOL

The mother said "It's not green"... that pretty much sums it up.

Maybe this had been discussed before but who is paying for Angela's surgeries?  I don't think she has the money to pay for them out of pocket.

So they stopped showing this show on TLC and now it's only online for a fee?  Must be because I haven't seen any new episodes in a few weeks on my DVR, and I couldn't care any less. 

This show already jumped the shark anyway.