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I sincerely want to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart who took out time to send me good wishes and their precious advices!! It all means a lot!! I will not give up and I will fight through it and come out stronger. 

I would ask for your possesions back in the divorce in lieu of spousal support. Physician=makes money! 🙂

All the more reason to document his behavior in every way possible and give it all to your lawyer. Take screenshots of his messages to you, things like that. He'll see he won't be able to fool a judge into thinking he's "polite" when the judge sees your evidence of your ex's abuse.

Hi, 
 
Just to clarify to everyone I was lucky when I got my CR1 visa it was already past 2.5 years of our marriage so I got 10 years GC upon entry so I don't have to worry about 2 years conditional residence removal procedure. 
 
However, I didn't know much when I was in dallas with my ex spouse. He took full advantage of my lack of knowledge and tried to intimidate me saying "it doesn't matter if I have 10 yrs visa because moment we are divorced he'd inform USCIS and get me deported on the basis of fraud and nonsense". I was scared for a while and only gained confidence after speaking to several immigration lawyers that it won't be so easy for him to get me deported now that I have a 10 permanent GC.
 
He'd even try to say he'll get annulment as this was fraud marriage. It's so shameful to think that this guy who's a physician by profession, so called well behaved, polite person could turn out to be monster. He was trying to pressurize me in every possible way to stay away from divorcing. Reasons only best known to him and his parents
 
Yes absolutely I'm pushing my lawyer to file motion for default judgment asap so that I can get divorce granted. 

Hi, 
 
Just to clarify to everyone I was lucky when I got my CR1 visa it was already past 2.5 years of our marriage so I got 10 years GC upon entry so I don't have to worry about 2 years conditional residence removal procedure. 
 
However, I didn't know much when I was in dallas with my ex spouse. He took full advantage of my lack of knowledge and tried to intimidate me saying "it doesn't matter if I have 10 yrs visa because moment we are divorced he'd inform USCIS and get me deported on the basis of fraud and nonsense". I was scared for a while and only gained confidence after speaking to several immigration lawyers that it won't be so easy for him to get me deported now that I have a 10 permanent GC.
 
He'd even try to say he'll get annulment as this was fraud marriage. It's so shameful to think that this guy who's a physician by profession, so called well behaved, polite person could turn out to be monster. He was trying to pressurize me in every possible way to stay away from divorcing. Reasons only best known to him and his parents
 
Yes absolutely I'm pushing my lawyer to file motion for default judgment asap so that I can get divorce granted. 

Hi, 
 
Just to clarify to everyone I was lucky when I got my CR1 visa it was already past 2.5 years of our marriage so I got 10 years GC upon entry so I don't have to worry about 2 years conditional residence removal procedure. 
 
However, I didn't know much when I was in dallas with my ex spouse. He took full advantage of my lack of knowledge and tried to intimidate me saying "it doesn't matter if I have 10 yrs visa because moment we are divorced he'd inform USCIS and get me deported on the basis of fraud and nonsense". I was scared for a while and only gained confidence after speaking to several immigration lawyers that it won't be so easy for him to get me deported now that I have a 10 permanent GC.
 
He'd even try to say he'll get annulment as this was fraud marriage. It's so shameful to think that this guy who's a physician by profession, so called well behaved, polite person could turn out to be monster. He was trying to pressurize me in every possible way to stay away from divorcing. Reasons only best known to him and his parents
 
Yes absolutely I'm pushing my lawyer to file motion for default judgment asap so that I can get divorce granted. 

Hi, 
 
Just to clarify to everyone I was lucky when I got my CR1 visa it was already past 2.5 years of our marriage so I got 10 years GC upon entry so I don't have to worry about 2 years conditional residence removal procedure. 
 
However, I didn't know much when I was in dallas with my ex spouse. He took full advantage of my lack of knowledge and tried to intimidate me saying "it doesn't matter if I have 10 yrs visa because moment we are divorced he'd inform USCIS and get me deported on the basis of fraud and nonsense". I was scared for a while and only gained confidence after speaking to several immigration lawyers that it won't be so easy for him to get me deported now that I have a 10 permanent GC.
 
He'd even try to say he'll get annulment as this was fraud marriage. It's so shameful to think that this guy who's a physician by profession, so called well behaved, polite person could turn out to be monster. He was trying to pressurize me in every possible way to stay away from divorcing. Reasons only best known to him and his parents
 
Yes absolutely I'm pushing my lawyer to file motion for default judgment asap so that I can get divorce granted. 

