Mansini77

I'm still glad I got my wife's GC a few years back, no regrets.  I'd like to see the applicant return to their home country to consular process just like I did with my spouse.  But that was then, this is now.
 
LOL, I can only imagine the backlog of these cases to be processed by the USCIS if this immigration policy does pass.
 

USCIS processing time will change from months to decades. Your estimate processing time will be 
 
1) 1 decade
2) 2 decades
3) 3 decades
4) 5 decades
5) 6 decades
6) 7 decades
7) 100 years 

I'm still glad I got my wife's GC a few years back, no regrets.  I'd like to see the applicant return to their home country to consular process just like I did with my spouse.  But that was then, this is now.
 
LOL, I can only imagine the backlog of these cases to be processed by the USCIS if this immigration policy does pass.
 

I'm still glad I got my wife's GC a few years back, no regrets.  I'd like to see the applicant return to their home country to consular process just like I did with my spouse.  But that was then, this is now.
 
LOL, I can only imagine the backlog of these cases to be processed by the USCIS if this immigration policy does pass.
 

I'm still glad I got my wife's GC a few years back, no regrets.  I'd like to see the applicant return to their home country to consular process just like I did with my spouse.  But that was then, this is now.
 
LOL, I can only imagine the backlog of these cases to be processed by the USCIS if this immigration policy does pass.
 

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I think the 2019 adjusted income will be the determining factor on the stimulus check eligibility.  So if a married couple made $170,000 last year, and took the standard married filing jointly deduction of $24,000, that would put the married couple below the $150,000 income threshold.  The standard deduction, along with qualifying child care credit and a bevy of other deductions factor into the equation greatly.
 
On a fiscal policy note, the entire bill is full of pork, 5000+ pages plus of deficit spending that has absolutely nothing to do with CoVid relief.  But that's Washington for ya, never let a good crisis go to waste.  

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I think the 2019 adjusted income will be the determining factor on the stimulus check eligibility.  So if a married couple made $170,000 last year, and took the standard married filing jointly deduction of $24,000, that would put the married couple below the $150,000 income threshold.  The standard deduction, along with qualifying child care credit and a bevy of other deductions factor into the equation greatly.
 
On a fiscal policy note, the entire bill is full of pork, 5000+ pages plus of deficit spending that has absolutely nothing to do with CoVid relief.  But that's Washington for ya, never let a good crisis go to waste.  

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I think the 2019 adjusted income will be the determining factor on the stimulus check eligibility.  So if a married couple made $170,000 last year, and took the standard married filing jointly deduction of $24,000, that would put the married couple below the $150,000 income threshold.  The standard deduction, along with qualifying child care credit and a bevy of other deductions factor into the equation greatly.
 
On a fiscal policy note, the entire bill is full of pork, 5000+ pages plus of deficit spending that has absolutely nothing to do with CoVid relief.  But that's Washington for ya, never let a good crisis go to waste.  

Return to USCIS.   It is the immigrant's  or joint sponsors responsibility to inform USCIS of an address change.
 
FWIW I still get mail at a house I haven't owned for 8 years.   I sold it to a friend. He brings me a bag of mail every few months
 I never received mail there because I have always listed my address as a PO BOX.

Know everything before you go down this road.  Do much more research, search out all the facts, processes, and challenges.  You're not married yet, haven't even lived together, so try to think rationally, logically, before making the commitment.  Be very careful if your boyfriend is pushing you to get married in order to eventually become legal in the US.  Go into the legal process with both eyes wide open, and understand the risks, the time it will take, sponsorship financial requirements, and the considerable expense of hiring a good immigration attorney to help with the waiver application.  If you decide to get married and proceed "to do everything the right way," have a backup plan in case his waiver or visa is denied, such as living in Mexico together or some other country outside the US.  I hope it eventually works out for both of you, and please report back on your experience so that others can benefit from your journey.  Good luck!

