Thank you to everyone who followed along.. 💟 I am the one who wanted this so don't feel sad for me persay, just take my situation as an example for anyone else NOT to have to go through. I feel my eyes were opened finally.
Another word of caution to anyone reading this and still in the process, this sounds silly but I am trying to offer some advice- make SURE you don't keep in this situation for a sunken costs reason, or to feel like you finally "won" if/ when they get their visa. The only reason you are going through this is so you can be together and then start your life. I fought so hard, tried so many things, expedites, being patient, research, time and money spent, trips to Russia etc... as if it was a problem I was trying to solve to get over the hump to finally be together. I focused on the formalities and difficulties of the paperwork during a worldwide pandemic and didn't really look at the compatibility of myself and my partner. We straight up were not compatible in any way and me fighting for the paperwork (and then the disaster that is Moscow embassy closing and having to do CRAZY getting ducks in a row to get an interview) that took up so much of my time that I overlooked just how miserable I would have been when we finally got to live a married life together, the REAL ACTUAL relationship. No real shared life goals, interests, or wants. I then didn't file divorce sooner because I felt terrible about the war and his situation in Russia. It's not my fault or duty to "save" him , and its not yours either. So just heed my advice, please. 😀