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Filed: Country: Haiti
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I used to be a go-getter.Being out of status did not stop me from reaching certain goals a few years ago.Before I even graduated High school,I began taking class at the community college that I graduated from in 2008.I even started working towards my Bachelors while I was pregnant.I had to stop pursuing my goals not because I became a mom but because of a lack of resources.Without a greencard or legal status,there's no way someone could reach their fullest potential.I just got granted some "freedom" last December when I was granted temporary protected status( long story for those who dont already know) .I finally found a job at a retail store after 4 momths of getting my work permit and I already want to quit.I miss being home all day.I did go out though,dont get me wrong..But I miss being spoiled and taken care of by my husband and mother .I never worked a day in my life and im 25.Having to stay home for 4 years and take a break from pursuing my goal made me lazy ! i also didnt have enough contact with the outside world and feel uncomfortable being so out there.I love to talk to people and meet new people,but its overwhelming.I also feel like I didnt develop my personality and didnt grow much.I still feel like im in High school :wacko: Im doing things now I should have done as a teenager if I had my green card sooner in my life..things like applying for 1 st job,driving,etc.Should I quit my job and do what im used to ?? its a partime..working for 2 days and today is my second day.I miss being home with my baby ! I know I should grow up,but spending my whole life without a legal status and not being able to live freely has really stunt my growth.Put yourself in my shoes for a minute.I need advice.

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Adjustment of Status from TPS to Permanent Resident

Married on December 28,2007 <3

01/18/2012 Sent I130 to USCIS

0/25/2012 NOA received

04/11/2012 Sent AOS Package to Chicago Lockbox

04/17/2012 NOA recieved

4/23/2012 Biometric Appointment notice received

5/4/2012 Biometrics completed & the real waiting game begins !

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Filed: AOS (pnd) Country: Romania
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How about a part time?



USCIS [*] 22 Nov. 2011 - I-129 package sent; [*] 25 Nov. 2011 - Package delivered; [*] 25 Nov. 2011 - NOA1/petition received and routed to the California Service Center; [*] 30 Nov. 2011 - Touched/confirmation though text message and email; [*] 03 Dec. 2011 - Hard copy received; [*]24 April 2012 - NOA2 (no RFEs)/text message/email/USCIS account updated; [*] 27 April 2012 - NOA2 hard copy received.

NVC [*] 14 May 2012 - Petition received by NVC ; [*] 16 May 2012 - Petition left NVC.

EMBASSY [*] 18 May 2012 - Petition arrived at the US Embassy in Bucharest; [*] 22 May 2012 - Package 3 received; [*] 24 May 2012 - Package sent to the consulate, interview date set; [*] 14 June 2012 - Interview date, approved.

POE [*] 04 July 2012 - Minneapolis/St.Paul. [*] 16 September 2012 - Wedding Day!

AOS/EAD/AP [*] 04 February 2013 - AOS/EAD/AP package sent; [*] 07 February 2013 - AOS/EAD/AP package delivered; [*] 12 February 2013 - NOA1 text messages/emails; [*] 16 February 2013 - NOA1 received in the regular mail; [*] 28 February 2013 - Biometrics letter received (appointment date, March 8th); [*] 04 March 2013 - Biometrics walk-in completed (9 out of 10 fingerprints taken, pinky would not give in); [*] 04 April 2013 - EAD/AP card approved; [*] 11 April 2013 - Combo card sent/tracking number obtained; [*] 15 April 2013 - Card delivered.

[*] 15 May 2013 - Moved from MN to LA; [*] 17 May 2013 - Applied for a new SS card/filed an AR-11 online (unsuccessfully), therefore called and spoke to a Tier 2 and changed the address; [*] 22 May 2013 - Address updated on My Case Status (finally can see the case numbers online); [*] 28 May 2013 - Letter received in the mail confirming the change of address; [*] 31 July 2013 - Went to Romania; [*] 12 September 2013 - returned to the US using the AP, POE Houston, everything went smoothly; [*] 20 September 2013 - Spoke to a Tier2 and put in a service request; [*] 23 September 2013 - Got "Possible Interview Waiver" letter (originally sent on August, 29th to my old address, returned and re-routed to my current address); [*] 1 October 2013 - Started a new job.

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Trying to get the word out about our struggles:

http://voices.yahoo.com/almost-legal-citizen-but-not-quite-12155565.html?cat=9

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Filed: Country: Haiti
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This is a part-time.I guess im just being lazy :blush:


Adjustment of Status from TPS to Permanent Resident

Married on December 28,2007 <3

01/18/2012 Sent I130 to USCIS

0/25/2012 NOA received

04/11/2012 Sent AOS Package to Chicago Lockbox

04/17/2012 NOA recieved

4/23/2012 Biometric Appointment notice received

5/4/2012 Biometrics completed & the real waiting game begins !

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Uganda
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You'll get used to it. And almost no one in the world is working because that's what they decide every morning is the most enjoyable thing to do with their day, so you're in good company. I don't work because I enjoy it (although I occasionally do): I work because I am an adult and being an adult means you pull your own weight in the world and stand on your own two feet. Presumably someone in your life has been earning money to enable you to exist all this time, so if nothing else, this is a good way to gain some extra appreciation for what that person(s) has experienced.


