Yes, first child. I am a child of divorce and know countless people who have been through awful divorces. I have talked to all of them to get as much guidance as I can throughout this whole process.
I understand the different situation in the US regarding divorce, custody, etc., but I actually see that as an advantage. I have an established life in the states, and limitations on taking my child elsewhere would actually work to my benefit, since the worst case scenario for me would be that my wife gets to the US and then manages to take my child elsewhere in the US. As long as we establish residence where I live, many of those protections would help me rather than hurt.