PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!! IM SOOOOOO SAD!!!!!!!!

[glazierguy 20]

"The intention to hide my past" !!!!!! wow here we go again.....I thought this was a supportive site? I try to help people here without passing judgement. To bad some others here are not like that.....I have one word for you......Karma

[Lights 56]

Ok if everyone is able to read!!!!!! they can see by the posts....that iam a liar and a horrible human being.....and my fiancée should run as fast as she can......that being said...if there are no positive comments to help a fellow visa journey member then keep it to your self......ive never seen so many self righteous people.....to all the caring people that try and help thank you......im sure ill just keep getting negative posts from the same people that think their #### dosnt stink....oh well have at it....if you feel better bashing me, I hope it makes you feel better as a human being.....

I think it's hard for members to give happy and positive answers when the magnitude of what you didn't disclose is so important. Many of us are beneficiary's here and it hits really close to home for us too. We can imagine what your fiance could be feeling right now, just as how we would feel if that happened to us at our interviews. We get that you may not be a bad person and just made a bad judgement call on not disclosing this information. I could only imagine how I would feel thinking I was going into my visa interview all prepared. I know my relationship, I know my fiance and anything the CO asks me, I know I can answer because our relationship is true. And then I get blindsided by all of these things I didn't know about my fiance... I would be extremely upset that 1) the interview did not go as I planned but more so 2) I would be completely heartbroken to realize that my fiance is not who i thought he was. So although members try to be respectful and positive when others are asking for help, it is hard for us to say "oh, well, it's not a big deal"... when for all of us it also means our life, our live, our future.

But take what others are saying, good and bad to create a plan. Yes, some people who leave their partner. I mean, if I thought my fiance was a law-abiding citizen with no past record, went to this school, does this for work... and then I find out that's not true. Some would say that's a big enough lie or 'hidden information' to stop the relationship. That's how big of a deal this is... So keeping the good and bad in mind there really isn't much you can do other then to fly there and speak with a CO yourself. I don't think your fiance going in (though that's not even allowed) will help her case. The CO may already think that she's the liar, especially when her country is considered more high-fraud.

If your hands are tied and you cannot go, then all you can do is wait for the denial. If you get a denial, your best option will be to fly over there and marry her and start the CR-1 process from scratch.

There are options for you to save this petition... but it's up to you to do it. A mess up this big isn't going to go away with a simple phone call. Right now, I'm thinking the CO thinks this is not a bonifide relationship because it was proven that your fiance doesn't know much about you. If different if she knew about all your convictions instead of one... but for her to not be aware of you dealing drugs, 3 DUI's, Bulgary, and all that... There are CO's who deny young men from high fraud countries who marry older women because they don't think it's a bonifide relationshp (i.e. why would a young man who can have a family be with an older woman who can't give that to them? It happens). The CO can very well be thinking "now, even if this woman didn't intentionally lie... why would she now want to marry a man who she just discovered had all of this in his past". Your best option is to fly there and show the embassy that it was your mistake. If they thinks she's lying, there's not much for HER to do now. If they think so, it'll be very hard for her to go back and explain and rectify it. It should be YOU who has to now step up, show up to the embassy and prove to them that she didn't know.

[Leatherneck 693]

I think that keeping from your future spouse important facts such as these is a sign of lack of love an respect. It isn't the past that is the main issue, but the breach of trust.

By now the OP is very aware of what a grave error it was to not inform his fiancee of his background, especially prior to the interview. He's now seeking advice as to what to expect and what could possibly be done to bring about a positive outcome.

We get it -- this would be a deal breaker if it were your fiance(e), therefore, if you have nothing of value to offer the OP regarding his case, why keep poking, jabbing, and stirring the pot with less than helpful comments? Let his fiancee deal with the trust issues.

[belinda63 2,981]

I told my fiancé about my past in vague terms. He still doesn't really understand and he has lived here almost six years. He was asked about it during the interview and again at CBP when he arrived with his visa. I can understand how 1. it was a long time ago and you are no longer that person and 2. It's not something you just bring up in the conversation. Do what you need to do to get this resolved so you can keep moving forward.

Just a note to the people who won't let the past go, I am a convicted felon who can't find a decent job although it has been more than 10 years since I paid my penalty for my errors. This is something that will haunt me for the rest of my life and will prevent me from ever obtaining real employment. Instead of looking at the mistakes a person made, give them the ability to move forward and make themselves a better person. Judge a person on who they are now, not who they were 10 or 20 years ago.

[Maritah 77]

"The intention to hide my past" !!!!!! wow here we go again.....I thought this was a supportive site? I try to help people here without passing judgement. To bad some others here are not like that.....I have one word for you......Karma

I understand that you are upset and mad for a mistake that can end in denial of the K-1 visa, but the truth of the matter about my post its that If you can't handle my honest opinion about this unconfortable situation that you fianceé went trough in her interview then, not much to do about it.