Joy (& Aaron, who doesn't read/post here yet)

Dec. 27, 2010: First met each other in Entebbe, Uganda while I was visiting my friend/his cousin (12/27/10 - 1/10/11) (visited again Jul. 2-9, 2011 and Dec. 24, 2011 - Jan. 9, 2012; engaged 1/7/12)

K-1

Feb. 18, 2012: I-129F sent (delivered 2/21 per USPS & USCIS; NOA1 notice date 2/23/12; check cashed/email/text 2/24)

Aug. 9, 2012: NOA2!!! [NOA1 +168 days] (reached NVC 8/17, left NVC 8/20; @embassy 8/24; embassy confirmed receipt 9/5)

Oct. 24 - Nov. 8, 2012: I visited again (Nairobi: medical 10/31; interview 11/5 [NOA1 +256 days]; result--APPROVED!!!!!!!)

Nov. 15, 2012: Visa in hand (was ready for retrieval 11/12/12)

Nov. 20, 2012: POE, Boston!!! (legal marriage 12/12/12; family/friends wedding ceremony 1/12/13) (276 days)

AOS/EAD/AP

Feb. 4, 2013: AOS packet sent (delivered 2/6, NOA1 text/email & check cashed 2/11 midnight)

Feb. 11, 2013: NOA1 notice date for I-485, EAD, AP (I-485/EAD NOA1 hard copies & biometrics appt letter arrived 2/16, badly mangled AP NOA1 arrived 2/27; biometrics done 3/4/13)

Apr. 3, 2013: EAD & AP approved (received card 4/11)

Aug. 16, 2013: I-485 approved & green card production ordered!!!! (card arrived 8/26/13) (193 days)

ROC

2015 sometime? I've slept since then.

Naturalization

Dec. 20, 2019: N-400 submitted online (Boston, MA field office)

Jan. 9, 2020: Biometrics

Feb. 4, 2020: updated wait time = 4 months (estimated case completion June 2020)

Aug. 7, 2020: interview scheduled (!), but no idea when

Sept. 16, 2020: interview, Boston (approved)

Sept. 24, 2020: oath ceremony, Boston---DONE!!! (279 days from submission)

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: China
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you write 'your goal' often in your post but never mention it.

what is your goal? hard to answer your bigger question without knowing what 'your goal' is.


Sometimes my language usage seems confusing - please feel free to 'read it twice', just in case !
Ya know, you can find the answer to your question with the advanced search tool, when using a PC? Ditch the handphone, come back later on a PC, and try again.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: China
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aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah. wordplay. excellent ! + 0.25 points.


Sometimes my language usage seems confusing - please feel free to 'read it twice', just in case !
Ya know, you can find the answer to your question with the advanced search tool, when using a PC? Ditch the handphone, come back later on a PC, and try again.

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Congratulations on your approval ! We All Applaud your accomplishment with Most Wonderful Kissies !

 

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Filed: Lift. Cond. (apr) Country: Egypt
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I know I should grow up,but spending my whole life without a legal status and not being able to live freely has really stunt my growth.Put yourself in my shoes for a minute.I need advice.

I refuse to comment. I know how entrapment works.


Don't just open your mouth and prove yourself a fool....put it in writing.

It gets harder the more you know. Because the more you find out, the uglier everything seems.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Iraq
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This is a part-time.I guess im just being lazy :blush:

I wouldn't say lazy. Going from pretty much staying in and not interacting with people much to working in RETAIL is quite a shocker I would imagine. You not only have to interact with people, you have to put up with irritable people lol I've worked in retail and it's non stop people, some happy, some mad as hell. haha Anyways, sounds like you might overwhelmed from culture shock and miss the reassurance from your family. I would stick with it though, so you have some extra money of your own and you have something to call your own- do you know what I mean? I'm a naturally shy person, but it was good experience for me working retail because I made alot of friends there and had somewhat a life of my own , which is important even if you're married. Give it a shot awhile longer and make some friends there. You'll probably find that you enjoy it after awhile. :thumbs: If you don't there's always an office job that doesn't require so much people pleasing like retail does.


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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Canada
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My 20 yr old daughter has just gone through something similar. She had been more of a homebody the last couple years and didn't have a job until a month ago.

Much like you, she got a job (which she was thrilled to get) but after a couple days was feeling down and sort of misplaced. She missed having unlimited free time to do what she liked (for you being with your baby), her pay wasn't super great (just minimum wage) and any goals just seemed impossiblke to achieve. her first paycheque made her feel better and gave her a little freedom, as did getting to know fellow employees and now she's going with some fellow employees to Six Flags for a day of fun.

Change can be hard especially if it wasn't exactly your dream job or wage but you'll get into the swing of things. You sound like you know what needs to be done and are doing it even if its not too thrilling right now.

Keep at it and it will start going your way. You're young and if you give in and stay home now, what will you be able to do 20 yrs from now when the kids are grown. Your husband is working and expanding his mind, meeting new people and he would probably love if his wife did the same. That sounds a little old fashioned but it is true.

Edited by Udella&Wiz

Wiz(USC) and Udella(Cdn & USC!)

Naturalization

02/22/11 - Filed

02/28/11 - NOA

03/28/11 - FP

06/17/11 - status change - scheduled for interview

06/20?/11 - received physical interview letter

07/13/11 - Interview in Fairfax,VA - easiest 10 minutes of my life

07/19/11 - Oath ceremony in Fairfax, VA

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Removal of Conditions

12/1/09 - received at VSC

12/2/09 - NOA's for self and daughter

01/12/10 - Biometrics completed

03/15/10 - 10 Green Card Received - self and daughter

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