Big age difference...

[MouadsWife 161]

That is pretty normal.

Now if your ages were the other way around there would a few ####### comments both on VJ and at the Consulate.

Lol Over the past 7 years I've seen alot of remarks on vj about age differences. And not necessarily when it was the other way around. Lol

[CowBoE 429]

No doubt 15 years older wife will raise some attention,

but if you have solid evidence, I think you guys will be fine.

BTW...nice catch...15 years fresher...and a podiatrist.

Edited April 5, 2015 by DualityOneness

[robinanis 77]

I was told by a few officers from USCIS that age used to be a big deal but now its never an issue as long as you can prove a bonafide marriage.and it is discrimination.

[raven52 233]

I personally know of a 36 year and a 42 year difference, and both from the Philippines, which is quite the norm, for that country.

It is very normal for young Filipino women, to look for older, more mature men.,.,.,I will not go into the reasons, but the reasons are real.

You should have no problem.,.,.,good look, don't get nervous, and "look them straight in the eye!"

[MissPearls 38]

There are quite a few years between my fiance and myself as well. Being the older female (33 vs very early 20's) and we aren't concerned. Proof of a relationship from what I hear, and what's been said here, is most important. Age is really just a number.

[Cathi 5,610]

No doubt 15 years older wife will raise some attention,

but if you have solid evidence, I think you guys will be fine.

BTW...nice catch...15 years fresher...and a podiatrist.

No, it will not raise attention, just as it doesn't when the male is older. Age discrimination, look it up. Fresher? Really? I am 21 years older than my husband and everyone says I'm the catch.

[99balloons 12]

I don't know what book consular immigration book is reading but I wish they'd stop! When a 70 year old guy marries a 21 year old, they have no problem. When you reverse the ages, you are that poor woman being scammed by someone! I wish you luck. Get affidavits. From your family and his. About your marriage. It's no fun to have to get them when USCIS decides they want more info or will send you a NOIR you and you have 30 days to get them.

[KayDeeCee 4,891]

I assume a tourist visa, but why does it matter?

I assume because they wanted to place the thread in the appropriate forum, and because if they had entered on a K visa, then the relationship would have already, for the most part, been vetted. Adjusting this way from a non-family based visa means the AOS interview will be where the relationship vetting will happen.

No, it will not raise attention, just as it doesn't when the male is older. Age discrimination, look it up. Fresher? Really? I am 21 years older than my husband and everyone says I'm the catch.

I agree. 'Fresher'? Come on. The term is a bit insulting. I am older than my husband, and people say the same, including saying it himself.

~ Moved from AOS from Family Based Visas to AOS from Work, Student & Tourist Visas - assuming AOS from non-family based ~

[subwayguy 100]

you have 0 to worry about. its not a big deal. When i visit a very small town ND couple of years ago, I met quite a few men in their 60s married to filipinas in their 20s (i am not passing a judgement , i am telling what i saw)

if asked why your in laws did;t come to the wedding, just tell them the truth , which is that they don't seem to approve your marriage.

I applied for a permanent residency for my husband. He received his EAD 3 weeks ago. But now we're slightly worried about the upcoming interview.

We're both in the medical field. I'm a medical assistant and he's a podiatrist. (We met in the hospital where I work.)

We're both originally from the capital of Bulgaria - Sofia.

We're both Christians.

However... we have 15 years age difference with me being the older one. (I just turned 50.)

Also, I have 2 children (ages 23 and 13.) While my husband gets along great with both of his stepsons, he doesn't want any babies. In fact, that's one of the main reasons why he had split up with his ex wife.

We've been married since November. We dated for about 10 months before we got married.

Also, my husband's divorce from his ex wife only became final in September. But they had been living separately for one and a half years prior to that...

We had a small ceremony at City Hall in NY with just 2 of our friends as witnesses. My husband's parents and my mom reside in Europe. My younger son was at school. And my older one was at work. We went to a restaurant afterwards. But we have yet to go on a honeymoon (to Boston.)

Here's the evidence we have gathered for the interview:

- Joint tax filing documents.

- Joint medical & dental insurance (through my work.)

- Cable/Internet bill.

- Electricity bill.

- 2 Joint bank accounts.

- Joint credit card accounts.

