I need advise- me Fiancee is not who i think she is

[jamesekpo 0]

Please i need help, my fiancée brought me to the US and now after selling everything i have back home to come and start a new life with her, she changed, we already got married here in the US, but have not yet filled for the status adjustment, is there an organization I can report this, becos I have nothing to go back to in Nigeria, please somebody, anybody help me with a positive answer

[X Factor 1,110]

Because she changed is not a good reason to report her and get legal status. Has she abused you? Do you have proof? Or is it just culture shock

[Ryan H 3,791]

Moved from K1 Process & Procedures to Effects of Major Family Changes Immigration Benefits.

[bt1 42]

Please i need help, my fiancée brought me to the US and now after selling everything i have back home to come and start a new life with her, she changed, we already got married here in the US, but have not yet filled for the status adjustment, is there an organization I can report this, becos I have nothing to go back to in Nigeria, please somebody, anybody help me with a positive answer

Unfortunately, there is no guarantee with any relationship. No one forced you to sell everything and come here, so there is really nothing to report, it's just bad luck. I feel very sorry to hear of your situation, but unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it, it's just life!

[Cathi 5,610]

People change, unless there is abuse there is nothing to report

[X Factor 1,110]

This is second time you have posted this. You don't have any rights because she changed. You are undergoing culture shock. In what way has she changed? Did she throw you out?

[memlaura 60]

How has she changed? What is she doing that is so bad that you think you need to report it? It is not easy to live with anyone. Spending 24 hours a day with someone is much different then a couple of hours on the computer or phone. Maybe instead of looking for someone to report her to you should be talking to her or a marriage counsler and see if you can work it out. If you have nothing back in Nigeria and you are new to the US. Then she is your only family and you should see if there is any way to fix it. Maybe it is hard for her to adjust to some of culture that you have brought with you. Some American women dont adjust well to the man is the head and she needs to obey and respect him because he is a man... I hope you both can work it out and have a happy life dont rush to end it there was a reason you married each other right??? Good luck....

[Cathi 5,610]

no need to post twice. Like I said before, there is nothing to report unless there is abuse. If you are looking for people to give you and answer full of rainbows, unicorns and puppy dogs, it won;t happen, people change. It was the chance you took b moving to a new country to be with someone you were in love with, the same chance all couples here took.

[Cathi 5,610]

How has she changed? What is she doing that is so bad that you think you need to report it? It is not easy to live with anyone. Spending 24 hours a day with someone is much different then a couple of hours on the computer or phone. Maybe instead of looking for someone to report her to you should be talking to her or a marriage counsler and see if you can work it out. If you have nothing back in Nigeria and you are new to the US. Then she is your only family and you should see if there is any way to fix it. Maybe it is hard for her to adjust to some of culture that you have brought with you. Some American women dont adjust well to the man is the head and she needs to obey and respect him because he is a man... I hope you both can work it out and have a happy life dont rush to end it there was a reason you married each other right??? Good luck....

because a realtionship in this country is equal. there is no "head" of the house

[bt1 42]

no need to post twice. Like I said before, there is nothing to report unless there is abuse. If you are looking for people to give you and answer full of rainbows, unicorns and puppy dogs, it won;t happen, people change. It was the chance you took b moving to a new country to be with someone you were in love with, the same chance all couples here took.

Right...if your relationship with any other person back in Nigeria didn't work out, would you report that and to whom? What people are trying to tell you is that, unless there is abuse, there is nothing you can do but either work on your relationship (yes, we all had to do that when we got married) or divorce and go back to Nigeria. Sorry, but life is tough on us all!

[X Factor 1,110]

Right...if your relationship with any other person back in Nigeria didn't work out, would you report that and to whom? What people are trying to tell you is that, unless there is abuse, there is nothing you can do but either work on your relationship (yes, we all had to do that when we got married) or divorce and go back to Nigeria. Sorry, but life is tough on us all!

[Sandra G. 5,016]

jamesekp you did not explain very well your situation,what do you have to report?. Were you battered ? did you suffer extreme cruelty?

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Even if you have sold everything back home, Nigeria is still where your family is at, and they will help you back on your feet like family does in Nigeria. Here you have a wife that you don't get along with in a country of strangers. Contact the Nigerian embassy and go back to Nigeria. This is not a good time for someone with no support system to stay.

[Sarah Elle-Même 660]

Even if you have sold everything back home, Nigeria is still where your family is at, and they will help you back on your feet like family does in Nigeria. Here you have a wife that you don't get along with in a country of strangers. Contact the Nigerian embassy and go back to Nigeria. This is not a good time for someone with no support system to stay.

Seriously OP. You came here to be with your wife. She doesn't want you anymore - why stay? Unless your greater goal was to get to the US all along (my suspicion). If that's the case, looks like you're S-O-L. You cannot adjust status to stay without your wife. Time to go home.

[moroccogirlny 100]

Return flight to Nigeria.