i love you phrases cause denial of visa

[Hatem&Zeinab 30]

I believe I know what u r talking about here. I recall in one ofvthe conversations that was posted here, they had this CO I believe from Morocco he mentioned something like that. But what he said exactly was that when they look at the chat log and they see lot of it and being said all the time. That is when it becomes suspicious. He said that a real relationship between a couple will have them talk about different things like daily life matters. When all their chat for several months or may be weeks is all about love. That is when a red flag arises.

[Darnell 8,479]

day 0 ? maybe.

day 720 ? not so much.

[gland 5]

ive read in some sites that if you put down i love you in your chat logs, skype or anywhere. the co may deny your visa because how can you be in love with someone you have not lived with ?

I find that crazy. Why would you bring a fiance here unless you love them. I spent 5 months talking to mine before we met in person the first time. We fell in love very quickly.

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

ive read in some sites that if you put down i love you in your chat logs, skype or anywhere. the co may deny your visa because how can you be in love with someone you have not lived with ?

I would stop reading at those sites. They are uninformed. Stick with VJ

[Hank_ 9,174]

Hmm? The meter is going off, best get my waders... Ok, if it is the beneficary starting all the madness of I love you and such and you don't even know last names... then I would worry. But the only time you will be showing chat log to anyone will be at the US embassy interview and there is no reason to show chat log from the beginning of your relationship, you just need to have solid evidence of an on going relationship, so chat log from during the 5 months of the I-129F and onward would be more than adequate and there better be some "I love you" in there.

[GringoD 33]

ive read in some sites that if you put down i love you in your chat logs, skype or anywhere. the co may deny your visa because how can you be in love with someone you have not lived with ?

IN and OF itself... this is a bunch of hogwash.

First time I did this,... I put in stacks of emails spread over 3 1/2 years, and I'm sure those words ran rampantly throughout the text.

[Angie&Steven 3]

That's the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard! Don't worry about it!

I totally agree with you.... wow... lol...

I cant even believe someone would think this is possible to question about it...

[RICARDO4EVA2 199]

I think that if you are saying 'I love you' within the first weeks that you met, this can look suspicious at high-fraud consulates - and on some consulate websites, this is specifically one of the warnings. For example, this is on the Morocco Consulate's fiance page:

"Some of the signs that an Internet contact may be developing a relationship with a U.S. citizen in order to obtain an immigrant visa through marriage are:

Declarations of love within days or weeks of the initial contact;

Proposals or discussions of marriage soon after initial contact;

Requests to the U.S. citizen to visit the foreign national's home country soon after the declaration of love or proposal;..."

[mapletree 33]

I have seen several posts about collecting evidence of a relationship. Some teeter on the edge of generating evidence of a relationship. My guess the people that read such logs are pretty good at sniffing BS. So if you put "I love you" in a chat log to create evidence of a relationship, then I think they could likely tell.

Just be honest.

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

ive read in some sites that if you put down i love you in your chat logs, skype or anywhere. the co may deny your visa because how can you be in love with someone you have not lived with ?

Perhaps the CO prefer to see / read the "I hate you" phrasing? That's bizarre!

Edited November 19, 2011 by ~happyndinlove~

[Austramerican 83]

Yeah I think that if you are going to, you know, MARRY THE PERSON AND BE WITH THEM FOR LIFE you had BETTER be saying I love you

I have lived with my fiance for a year prior to us getting engaged and filing, so they shouldn't be saying anything to me although our friends tell us ewww the mush!!! All the time because we are VERY lovey dovey, our friends say its sweet enough to give people diabetes, so I hope they don't think its a show We are just extremely affectionate :x

Edited November 19, 2011 by Austramerican

[Enigma11561 336]

Recently,many people met online, fall in love without met them in person at first. These situation affected how the CO would give the best questions to find out if this is a LOVE or something else. Most of all, can CO's have living proof that if you don't seem your loved ones in person and lived with them it can't be love?. I suggest them to read story of Khalil Gibran how he fell in love through love letters. They need to read Gibran's book," Broken Wings" to understand about LOVE. Technology makes almost everything is possible. I guess the COs probably live in Stone Age if they can't understand this way.

How can you possible fall in love with a person you have never met, never touched, never kissed or hugged? Having some nice "feelings" ok, I will buy that. But Love? Has that word lost all meaning these days? I was "madly in love when I was 19". She was great. The sex was great. After a few months of being together ( in the same town) we realized we were not really in love but more in lust, bursting hormones and all that, and that was that. So yes, a CO who has been around the block a few times, is mature enough to see the trees through the forest, would..and should..look more closely to a couple who profess their undying love for each other with a few weeks of skype time or 4-5 days on a vacation visit to their home country.

[Girl from Celebes 588]

How can you possible fall in love with a person you have never met, never touched, never kissed or hugged? Having some nice "feelings" ok, I will buy that. But Love? Has that word lost all meaning these days? I was "madly in love when I was 19". She was great. The sex was great. After a few months of being together ( in the same town) we realized we were not really in love but more in lust, bursting hormones and all that, and that was that. So yes, a CO who has been around the block a few times, is mature enough to see the trees through the forest, would..and should..look more closely to a couple who profess their undying love for each other with a few weeks of skype time or 4-5 days on a vacation visit to their home country.

My fiance and I weren't teenager anymore to feel the excitement of hormones things. Each to their own. Done. No argue. Love can be so mysterious. Nobody understands it. Good luck for your rationale LOVE..I am being irrationale and that's me.

Edited November 19, 2011 by Girl from Celebes

[KayDeeCee 4,902]

How can you possible fall in love with a person you have never met, never touched, never kissed or hugged? Having some nice "feelings" ok, I will buy that. But Love? Has that word lost all meaning these days? I was "madly in love when I was 19". She was great. The sex was great. After a few months of being together ( in the same town) we realized we were not really in love but more in lust, bursting hormones and all that, and that was that. So yes, a CO who has been around the block a few times, is mature enough to see the trees through the forest, would..and should..look more closely to a couple who profess their undying love for each other with a few weeks of skype time or 4-5 days on a vacation visit to their home country.

As you stated perfectly yourself, being together physically does not automatically make it love. The Internet has allowed for many people to get to know each other that otherwise never would have. You can get to know someone very well without ever having seen them physically face to face. In a long distance relationship, there are only so many ways you can spend time together, and talking is the major one. Talking for hours upon hours for days, weeks, months and even years can allow 2 people to get to know each other very well. There is no reason love cannot develop just because they have not been able to physically hug or kiss them yet. Love is not just a physical thing, that would be lust. Spending time together in person is important to make sure the relationship is strong enough and you are compatible enough(including physically) to share your lives together. Being together in person physically and meeting and getting to know their friends and family is important indeed, but you can be in love with someone before ever reaching that point.

[Enigma11561 336]

My fiance and I weren't teenager anymore to feel the excitement of hormones things. Each to their own. Done. No argue. Love can be so mysterious. Nobody understands it. Good luck for your rationale LOVE..I am being irrationale and that's me.

Did not mean to imply that this was your situation. I was talking in generalities. But I still stand by my humble opinion that true love cannot happen without some type of physical face to face meeting(s). That is why one of the requirements of the K1 is having to meet in person.