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Yes, you can obtain a visa. I know someone who moved back to their home country with their spouse, and did get a visa to attend a family event in the US. 

Wait. You have been married to her for 3 years, yet you have a 4 month old daughter in Africa? How does that work?

I had pregnancy medicaid as a secondary insurance. It is called Medical Assistance in my state. Back then, I was a green card holder. I disclosed everything, and was approved. The criteria are looser for pregnant women. Also, a lot of these programs are state specific. Those are OK to receive. Federal benefits is where it may get tricky. 

1 hour ago, kevin876 said:

Trying to help a friend who received the notice of intent to deny visa petition. To be honest I would deny their visa from what I read on the notice but I know them and they really love each other. 

 

In the letter 

•They got what they did on there anniversary wrong

•they got what she bought him for his birthday wrong

• They got what they did the day before the interview wrong

•They got where she went to school wrong. She said she went to 2 college while he said just one

• They send the new lease instead of the old one

 

She said she was nervous and panic

My husband and I just went through these questions. I didn't remember we went to a restaurant for our anniversary, he did. He did not remember what I got him for his birthday, I did. He has been to my university many times, but doesn't remember the name. Married for 6 years now. 

Just now, Jaquelly said:

Because women come to the US to give birth to kids to get them US citizenship. Birth tourism is a thing. Frankly, if you don't think that people abuse having kids to have an anchor baby you are out of your gourd.

 We are discussing this in the context of fiance or marriage visas. I am aware that anchor baby exists and I frankly think it is idiotic that citizenship can be acquired by birth on the soil alone.

1 hour ago, Springrain22 said:

The fact that someone is having kids does not prove anything at all. Why would it? You won't believe how many people cheated the system by having kids and not having any love / relationship / family.

 It actually does. This was my entire point. Are children 100% evidence of a genuine relationship? No. Are they evidence of nothing? No again. I don't understand how people genuinely think that taking pictures with someone is a stronger evidence of a relationship than having a child with that person.

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

How is being a Baby Mama proof of anything?

 How is hanging out with someone proof of anything?

 My husband and I spent the first two years as travelling buddies. We went across Europe and spent 2+ months of time together. Endless amount of pictures, we shared a hotel room and so on. Not a romantic relationship, yet could provide "evidence" of one.

2 minutes ago, NuestraUnion said:

Yeah, I can see how this bothers a lot of people.

 

But when we say evidence of a "bonafide relationship", it means a substantial relationship where two people are committed and not a sexual one.

 

The phrase "a child only proves two people had sex" came from the fact that people do just "hook up" and don't have any type of relationship except a sexual one. Also, being obligated to care for a child for 18 years (actually, a true parent would care for them for a lifetime) still does not mean that the parents had a genuine committed relationship.

 

 As I have witnessed one or two family and friends have a kid by someone they had a quick fling with, I can see the argument behind the theory. If a couple is together for a while and have a child, sure, it is one of the strongest evidence of a relationship. But if a guy goes on vacation and gets a local girl pregnant in the short week he is there, it can be argued that their relationship was simply a physical one. How can you justify a bonafide relationship simply because the condom broke? (rhetorical question)

 But see, the other evidence that are used are just as flimsy. Just because you spent time with someone doesn't mean you are in a relationship. All the "strong" evidence, especially for K1 visas are pretty meh, honestly.

5 minutes ago, geowrian said:

I disagree (for various reasons).

Co-parenting a child is good IMO, but just having a child doesn't show a relationship.

Just having a joint bank account (which you cannot just boot somebody off with a call...), credit cards, insurance, etc. has little meaning. Actually using said resources together has a meaning.

It's not the actions, but the contexts that surround them that make a good or weak case.

 Having a child while being in a relationship does show commitment. No, you don't have to be in a relationship to have one, but it does bring an extra layer to it.

My husband and I have been married 6+ years. We still have not mixed resources, except for the house mortgage. We are not less married because we each have our credit cards. 