@Mansini77 was kind enough to simplify the process for you and at the same time, tried to set your expectations that this is not going to be an easy process. It will be expensive, it will take time, and there are no guarantees of success.
 
Also, no amount of advice from posters here will ever replace you doing your own research and seeking professional legal expertise.

To clarify the US citizen fills out I-130 and the immigrant spouse fills out I-130A supplement: https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/document/forms/i-130a.pdf
*I-864 https://www.uscis.gov/i-864

Well, without getting into what is fair and what is not fair on the matter of this illegal entry adult, I'll put in my post as I have gone through this process.  I'll try to keep the terminology as simple as possible.
 
1)The individual who entered the country illegally must either marry a US citizen or a Permanent Green Card Holder
 
2)The married couple must then file an I-130.  The US citizen is petitioning the USCIS for their relative.  In this case, the foreign spouse.  Fill out one for the US petitioner and one for the spouse.  Answer all questions to the best of your knowledge and DO NOT LIE.  This step could take from 6 to 12 months.
 
3)After USCIS as approved the I-130, the next step is to file an I-601a.  It is a waiver for illegal presence in the United States.  You must prove "Extreme Hardship" to the US petitioner should the foreign spouse not be allowed to stay in the United States.  The form itself is pretty easy to fill out, however you must prove to the USCIS of extreme hardship with documentation.  That includes doctors and psychologists.   I cannot emphasize "Extreme Hardship" enough.  Writing a sappy letter telling USCIS how heartbroken the US citizen will be without their spouse is not extreme hardship.  The extreme hardship must be proven and it must only be to the US citizen, not to the foreign born spouse.  Approval of the I-601a could take as long as another 6 months to a year.  
 
4)More documentation to the NVC like an I-865 must be submitted.  I mean...the US citizen is technically sponsoring the foreign born spouse.  So you'll need to prove that you can provide for him or her financially as well.  
 
5)  After all the NVC matters are finished, now is the time for the spouse to travel back to their country of origin, Mexico.  The NVC will schedule an appointment with the US Consulate in Juarez more than likely.  Plan on being in Juarez for a week or two.  Before the Consulate appointment, the spouse will need a medical exam by a medical clinic near the US Consulate.  The US Consulate will then interview the spouse and ask a series of questions.  Who is your US spouse?  What children do you have together?  Things the Consulate will already know prior to the interview based on your USCIS and NVC paperwork.  There, in this day of judgement, the spouse will be given the answer Yes or No.  If Yes, then their entry visa stamped on their passport will be ready to pickup in a couple of days and he/she will be able to cross back into the US.  If No...well, i don't think I need to elaborate much of that outcome.
 
I may have left a few smaller details out, but those are the main bulletpoints of what is to come should anyone decide to go this route. 
 
So, have I talked you or whoever it concerns out of it yet?  This isn't for the faint of heart or something where you fill out a couple of forms and pay a few hundred dollars to get things straightened out.  If you, or whoever it is, goes this route, the US petitioner and their spouse need to be FULLY invested in this process 100%.    Maybe a sit down with a competent experienced immigration attorney will put your minds at ease.  

Well, without getting into what is fair and what is not fair on the matter of this illegal entry adult, I'll put in my post as I have gone through this process.  I'll try to keep the terminology as simple as possible.
 
1)The individual who entered the country illegally must either marry a US citizen or a Permanent Green Card Holder
 
2)The married couple must then file an I-130.  The US citizen is petitioning the USCIS for their relative.  In this case, the foreign spouse.  Fill out one for the US petitioner and one for the spouse.  Answer all questions to the best of your knowledge and DO NOT LIE.  This step could take from 6 to 12 months.
 
3)After USCIS as approved the I-130, the next step is to file an I-601a.  It is a waiver for illegal presence in the United States.  You must prove "Extreme Hardship" to the US petitioner should the foreign spouse not be allowed to stay in the United States.  The form itself is pretty easy to fill out, however you must prove to the USCIS of extreme hardship with documentation.  That includes doctors and psychologists.   I cannot emphasize "Extreme Hardship" enough.  Writing a sappy letter telling USCIS how heartbroken the US citizen will be without their spouse is not extreme hardship.  The extreme hardship must be proven and it must only be to the US citizen, not to the foreign born spouse.  Approval of the I-601a could take as long as another 6 months to a year.  
 