- Renters insurance. NOTE: Unfortunately, I am unable to put my husband on the lease... My landlord and I don't have a written contract. I know, I know... that's very bad. At some point, the landlord had given me a hand-written note that had her name and address, the property's address and the amount I was to pay every month (I needed it for my work.) But I've been living in her place for over 2 years without any problems now. Apartments in NYC are crazy expensive. And we only pay $1,200 for a large 2 bedroom... My landlord lives out of state and has no idea that I'm married. She took pity on me when I rented the place because I was a single mother. If I were to tell that I married a doctor... well, she'd definitely increase my rent. There's a young couple living right below us. They pay $300 more each month for a smaller 1 bedroom apartment! My husband doesn't work yet... and I can't afford to have the landlord increase our rent. So, I can't put my husband on the lease for the time being. I'm not sure how I can explain this to the officer who's going to interview us...

- Hotel and other receipts from a week-long trip with my younger son to Chicago in the spring of 2014.

- Pictures from our engagement (which was very romantic - on a boat cruise on the Hudson River )

- E-mails, dating all the way back to February of 2014.

- Pictures with various friends, my father and my 2 sons + my older son's gf. These include pictures from our wedding day, my birthday, our dating and every day life, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.

- E-mails exchanged with wedding vendors. (We had a professional photographer. I had a very nice floral bouquet. I had also e-mailed a few officiants, because we wanted to do a fall wedding. But then I got very sick for a few weeks, so we had to postpone it.)

- Copies of greeting cards that we've given each other. I have a few holiday cards from our friends saved somewhere.

- Pictures of a wedding gift from my in-laws (who reside in Bulgaria) and a greeting card from them.

- Receipts from gifts that we've given each other.

I guess I'm primarily worried due to the fact that we have a significant age difference. Also, my husband's brother & his wife live in NJ. But he hasn't been having a good relationship with them for years now. I have never met them. They don't speak... at all.

What are your opinions on our case? I will greatly appreciate hearing them.

[MouadsWife 161]

I assume because they wanted to place the thread in the appropriate forum, and because if they had entered on a K visa, then the relationship would have already, for the most part, been vetted. Adjusting this way from a non-family based visa means the AOS interview will be where the relationship vetting will happen

I agree. 'Fresher'? Come on. The term is a bit insulting. I am older than my husband, and people say the same, including saying it himself.

~ Moved from AOS from Family Based Visas to AOS from Work, Student & Tourist Visas - assuming AOS from non-family based ~

Edited April 5, 2015 by MouadsWife

[MouadsWife 161]

I assume because they wanted to place the thread in the appropriate forum, and because if they had entered on a K visa, then the relationship would have already, for the most part, been vetted. Adjusting this way from a non-family based visa means the AOS interview will be where the relationship vetting will

I agree. 'Fresher'? Come on. The term is a bit insulting. I am older than my husband, and people say the same, including saying it himself.

~ Moved from AOS from Family Based Visas to AOS from Work, Student & Tourist Visas - as

What I find insulting is the term "cougar"... like its something I sought from the beginning. .. a younger husband. I didn't look for it, it just happened. But I hate that term. If I got a dollar for every time I was called that.....

Edited April 5, 2015 by MouadsWife

[KayDeeCee 4,891]

What I find insulting is the term "cougar"... like its something I sought from the beginning. .. a younger husband. I didn't look for it, it just happened. But I hate that term. If I got a dollar for every time I was called that.....

Yes, that one really annoys me too! I never went out 'on the prowl' to find a 'hook-up' with a younger man.

I also hate it when ignorant people make comments about how I 'robbed the cradle'. We were both adults when the relationship began. He was not a child. I am not a pedophile.

[robinanis 77]

I hear that all the time too that I robbed the cradle.I tell them no he robbed the nursing home! Shuts them up.lol

[Boiler 43,434]

Ooops posted in the wrong tab.

Anyway to state the obvious age is just a number if the relationship would not raise eyebrows locally. So as has been said in PI it is seemingly normal for there to be an age difference, sometimes very substantial.

Edited April 6, 2015 by Boiler

[MouadsWife 161]

Yes, that one really annoys me too! I never went out 'on the prowl' to find a 'hook-up' with a younger man.

I also hate it when ignorant people make comments about how I 'robbed the cradle'. We were both adults when the relationship began. He was not a child. I am not a pedophile.

Oohhh one time we did not get an apartment we wanted. And she had the gall to call me a pedophile. Lolol. So we were denied based on our age differences. Lol Edited April 6, 2015 by MouadsWife