OP, other have addressed your divorce issues. I will ask on your GC.
 
Since you got it in 2019, have you filed to remove conditions? What is the residence since date written on your GC? 
You are technically still married, so you will have to file as such and then as soon as you get the divorce certificate, send that in and request USCIS to switch to divorce waiver option.
 
I understand it is taking long in your divorce due to his whack-a-mole behavior. However, 4 months is a lot. Divorce in Texas is 60 days, I believe, which is 2 months. You should have got your divorce long ago. Push your lawyer or do it yourself. 
Lastly, unless your belongings are $5000+, for the sake of your sanity, just let him keep it. They can be replaced. 

Thank you!! 

I sincerely want to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart who took out time to send me good wishes and their precious advices!! It all means a lot!! I will not give up and I will fight through it and come out stronger. 

I sincerely want to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart who took out time to send me good wishes and their precious advices!! It all means a lot!! I will not give up and I will fight through it and come out stronger. 

I sincerely want to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart who took out time to send me good wishes and their precious advices!! It all means a lot!! I will not give up and I will fight through it and come out stronger. 

Good luck and continued strength to you.

this is what califonia says
so,  get your lawyer to do his job
the use the divorce and waiver to take care of immigration
If the party being served does not want to take the papers, they can be left on the ground in front of him or her.  If he or she takes the papers and tears them up or throws them away, service is still considered to be valid. The person being served does not have to sign anything.  
The server then fills out a proof of service, detailing when, where, and how (in person) the papers were served. The server signs the proof of service and returns it to you to file in court. https://www.courts.ca.gov/selfhelp-serving.htm?rdeLocaleAttr=en

You've got this!  I am here 4 years later, married to a wonderful guy and extremely happy. My ex is still miserable.  
 
You sound like you are a fighter with the way that you've taken control of serving the papers. Keep it up! ❤️ 

I'm so sorry to hear about you. But you're right!! I have to fight and get out of this and move on with life

She was already permitted to do drop service at his house, so she doesn't need to worry about service. Her husband passed the time he had to respond, so she can now get the divorce entered by default, if I am reading correctly what she wrote. I agree her lawyer (if she has one?) needs to get moving on the default now that the time is passed for him to file something.
 
OP, your best revenge is moving on and living your very best life. I wanted to punish my ex so badly when he left me and basically took everything out of our joint bank account, cut off my access to our credit cards (I was only ever an authorized user), etc. I had a rough time in the months that followed until I got organized and took control. I kept on top of the divorce and asked a lot of questions. My lawyer was very sympathetic and fought hard for me. It was good to have someone hold my hand while I got my footing again because I was heartbroken and my whole world had been turned upside down. If you can afford a lawyer, get one. If not, there are often self help clinics at the courts to guide you. Rely on your friends and family, don't be ashamed of what has happened. 
 
Best of luck. You are going to come out of this stronger and happier in the end. Losing possessions can feel hard but in the end, they're only things, even if they seem dear to you. Sometimes it's better to let them go if you must in order to take care of yourself. 

Op, divorce and move on. At this point he has no hold your immigration status because you entered into the marriage in good faith, so the divorce won't necessarily take away your greencard. Don't let him use that to scare you.

Yes unfortunately you can’t punish him. All the best.

I'm so sorry for your pain and trauma. But unfortunately this isn't really an immigration issue. It's a domestic issue and USCIS has zero jurisdiction over that. It is not their job to investigate or punish US citizens unless those US citizens are involved in extremely intense immigration-related crimes like human trafficking rings or visa mills. While your marriage definitely sounds like it was abusive, it does not fall under what USCIS and the courts would legally consider criminal and fraudulent in terms of immigration. The good thing is that your ex has no power or authority over your immigration status. That is 100% your responsibility. And you should consult a divorce lawyer. Divorce laws vary state by state, but I'm pretty sure most states (if not all) do not require both parties to approve the divorce. You should document his abusive behavior and give it to your lawyer to present in divorce court. Report your ex to the police as well and get a police escort to get your stuff back. Divorce and move on.

If he is overage, then he is not qualified to get the visa under that category. Nothing can be done.
 
You can calculate the CSPA age. Google cspa calculator. If his CSPA age is under 21 he can be added.

I finally received my green card in the mail. It was issued on May 21... 

I think they normally tell you to wait two months before enquiring when it comes to a green card.  Remember your endorsed immigrant visa is a temporary green card and works for anything you need proof of status for.

Some people get it in 2-3 weeks. Some people get it in 2-3 months. Seems random.