Can I withdraw myself as petitioner from IR-1 application?

[Family 3,527]

But if you want to walk the tightrope and are hoping to “test” the true nature of her “ intentions “..you have some time between now and January interview.

And most on VJ would give you plenty of ideas on how you could approach that …..in good spirit of course 

[Strawberrymermaid 346]

3 hours ago, CVincent901 said:

Hi. I am new to this forum and am in a difficult, complex situation. I am the petitioner for my wife's spousal visa application and we are quite far along in the process. We have been scheduled for an interview at the consulate in January. Unfortunately, our marriage is in a bad place and I am seriously questioning my wife's intentions. I fear that I might be making a mistake by sponsoring her visa application. Obviously this is a very stressful situation. My question is, where exactly is the "point of no return", after which she will be able to move to the US even if I no longer wish for that to happen? Could I contact the consulate before the interview and tell them I wish to withdraw myself as the sponsor of the visa application? Once the interview happens, assuming it results in the visa being approved, is there anything I could do at that point to put a stop to the process? Obviously I understand the seriousness of the situation and whatever I decide could have lifelong consequences, so I want to get as much information as I can before making any decisions.

 

Thanks in advance and for any advice you might have.

Im deeply sorry you’re going through this. I began to question myself and what I was doing only after like 6 months of marriage and it was at NVC stage I think. These feelings never went away for me. My gut knew this wasn’t right and I didn’t want to do it anymore. You can read my previous posts to see my journey. Sometimes it just doesn’t work and that’s ok.
 

I wrestled with what to do. I cancelled the case before interview and filed for divorce and that was the right call for me but is a mess and expensive to get out of. 

Some on here advise that the I-864 is not too serious and can only be implemented if someone applies for government benefits. I have consulted with multiple lawyers and one in particular mentioned that he had a case where the spouse made it to the US and is going for that money indefinitely (they don’t even have to prove they are trying to get a job). That’s enough to scare me out of not “just hoping things get better when they get to the US”. I had a lot of people in my personal life tell me to go that route. That was too scary to me.

 

If you aren’t sure, you don’t have to cancel the entire petition/ case, but just postpone interview. I wish you the best. 

[Mike E 11,723]

5 hours ago, Letspaintcookies said:

As soon as the visa is approved it's basically game over for you unless you have serious evidence of fraud. At that point she can enter the US and settle here if you want it or not.

OP can leave the USA and wait for the immigration visa to expire. The sponsor   of I-864 is required to physically be the USA prior to the beneficiary entering the USA, unless the beneficiary and sponsor  enter the USA at the same time. 
 

 

[Kanja 201]

15 hours ago, Ontarkie said:

There have been many in your shoes. Some ignored the red flags and suffered when their spouse walked out or left the airport as soon as landing without a word. 

Since you are worried about privacy, and I cannot blame you one bit. Type in the advance search with key words that may match your situation and spouse's country.  Sometimes searching the regional forums help too.

Have spouses really left the airport at landing? 

[Ontarkie 13,923]

19 minutes ago, Kanja said:

Have spouses really left the airport at landing? 

Yes

[Kanja 201]

11 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

Yes

Oh dear. So sad. Not good.

[Family 3,527]

Some chose not to tell the US Citizen spouse the “ exact day” of arrival, while others left immediately after..

https://www.google.com/url?client=internal-element-cse&cx=partner-pub-3407508467788263:9725800110&q=https://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/786468-worried-and-scared-abusive-spouse-threatening-to-call-uscis/page/3/&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwjfz47C9vH6AhVWK0QIHRzVBQsQFnoECAUQAg&usg=AOvVaw1vJ6SSOlJKamEuFPeIoIAJ

 

 

 

 

 

https://www.google.com/url?client=internal-element-cse&cx=partner-pub-3407508467788263:9725800110&q=https://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/744667-wife-came-to-the-us-and-left-me-3-days-later/&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwi4xsng9PH6AhWTBEQIHcBaBxUQFnoECAQQAQ&usg=AOvVaw1DmCD2I2q9CbNZ7L5jXsT5

 

 

 

 

 

[TBoneTX 43,246]

This thread is now closed in favor of the continuation thread:

https://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/791620-urgent-need-help-preventing-fradulent-visa-from-proceeding/