4)More documentation to the NVC like an I-865 must be submitted.  I mean...the US citizen is technically sponsoring the foreign born spouse.  So you'll need to prove that you can provide for him or her financially as well.  
 
5)  After all the NVC matters are finished, now is the time for the spouse to travel back to their country of origin, Mexico.  The NVC will schedule an appointment with the US Consulate in Juarez more than likely.  Plan on being in Juarez for a week or two.  Before the Consulate appointment, the spouse will need a medical exam by a medical clinic near the US Consulate.  The US Consulate will then interview the spouse and ask a series of questions.  Who is your US spouse?  What children do you have together?  Things the Consulate will already know prior to the interview based on your USCIS and NVC paperwork.  There, in this day of judgement, the spouse will be given the answer Yes or No.  If Yes, then their entry visa stamped on their passport will be ready to pickup in a couple of days and he/she will be able to cross back into the US.  If No...well, i don't think I need to elaborate much of that outcome.
 
I may have left a few smaller details out, but those are the main bulletpoints of what is to come should anyone decide to go this route. 
 
So, have I talked you or whoever it concerns out of it yet?  This isn't for the faint of heart or something where you fill out a couple of forms and pay a few hundred dollars to get things straightened out.  If you, or whoever it is, goes this route, the US petitioner and their spouse need to be FULLY invested in this process 100%.    Maybe a sit down with a competent experienced immigration attorney will put your minds at ease.  

I think it's important (especially for the kid) if you speak either English and Spanish as opposed to Spanglish, my wife and I tried to maintain my son's fluency in Tagalog while learning English, we ended up with a hybrid (Taglish) that satisfies the rules of neither language. We are working now to have him maintain his fluency in both so that he can interact with his extended family. We watch Filipino TV in Tagalog, we talk in Tagalog (to the best of my ability) she gives him directions in both. It is important to cultural development to be aware of and able to interact effectively in both sides of a multi-cultural relationship. 

Thanks to everyone who took time to reply.
 
As long as our daughter is exposed and taught in both languages at a young age, she'll be fine.  We try and keep activities such as English/Spanish movies, English/Spanish music and my wife's family and my family as even as possible.  I personally like to listen to classic rock and 80's new wave while my wife likes bachata and banda.  I do enjoy watching foreign movies, and the ones in Spanish are no exception.  My wife likes TV shows like Game of Thrones and Lost, but prefers to watch them dubbed in Spanish...until I grab the remote and change it to English with Spanish subtitles.  We've also been using a small dry erase board to improve the vocabulary.  Writing down common phrases and expressions that would normally be used in everyday conversation.  I guess there is no "one correct way".  I've found that while using language software like Rosetta Stone improves my vocabulary, it doesn't do much to explain sentence structure and present and past tense.  It's funny how my family always tells my wife to practice English more, while her family always says "Why doesn't your gringo husband speak Spanish?"...ironic since neither side is bilingual at all (except my mother Korean and English).  Everybody seems to want others to change for the better, but do little to improve themselves.  Sometimes we have to put ourselves in vulnerable spots and make fools out of ourselves in order to learn.  I've done it many times with my wife's family, much to my dismay.  But then there are times where my wife will introduce me to an older distant relative at a party and after shaking his/her hand, I ask without hesitation "Como esta usted?".  The reaction I get is quite rewarding.  That not only did I ask the correct question, but also in the formal tense showing respect.  
 
Nevertheless, it is encouraging from others here in VJ who have been through the same situation to say in a nutshell "keep doing what you're doing, it will be fine".  I always just had that nagging question lingering in the back of my head: "Is this the right direction we are taking our daughter?".  I believe I can rest a little easier now.  Thanks again, everyone.

