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About dawning

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  1. Sounds like a difficult situation. It could be she has fraudulent intent, in which case advice to pull the I-864 and send her home would be reasonable; but it could also be that she is just homesick and struggling with life here not being what she expected. If not having children is a deal-breaker for her, perhaps you should divorce and help her get back to her country? Maybe some kind of counseling or mediation could help the two of you to be clearer about what each wants and what each is willing to do and not willing to do. Perhaps going back to the Philippines for a visit could help her to get clear in her own mind what she wants?
  2. dawning

    English and Spanish for our 2 year old daughter

    Actually a some experts recommend one parent, one language, to force the child to compartmentalize and be able to express themselves, and not just understand, in both languages. So while it's great for you to learn Spanish for a lot of reasons, including speaking to your in-laws, I don't think you should feel bad about using English with your daughter.
  3. Thank you, I thought I remembered that language but wasn't sure. I would say if she were a USC, and lived originally in the same city as her husband, their marriage would be borderline abusive. But given that she immigrated and is entirely dependent on the husband and his family for support in the absence of AOS that would allow her to work, I would say that it is clearly abusive. To the OP: I think it is clear that you DO qualify for VAWA, although the diminished conditions you have been living in since marriage may make showing a bona fide relationship difficult. Someone else also mentioned a U Visa, which is for witnesses to crimes, due to the child pornography you have seen him possess. You could also scrape up money to go home, which would be the easiest legally. You have a lot of options to choose from. Please don't give up.
  4. She wrote " He's told me if I speak to his family about anything he has done, he'll just throw me out and I'll end up getting deported. " Threatening a spouse is typically understood as abusive behavior. She also writes about him being angry and giving her a hard time if she sees or calls people outside of the house, which fits with a pattern of controlling/abusive behavior. I can't remember if there is also some specific language in the VAWA descriptions about using a victim's immigration status to threaten and control?
  5. dawning

    Need guidance on work visa for my parent's business

    Actually I know some seniors with addiction issues. It's a common belief that drugs are something that only the modern degenerate youth do, but that's not at all true across the board in my experience. Age stereotyping is no more accurate than racial, gender or other forms of stereotyping.
  6. It's not just that divorces are hard to track; there are also a lot of stressful things about immigration aside from the wait times and uncertainty. Moving to another country and acclimating is stressful. (Of course it is more stressful for some individuals than others.) Cross-cultural relationships do tend to have their own special set of challenges as well. For some the real stress starts when the immigrant arrives, not during the wait. Or it could feel liketrading one stress for another. I do agree that it's simplistic to say that if a marriage doesn't survive, it's because the partners didn't love each other enough. Almost as simplistic as blaming it on immigration processes.
  7. Just curious: why not try to go through the Dubai consulate if he is residing there?
  8. Interesting, so that contradicts the info the OP heard... perhaps officers don't all weight evidence the same way.
  9. Curious how you know it had more weight. Did they tell you that? I'm also pretty sure you can read about people who abandoned their joint checking account, insurance, rental agreement, and so forth. Probably more common?
  10. I suspect most of those women wanted children anyway, and are using birth tourism to give the child a perceived advantage via US citizenship. I would guess the percentage that only had a child because they had a chance to give birth in the US is relatively low. It's hard to get statistics on that though. I think we also have to realize that reasons for having children vary a lot across cultures, and people may not always describe the reasons in the same way. That doesn't mean they are not sincere in their desire to have children.
  11. I also think there's a confusion of two concepts. Pregnancy is not a reason for expedite, unless there's a medical problem. Neither are existing children, although one parent might be unhappy to be away from them. But that doesn't mean that HAVING the children is proof of a genuine relationship, even if that relationship has to wait in line with all the others.
  12. I also find it a little puzzling how insistent some posters on here are that children in common are not any kind of evidence. While obviously everyone makes decisions differently, anyone wanting to have a child and a relationship to that child should probably think carefully about the who the other parent will be, as shared custody with someone from a different values set can be very difficult. I don't buy the idea that to accept children as evidence from couples that are able and want to have children is discrimination against those who aren't able or don't want to. Having both parties' names on the deed to the house is good evidence, probably better than just a rental agreement which is more temporary and easier to modify, but that's not discrimination against those who can't afford a house or prefer to rent. I also find it interesting that OP has had an answer from two USCIS officers that children are excellent evidence, and yet posters here continue to insist they aren't. Were the officers lying?
  13. dawning


    How do you feel about it? Do you feel you have a bona fide relationship? If so, thinking about why might give you ideas for evidence.
  14. I'm the USC, my husband is from Venezuela. I have spent a lot of time there in the past, so I do know a little bit about how different it is/was. (Nothing seems to be working well in Venezuela right now.) 6 years ago I was there and had an emergency health problem, and was able to go to the public hospitals and be treated without anyone seeming to care at all if I was a citizen or a resident or a tourist. But I had to bring my own sheets and toilet paper, so it wasn't like a hospital here. The doctors and nurses were very good and very kind though. I think you should be fine if your fiancee has private insurance he can add you to, at least from an immigration perspective.
  15. That's really not a silly question at all. It's something that many foreigners find strange about the US, and something that most native born US citizens don't think about much. In the US, certain services are considered public. Things like police and fire departments, are expected to mostly serve everyone within a geographical region regardless of the economic status of the people needing services. I think that is partly because of a perception that the public safety of all is at stake when a crime is committed or a fire occurs. Police and fire departments don't charge people to receive services either. (It would create a lot of ethical problems if they did). Other public institutions like public roads or public parks are equally available to everyone, although some charge for use to fund additional services, like toll bridges. We also have public education for children, which is tax funded and free, although there are often criticisms of unequal quality between wealthier and poorer school districts. Medical services are not considered "public" in that sense in the US, at least not in most contexts. There is some government funding of services for poorer people, which is what this discussion is about keeping immigrants from using. But it's not like you can just show up somewhere and get medical care the way you could go to a police station and report a crime against you. You have to first be approved to receive government assistance based on your income and other circumstances, and then you also have to find a doctor or clinic that will accept the government assistance (it's sort of like an insurance the government pays for). Not all doctors will accept that payment for a variety of reasons, and it doesn't pay for all sorts of treatment. We don't really have anything like the public care system you are talking about in Mexico. The other thing about this is that they are talking about making immigrants show that they have private health insurance. Private health insurance tends to be pretty expense, so a lot of US citizens don't have it just because they can't afford it. It's pretty common for people to loose their home and go bankrupt after a serious health problem just because of hospital and medical bills. So it does kind of make you think that they want to have only well-funded people immigrating. The US has some of the most expensive health care in the world, and private insurance is big business. I believe there's a lot to discuss about the system could be improved for everyone, not just immigrants.