Already want to quit 1st job and stay home like I used to :-/ advice?

[Freedove7 17]

I used to be a go-getter.Being out of status did not stop me from reaching certain goals a few years ago.Before I even graduated High school,I began taking class at the community college that I graduated from in 2008.I even started working towards my Bachelors while I was pregnant.I had to stop pursuing my goals not because I became a mom but because of a lack of resources.Without a greencard or legal status,there's no way someone could reach their fullest potential.I just got granted some "freedom" last December when I was granted temporary protected status( long story for those who dont already know) .I finally found a job at a retail store after 4 momths of getting my work permit and I already want to quit.I miss being home all day.I did go out though,dont get me wrong..But I miss being spoiled and taken care of by my husband and mother .I never worked a day in my life and im 25.Having to stay home for 4 years and take a break from pursuing my goal made me lazy ! i also didnt have enough contact with the outside world and feel uncomfortable being so out there.I love to talk to people and meet new people,but its overwhelming.I also feel like I didnt develop my personality and didnt grow much.I still feel like im in High school Im doing things now I should have done as a teenager if I had my green card sooner in my life..things like applying for 1 st job,driving,etc.Should I quit my job and do what im used to ?? its a partime..working for 2 days and today is my second day.I miss being home with my baby ! I know I should grow up,but spending my whole life without a legal status and not being able to live freely has really stunt my growth.Put yourself in my shoes for a minute.I need advice.

Edited May 11, 2012 by Freedove7

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Talk to your husband, if he agrees then do what's best for your family.

[Peter_Pan 661]

How about a part time?

[Freedove7 17]

This is a part-time.I guess im just being lazy

[afoyoswa 178]

You'll get used to it. And almost no one in the world is working because that's what they decide every morning is the most enjoyable thing to do with their day, so you're in good company. I don't work because I enjoy it (although I occasionally do): I work because I am an adult and being an adult means you pull your own weight in the world and stand on your own two feet. Presumably someone in your life has been earning money to enable you to exist all this time, so if nothing else, this is a good way to gain some extra appreciation for what that person(s) has experienced.

[Darnell 8,478]

you write 'your goal' often in your post but never mention it.

what is your goal? hard to answer your bigger question without knowing what 'your goal' is.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Darnell since she is married her goal is not singular,it's what is their goal.

[Darnell 8,478]

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah. wordplay. excellent ! + 0.25 points.

[Nagishkaw 510]

I know I should grow up,but spending my whole life without a legal status and not being able to live freely has really stunt my growth.Put yourself in my shoes for a minute.I need advice.

I refuse to comment. I know how entrapment works.

[john_and_marlene 162]

Put on some big girl pants and be an adult.

[jojolicious 38]

just grin and bear it. it takes at least 7 days to form a habit. you're only on day 2

[PMartin37 161]

This is a part-time.I guess im just being lazy

I wouldn't say lazy. Going from pretty much staying in and not interacting with people much to working in RETAIL is quite a shocker I would imagine. You not only have to interact with people, you have to put up with irritable people lol I've worked in retail and it's non stop people, some happy, some mad as hell. haha Anyways, sounds like you might overwhelmed from culture shock and miss the reassurance from your family. I would stick with it though, so you have some extra money of your own and you have something to call your own- do you know what I mean? I'm a naturally shy person, but it was good experience for me working retail because I made alot of friends there and had somewhat a life of my own , which is important even if you're married. Give it a shot awhile longer and make some friends there. You'll probably find that you enjoy it after awhile. If you don't there's always an office job that doesn't require so much people pleasing like retail does.

[Iyawo Ijebu 157]

Woman get up and go do your part.

If the American forepeople stayed home and tossed bon bons, would there be such as a country that we have now?

[spookyturtle 9,465]

Maybe if you spend more time on your knees your husband will be more understanding?

[Udella&Wiz 325]

My 20 yr old daughter has just gone through something similar. She had been more of a homebody the last couple years and didn't have a job until a month ago.

Much like you, she got a job (which she was thrilled to get) but after a couple days was feeling down and sort of misplaced. She missed having unlimited free time to do what she liked (for you being with your baby), her pay wasn't super great (just minimum wage) and any goals just seemed impossiblke to achieve. her first paycheque made her feel better and gave her a little freedom, as did getting to know fellow employees and now she's going with some fellow employees to Six Flags for a day of fun.

Change can be hard especially if it wasn't exactly your dream job or wage but you'll get into the swing of things. You sound like you know what needs to be done and are doing it even if its not too thrilling right now.

Keep at it and it will start going your way. You're young and if you give in and stay home now, what will you be able to do 20 yrs from now when the kids are grown. Your husband is working and expanding his mind, meeting new people and he would probably love if his wife did the same. That sounds a little old fashioned but it is true.

Edited May 12, 2012 by Udella&Wiz