need advice on my situation. its nuclear.

[G+A 5]

I'm not even sure where to start with this.

I guess that i am looking for what my options are in this situation...so heres the situation.

Finacee and I filed our 2nd attempt at the K-1 process ( first failed due to a paperwork mistake) Our NOA 1 is March 28th. 2013

We have had troubles as everyone has with our relationship..always worked thru them. I had a feeling for a long time somethng was going on that she was seeing another man. On her last visit she was different than on our first...simply put i would she seemed distant. Im very sensitive to any changes so i pick up on everything...this was huge. I did my research, found evidence confirming my suspicions.

Confronted her about it finally..she made excuses that he was a friend who was in love with her and chasing her doing all that stuff. I have faith in her so i accepted that..yeah i know.

Alright so cutting out all the gory details fast forward...i again found evidence something as going on. Finally got her to admit she was screwing around. Ok i can accept that we all make mistakes..so we worked thru it but still i was getting big negative vibes.

So yeah last night i told her i was wanting to come to Lithuania to see her. (she had actaully suggested it a few weeks earlier) She said i shouldnt. Here it comes....i asked her why and she told me she is 6 weeks pregnant. x_x. by that same guy.

She said she made a huge mistake that it was accident etc. She said she loves me and still wants to be only with me.

I still want to make this work. I really do love her with all my heart and soul.

My question..what are my options now with my petition potentially being approved soon?

I guess im asking what do i do now? with a pregnant fiancee with not my baby how does this change things in the process.

My brain is fried so im having trouble figuring out things myself..really need help.

Thanks everyone

Edited August 6, 2013 by G+A

[Pitaya 2,577]

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[Sarah Elle-Même 660]

You must be a saint or something. If I were you I would have kicked her to the curb once I confirmed my suspicions.

Cheating is no mistake. She intended to cheat on you and intended to risk getting pregnant by the guy she was cheating on you with (perhaps no birth control, no condom?). She also intended to lie to you so that you wouldn't find out. You deserve better and I hope you know that.

No one can say with certainty how an interview with a consular officer would go unless they faced the same situation. Maybe you'll be lucky enough to get a response from someone who had. She would have a lot of explaining to do and shouldn't even consider lying. She would have to convince them, complete strangers, that despite her infidelity she loves you and is marrying you out of love and not for immigration benefits. Sounds like she's going to have a tough time proving that given her actions.

I wish you all the best.

[doug/sherry 26]

I've been with a cheating wife and I always thought it would change but it never did. The day I filed

a divorce and got her out of my life was the best day of my life. If they are going to cheat on you

and talk out the side of their mouth they love you, I'm not sure the sincereity it there. The writing is

on the wall. If you want out all you need to do is withdraw the application and let the father of the kid

raise it. Good Luck... theres alot of fish in the sea...

[G+A 5]

I have been called a saint by many people even EX's.

I definitly hear you on the cheating. Your right on all counts.

I cant even imagine having to explain something like this to a C.O...i cant see how that could ever end well.

She has said she is considering an abortion...thats her decision. I do not want to try to make that for her.

IF she chose this route how would that effect her medical? I wonder because she went to a doctor and that is how she found out...so would they see this in her medical records when she was to go for her Medical stuff? Just something i thought of and wondering

Edited August 6, 2013 by G+A

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Are you sure you want to be on the hook for the I-134 and eventually I-864 for a cheating gf who might continue lying to you?

Maybe she would ditch you once she gets her green card and petitions her baby bf over.

We have seen plenty of drama like this in VJ.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Cut your losses and abscond.

There's just too much at risk for you as USC.

Easy peasy.

[Tanya and Barry 59]

Cut your losses and abscond.

There's just too much at risk for you as USC.

Easy peasy.

(abscond)...great word...To the OP...you do not want to be on the hook for this...Not only will your heart be broken but your wallet will probably be substantially lighter as well...

[EAS 45]

I have not been in your situation. That said, it is my understanding that the USEM may require a DNA test to prove the lineage of the unborn child. Given that the child is not yours, I think it would not bode very well for the chances of obtaining a K-1 visa.

What would YOU think if you were the CO and presented with this story?

[Karee 4,189]

I have been called a saint by many people even EX's.

I definitly hear you on the cheating. Your right on all counts.

I cant even imagine having to explain something like this to a C.O...i cant see how that could ever end well.

She has said she is considering an abortion...thats her decision. I do not want to try to make that for her.

IF she chose this route how would that effect her medical? I wonder because she went to a doctor and that is how she found out...so would they see this in her medical records when she was to go for her Medical stuff? Just something i thought of and wondering

I'd say there's a better than even chance that if you bring her here, you'll be back here posting that she used you to get a green card and asking what you should do next. Everyone has to learn their own lessons though.

[CDNme 11]

I'm sorry she has put you in the situation... not just for now, but with a child - for life (if you continue on this process).

I don't have any idea how this will affect you petition... but I would want to ask you to reflect on this: What would you offer as advice to someone close to you (your brother, best friend, cousin) if they came to you with this situation. What advice would you give them on pursuing this relationship? How does this look from the outside looking in? No good my friend, not good.

[Brian1967## 119]

OP get away from this woman she is a scam artist eastern Europe is loaded with them...get away, Let me make one thing clear you could put you, your family's (if you have any children) future at risk DO NOT DO THIS is fraud cancel the application NOW and start are over, I was scammed for two years by a woman from Ukraine, STOP NOW!!!!!!!!!!!! whatever you are thinking STOP!!!!!!!!! Get away from her ...it is real simple, once a cheater always a cheater. Let me put this thought in your mind, who is to say she is pregnant by this guy, scams you for a green card, through bona fide marriage (or thru false domestic violence claim) and then moved her baby's father here. Think about it bro:) If you need support PM on this site I will give you any support you need.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

You gave her too many chances already. She continued with the lies. She showed you who she is....believe it. Don't do this to yourself, you deserve better. For every lie you discovered there are 10 you don't yet or may never know. This is a bad scenario in more ways than one.

[D N Medellin COL 75]

OP get away from this woman she is a scam artist eastern Europe is loaded with them...get away, Let me make one thing clear you could put you, your family's (if you have any children) future at risk DO NOT DO THIS is fraud cancel the application NOW and start are over, I was scammed for two years by a woman from Ukraine, STOP NOW!!!!!!!!!!!! whatever you are thinking STOP!!!!!!!!! Get away from her ...it is real simple, once a cheater always a cheater. Let me put this thought in your mind, who is to say she is pregnant by this guy, scams you for a green card, through bona fide marriage (or thru false domestic violence claim) and then moved her baby's father here. Think about it bro:) If you need support PM on this site I will give you any support you need.

I could not say it any better than Brian did, listen to him as it will save you from years of heartache and drama and maybe a small fortune, you don't need it, to some extent I have experienced this so been there and done that too, cancel and move on, there are many fine and loving women of integrity that are searching for such a man like you.

[mr smith 0]

G+A, I really sympathize with you on this. Don't waste your life any further.

I could wish I was your brother or friend right now. I probably will hit you with a brick on the head so you would wake up from this state of mind you are in.

Reading your last post it is obvious you are not sharing what everyone is advising here. But please so that it does not get worse ABSCOND like Gowon advised.

It is just not worth the risk. However you look at it - Left, right, center, back, front..... Its best to just drop from this bus and move on.

Wish you all the best.