Regards.

[Fan_Dancer 171]

By now the OP is very aware of what a grave error it was to not inform his fiancee of his background, especially prior to the interview.

Sure does not come across as such, seeing how he insists that it was "14 years ago" + all the defensive attitude. He is not owing it at all, but, then again, this is between him and his fiance.

[dwheels76 5,462]

Ok if everyone is able to read!!!!!! they can see by the posts....that iam a liar and a horrible human being.....and my fiancée should run as fast as she can......that being said...if there are no positive comments to help a fellow visa journey member then keep it to your self......ive never seen so many self righteous people.....to all the caring people that try and help thank you......im sure ill just keep getting negative posts from the same people that think their #### dosnt stink....oh well have at it....if you feel better bashing me, I hope it makes you feel better as a human being.....

Why not a heartfelt email to the embassy stating what you said in your original post about how you never thought past transgressions would be a factor and brought up. Maybe that you were waiting until your fiance was here and settled you would tell her or you just thought it ancient history.Couldn't hurt I guess.

I am sorry. I know you feel like pooh and just want you baby home. Don't give up hope. And just keep on looking up. It will work out. It's a delay only not a denial.

[glazierguy 20]

thank you dwheels, after reading your post, its the best ive felt since hearing the bad news. I appreciate you words of encouragement. now I need to figure out how to delete this post because as you see the prior posts I continue to get nothing but negativity.....

[Jawaree 717]

As the USC, you are still good despite your past record. You need 3 DUI or drug convictions or a crime of moral turpitude (e.g. rape) to knock you out of the box. That is not the issue. The issue is her lack of knowledge of your past life. That is causing the CO to question how well she knows you and/or whether she really did not know (forgivable) or is lying (non-forgivable). All you can do now is wait and see what happens.

The better choice would have been to come clean with her so when she is asked "Did you know he did blah blah blah", she can respond with "Yes I know. We talked about it and i am satisfied he is a better person and will not do such things now." But that is water under the bridge for you.

Incorrect...moral turpide affects the beneficiary being petitioned, not petitioner

A USC with convictions arrests etc MIST disclose these to intended mate

Only under Adam Wassh law a USC cannot petition someone & even

that have waiver option depending on what the USC was charged with

[glazierguy 20]

I have composed a letter to the embassy, I know iam at their mercy, I have explained everything and let them know it was my poor judgement and not a matter of my fiancée lieing, since they have not outright denied her yet, should I wait for a denial, or send my letter before a denial occurs? thank you

[cdneh 3,112]

thank you dwheels, after reading your post, its the best ive felt since hearing the bad news. I appreciate you words of encouragement. now I need to figure out how to delete this post because as you see the prior posts I continue to get nothing but negativity.....

Negativity? You asked your questions, and you got them answered. You made some pretty sweeping assumptions about what USCIS cares about, and what they do not, without any sort of research at all. 14 years? Yes they care, deeply, about anything you've done, ever. Especially as you haven't owned up to it with the person you intend to marry. That isn't anyone's fault but your own. You chose to withhold information from your fiancee , which made her look foolish at the interview. It drives me round the twist when people get all bent out of shape because the answers they WANT aren't any reflection on reality.

You aren't going to be able to dig yourself out of the deep hole you've dug, with your fiancee, with USCIS, and the CO, if you don't pull yourself together and own it. You start that by not whining.

[christeen 966]

If it gets denied (or sent back with recommendation to revoke where they let it sit and expire) the. Your next course of action would be to find a way to marry and file CR1 ... You obviously managed to get over there at some point in the last 2 years, you will need to do some planning to go again... Good luck

[SennaBrigante 92]

You can call the embassy

For inquiries on a specific case, please call the Immigrant Visa (IV) Unit's inquiry line at (632) 301-2000, extension 5184 or 5185 during normal business hours, except between 12:00 noon and 1:00 p.m.

Wont hurt to try. Good luck.

[love4life09 15]

i realize how it may look to a consular, to late now. im looking for solutions. flying there and marrying her, are not an option, i have no one to watch my kids while im gone

You have had 3 DUIs and 1 drug charge. You are required under IMBRA to provide police reports and court records to show the disposition of those cases. I would start gathering those documents.

I was in a similar situation and received an RFE for it. Be prepared, at some point you may receive one or need to refile. I actually sent a fingerprint form to the FBI to receive my "rap" sheet so I could know for sure whether my cases were actual convictions or not. My RFE set us back 3 months or so. This all happened before her interview though so your case may be different.

Wish you guys the best of luck !

[LiliBurd 85]

Wow! My question is how does this not come up in conversations with someone you intend to marry? Some people's relationship are an absolute mystery to me. I feel bad for her. Hope she gets over it!