Actually a some experts recommend one parent, one language, to force the child to compartmentalize and be able to express themselves, and not just understand, in both languages.   So while it's great for you to learn Spanish for a lot of reasons, including speaking to your in-laws, I don't think you should feel bad about using English with your daughter.
 

Something I did to improve my Spanish when I was first picking it up was I would watch movies in Spanish with Spanish subtitles. I bet you have a lot of Disney movies at home? I also listened to music that had been translated into Spanish (there's a lot of Christian music out there that exist in both languages). Part of the struggle when first learning any language is being able to distinguish the wordssoitdoesn'tseemlikeonegiantrunonsentencecuzthatcanbefrustrating.
 
We are expecting our first cipote/chavalo/chigüín/chatel (aka child, so many ways to say it in slang!) February next year. One thing we decided to do as parents is Spanish exclusively at home since they will be inundated with English everywhere else.
 
Just think though. Your daughter is 2ish years old. You can both kind of learn to speak together. Pointing at things and saying what it is in Spanish. Hey you know what, even if your Spanish is not great practice with your wife's family. They'll appreciate the effort even if you slaughter the language at first

This is all well and good so kudos to you both. It is great to bring a child up being bilingual. We are bringing our children up to speak English and Tagalog at home because my wife is Filipino. 
 
When we lived in California, we became good friends with our neighbors across the street because they have a little girl that's my son's age so they began to play together. The wife is a USC but her family was from Mexico while the Husband's family immigrated legally from Peru back in late 60's. So talk about rivalry between the who was better the Aztecs or the Inca and those debates were harsh.... But anyway the Abuela who spoke heavily accented English helped raise Stefany until she was old enough to go to school. She taught her Spanish so she would talk to Stefany in Spanish and then Stefany would respond back in English. They are teaching her now how to actually speak Spanish and not just understand it because they travel back to Mexico pretty routinely to visit family members. 
 
BTW I feel your pain because I can understand Tagalog for the most part due to living/working in the MENA region. Even then it is hard for me to follow along the news sometime because it is so fast. Even worse is where my wife lives at they don't even speak Tagalog but they do speak Cebuano. The difference between the two is like Spanish and Portuguese so some words are the same but a majority of them are different.  

i could write a lot about how it's important, but i think you got a great grasp of that already. 
 
So i'll focus on one small thing you can do, daily. 
you drive a car to work and back, yes?  put in a CD or TAPE or even some mp3 thing, for spanish tutorial.  when you get tired of that, listen to a spanish-only radio station on your ride in .  Daily Exposure is a big thing, when it's missing. 

I could have penned your post, and almost verbatim.
 
It's not unusual in the slightest for one parent to speak one language to the child, and the other parent to speak another language.  This yields bilingual children, we were told, and what a boon indeed.  Mini-Bone is as capable of speaking/understanding both languages as any nearly-8-year-old can be.  In fact, when he was in Kindergarten, he actually interpreted for a temporary classmate who spoke only Spanish.
 
We have done what you're doing.  The only difference is that Mrs. T-B. is apparently more fluent in English than your wife is, so she speaks both languages to Mini-Bone.  I don't worry about my lack of proficiency in Spanish except when I'm around Mrs. T-B.'s family.  (Actually, when I say anything in Spanish to any native speaker, that person looks alarmed and urgently points me to the nearest bathroom.)
 
In short, you're doing fine, and don't worry.  My 3 recommendations are for your wife to concentrate as a priority on learning English, for you to quit worrying about speaking only English to your daughter, and otherwise to keep doing what you're doing.

Without reading which poker player it is, I would have guessed it was Justin Schwartz.  Nobody could use an entire month locked in a bathroom more than this guy...
 

Without reading which poker player it is, I would have guessed it was Justin Schwartz.  Nobody could use an entire month locked in a bathroom more than this guy...
 

no wife to nag him for a month ???? and he got paid ????

Just to clarify this item, the answer is yes. There is no shade of gray here.