Does filing for AOS give you authorized stay in the US

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So I have a really nasty mother in law who lives with my husband and I , who keeps referring to me as "the illegal" my husband and I filled my AOS and we have the receipts. Ive tried to explain to her that I have authorizated staff while our case is being adjudicated but she keeps saying stuff like she could go to prison for harbouring an illegal. Can someone please give me the right explanation so I can explain to her ? Thank you 

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41 minutes ago, Lorin123 said:

she could go to prison for harbouring an illegal

Call her out on her bs and ask her to point to a law that says that. But even then, explain to her that the NOA, while it does not grant you an immigrant benefit by itself, is your proof of authorized stay until your I-485 is adjudicated.

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1 minute ago, Rocio0010 said:

Call her out on her bs and ask her to point to a law that says that. But even then, explain to her that the NOA, while it does not grant you an immigrant benefit by itself, is your proof of authorized stay until your I-485 is adjudicated.

Im going to show her your reply , because she tells me to stop talking and that I "better not "get her into trouble. Horrible woman imagine reading to your daughter in law as "the illegal" than by her own name . Thank you for your reply 

[Rocio0010 5,569]

1 minute ago, Lorin123 said:

Im going to show her your reply , because she tells me to stop talking and that I "better not "get her into trouble. Horrible woman imagine reading to your daughter in law as "the illegal" than by her own name . Thank you for your reply 

Ask her how exactly you’d be getting her in trouble 

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1 hour ago, Lorin123 said:

So I have a really nasty mother in law who lives with my husband and I , who keeps referring to me as "the illegal" my husband and I filled my AOS and we have the receipts. Ive tried to explain to her that I have authorizated staff while our case is being adjudicated but she keeps saying stuff like she could go to prison for harbouring an illegal. Can someone please give me the right explanation so I can explain to her ? Thank you 

Your husband should be the one managing his mother. 

1.) He should explain the immigration process to her. 

2.) He should be defending you when your mother-in-law is being nasty

3.) He should tell her to stop referring to you as "the illegal". 

 

I would not engage with the mother-in-law if I was you~ Just tell her "don't talk to me like that" and walk away. 

You probably aren't going to win her over... or change her mind and it shouldn't be your job. It is your husband's job. 

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10 minutes ago, ROK2USA said:

Your husband should be the one managing his mother. 

1.) He should explain the immigration process to her. 

2.) He should be defending you when your mother-in-law is being nasty

3.) He should tell her to stop referring to you as "the illegal". 

 

I would not engage with the mother-in-law if I was you~ Just tell her "don't talk to me like that" and walk away. 

You probably aren't going to win her over... or change her mind and it shouldn't be your job. It is your husband's job. 

I've told him that , but he won't say anything to upset her because her husband past away 2 years ago and she had to move in with us, she uses that as a weapon against my husband, crying and making herself the victim when he confronts her and tells her to stop her #######. I have ignored it for as long as I can I don't speak to her unless I absolutely have to ,she told me I only married him for a green card and this is how she treats me in MY own house. 

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Make sure you keep those NOAs in a safe place. I wouldn’t like to think of her making life more difficult for you if she got her hands on them. 

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7 minutes ago, AW1704 said:

Make sure you keep those NOAs in a safe place. I wouldn’t like to think of her making life more difficult for you if she got her hands on them. 

I keep them with me all the time cause I never know when her nastiness is going to show up 

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2 hours ago, Lorin123 said:

So I have a really nasty mother in law who lives with my husband and I , who keeps referring to me as "the illegal" my husband and I filled my AOS and we have the receipts. Ive tried to explain to her that I have authorizated staff while our case is being adjudicated but she keeps saying stuff like she could go to prison for harbouring an illegal. Can someone please give me the right explanation so I can explain to her ? Thank you 

You have nothing to explain to her. Just because she is warped doesn't mean it is your responsibility to straighten her out. The husband needs to stand up to mommy and let her know that in YOUR home that she is the outsider. You two aren't living in her house, she is living in your house, so maybe she is the "illegal" in this scenario. 

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you have authorized stay with the AOS receipt till the adjudication. Since its your husband's house and you are on your property by law, she is not harboring anyone. you do not owe her an explanation, calling someone illegal just because she does not know is very rude and disrespectful. my suggestion would be to respectfully communicate to your husband and her that such language should never be used for you. otherwise its possible she could start calling you some other names once you convince her that you are in fact legal

[JeanneAdil 6,220]

sorry,   but loosing a husband does not give anyone the right to verbally abuse another

she should be grateful your husband and her are helping her

 

basically ,  if your husband is not man enough to "very simply explain this to her"  and it is a simple statement of fact,   then explain to him,  the verbal abuse needs to stop

 

If it gets stronger or physical ,  u have the right to call 911 

the police can then explain it 

[Rocio0010 5,569]

Is this a battle you want to die on? 
Ask your husband to stand up for you and stop being a baby. 

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8 hours ago, Bajinga said:

you have authorized stay with the AOS receipt till the adjudication. Since its your husband's house and you are on your property by law, she is not harboring anyone. you do not owe her an explanation, calling someone illegal just because she does not know is very rude and disrespectful. my suggestion would be to respectfully communicate to your husband and her that such language should never be used for you. otherwise its possible she could start calling you some other names once you convince her that you are in fact legal

Thank you so much . 

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10 hours ago, MarJhi said:

You have nothing to explain to her. Just because she is warped doesn't mean it is your responsibility to straighten her out. The husband needs to stand up to mommy and let her know that in YOUR home that she is the outsider. You two aren't living in her house, she is living in your house, so maybe she is the "illegal" in this scenario. 

She's certainly is the "illegal" I've have been more than respectful to her because I understand she lost her husband but that is no reason to be nasty to me 

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7 minutes ago, Rocio0010 said:

Is this a battle you want to die on? 
Ask your husband to stand up for you and stop being a baby. 

I told him that allowing his mother verbally abuse me is no different then her doing it , I'm his wife and I shouldn't have to put up with this . 

33 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

sorry,   but loosing a husband does not give anyone the right to verbally abuse another

she should be grateful your husband and her are helping her

 

basically ,  if your husband is not man enough to "very simply explain this to her"  and it is a simple statement of fact,   then explain to him,  the verbal abuse needs to stop

 

If it gets stronger or physical ,  u have the right to call 911 

the police can then explain it 

Thank you very much .