2 minutes ago, Ben&Zian said:

For N-400 perhaps or even AOS in some cases, and married already for 3-4 plus years. Using pregnancy or a kid between newly weds or fiances, especially if from high fraud countries isn't. To some kids are very special and super important, to others they aren't. So no matter how special and amazing you may think they are, someone else doesn't have that mutual feeling, and probably thinks the complete opposite.

 Even in fresh relationships, there is more to having a child than sex. You have to actively agree to carry the pregnancy, it's not like you wake up in the morning after sex and the baby's there.  

And while it may carry less strength than it does for more established couples, it does carry importance. 

46 minutes ago, hf2018 said:

So pregnancy is considered as a preexisting condition for all insurance bought through the healthcare exchanges?

 

My wife is already pregnant and we'll be moving to the US in a few months, I will get insurance from my employer but if it's a preexisting condition it looks like my only option is to get emergency medicaid after birth?

 

What about all of the doctor visits, tests and other things that go on before she gives birth? Are we going to have to cover all of that without insurance?

Obamacare made it so that preexisting conditions are covered.

I am in MN. As a Green Card holder, I obtained Pregnancy Medical Insurance through the state. My husband and I were making 65-70k,  and I had health insurance through employer. All the health providers I saw encouraged me to apply although 1. Had not been a MN resident for 5 years, 2. My income was too big. They waivered both requirements. They reimbursed my premium pays and the deducible, so I paid nothing for my pregnancy. This is my experience.

K1 to citizenship, all done after the VJ guidelines.  Got one RFE, but that's related to a vaccine booster.

20 minutes ago, Love2020 said:

The guy is 18 years younger than me. He was the one that contact me and kept contacting me. We have not met in person. I do question him a lot on what he pick me or why he want to pursue a relationship with me even the age different. I even told him I can't just marry anyone for a green card. I am not going to waste my time I told him. He keep showing me on face time how poor he is and is not happy in his country. He don't practice his religion. I am catholic. The amazing part he dress just like a New Yorker with his style just like the guys here in New York City. 

 

Would age difference be a problem? 

Would I be making a mistake of marrying him? 

I don't care what religion or color you are .. if I like the person I like the person. 

This sounds like a classical scam honestly.

Is he also better looking objectively? Are you obese? If so, you checkmarked all of the marks of a romance victim.

if he is poor, how can he afford the clothes? he is getting money from old desperate western women, that's how/.

43 minutes ago, Successful Pinky said:

In as much that i want to bring more cash i cannot.. because i will be settling all my financial accountabilities in my country, leave funds for my aging parents, buy my airfare etc. So it will surely leave me with a few amount. That's why i'm asking how much personal cash should i bring, i mean to say "an amount" that could somehow suffice my 6 months of being unemployed but at the same time could share with my husbands household expenses and the wedding expenses.

Nobody knows your degree of comfort when it comes to living conditions and your cost of living. A studio in the middle of nowhere in Alabama and a 3 bfr apartment in San Francisco are two different things altogether.

1 hour ago, JMSaint said:

I really appreciate all your input!

 

The reason I don’t want to do the CR1 is because she aged out when her mom’s petition (by her grandma) got approved, so her entire family but her is here. And my family is here, so it makes sense to get married here than there. 3 hours of FaceTime every night and multiple texts everyday aren’t enough, and it is expensive to visit her every 2-3 months, which I plan to do while the K-1 application is pending. 

That might raise some eyebrows.

6 hours ago, ishee said:

so when he fly back here on september then he can file the petition once he came back on october

yes

I think you had very little proof of bona fide marriage.

Remember that couple that sent a CD of them having sex?

And I am a citizen. Yay!

I left him home. And it was a good idea, everything took much longer than I thought.

I am wondering if I should bring my 20 month old son to the oath ceremony. I would enjoy having him there, but I don't want him to be a distractions either. Thoughts?

On 2/14/2018 at 2:36 PM, tijuana_brass said:

Got my letter this afternoon - Wednesday 28th, 0900 at the Fitzgerald Theater - maybe will see you there! I'll update the tracker when I get the chance.

Yup! Same time, same place! We will definitely see each other there, even though we may not know who we are.