I cannot stand my crazy wife, Need tips in sending her back

[Jojo92122 1,924]

How will a judge over there know... Specially I throw some money at him

Do you really think an Argentinian judge is going to give you full custody and allow you to remove the child from the country after you deceive your wife into giving up her green card? You are essentially asking the judge to terminate her parental rights because she will not be able to go to the US to be with her child.

Do you think an Argentinian judge would favor a deceptive US citizen husband over a deceived Argentinian wife?

In addition, you want to bribe a judge. What if you get an honest judge? Are you prepared for prison in a foreign country for bribing a judge?

[Fandango 1,439]

That's really horrible that you have no thought to your daughter growing up without her mother.

But then again, I think this is either anger speaking, and you will talk all this nonsense and then do nothing, or you are, in fact, a troll.

[Jojo92122 1,924]

The judge will know what you did when your wife tells the court what you did.

If you sneak your daughter back to the US, your wife will probably file a kidnapping charges in Argentina and the US because you took the child to another country without her permission. International kidnapping by a parent is a crime.

[Operator 1,925]

I know many here want to give a lot of lectures or say "go see a lawyer or let her be and do it legally", but you are not in my shoe. Plus, I don't want to take any chances, so please give feedback on how to perfect my plan, and where i am making mistakes. Thank you

I know you feel like you are up against a wall but my advice to "perfect your plan" is to man up and end things the right way if thats where the relationship is. Think about your child man, mistake or not. Don't make anyone else pay for the fact that you were as you stated "an idiot".

[VanessaTony 3,567]

There should be an indepth warning BEFORE any U.S. citizen sponsors anyone. I know my crazy soon to be ex had to take a one day seminar about spousal abuse and probably the many ways they can drive thier husband crazy enough to divorce them and then the file for support under the I-864 which is a contract made in hell. They sell you the form telling you that its to verify your income and that you are responsible BUT they DON'T tell you that you can be responsible for your immigrating spouse EVEN after a divorce for up to 10 years and there is NO WAY OUT OF IT that I have seen.

Yes they DO tell you divorce doesn't cancel it. It's there in the instructions.

[James P 0]

Kidnap?? Where did I say that? I said I would get her, bit meaning during divorce process

[sachinky 464]

There should be an indepth warning BEFORE any U.S. citizen sponsors anyone. I know my crazy soon to be ex had to take a one day seminar about spousal abuse and probably the many ways they can drive thier husband crazy enough to divorce them and then the file for support under the I-864 which is a contract made in hell. They sell you the form telling you that its to verify your income and that you are responsible BUT they DON'T tell you that you can be responsible for your immigrating spouse EVEN after a divorce for up to 10 years and there is NO WAY OUT OF IT that I have seen.

Looks like people need to read the instructions more carefully.

Edited September 14, 2011 by sachinky

[trillium13 84]

But then again, I think this is either anger speaking, and you will talk all this nonsense and then do nothing, or you are, in fact, a troll.

You beat me to it.

[keysjangle 145]

How old are you, OP? How old is your wife?

[Anh map 2,098]

Divorce and move on rather than craft some pathetic plan.

[Channah&Aaron 51]

; Don't continue this ridiculous plan as it sounds like a very stupid and immature plan.

File for divorce if you are SURE you don't want to spend your life time together with this woman. Do everything in legal way and don't play mean games since there are kids involved.

These kids can't help their parents are irresponsible and don't take responsibilities for their actions.

One last tip:

Next time, don't think with your wurm, think with your brains

[Operator 1,925]

One last tip:

Next time, don't think with your wurm, think with your brains

[az110965 252]

Off topic - just a bit:

I think if the OP actually knew anything about Latinas in general perhaps he would not have the problems he's had...

First of all, most Latinas are posessive of their men (in varying degrees). You need to understand their upbringing and family attitudes. They were raised to be loyal to their men with very strong family values. BUT - most Latinas (and I know more than a few) have been cheated on or abused by their Latin boyfriends / husbands, etc... I am not putting down the Latino male species, just that without exception my fiance and ALL of her friends and acquaintces have has these experiences with their Latin mates. So - this in general makes Latinas more suspicious of their men and more possessive. They simply don't want any more pain or disappointments.

So - when the OP met his beautiful wife at first I'll bet that he found her attention as a positive attribute. It's a wonderful thing when a beautiful woman makes you the center of her world. Then when she arrived here the same attuitudes she displayed when they dated in Argentina continued and all of a sudden they became unacceptable?

Getting to know a person AND their culture is the most important thing when it comes to mariage. When men see their foreign fiance in their environment the romance overwhelmes the senses and most guys don't see that the relationship they have in "Argentina" is not the same as what they have here on Main Street USA. That is why repeated trips and truly getting to know the person is crucial to a sucessful marriage.

Back to topic:

Deserting your wife back in her home country is the worst thing you cna do to her AND your child. Just so you know, to even remove your child from Argentina will be impossible without the WRITTEN consent of the mother - the police will stop you from boarding the plane. No judge will award you full custody and prevent the mother from having access to her child. Bribing a jusge will get you put UNDER the prison for a very long time, it's not the same as "paying the policeman" for a speeding ticket.

Do the correct thing. You made the child, whether by "accident" or by the grace of God and you'd better be prepared for the reaction to your actions. YOU could wind up not being able to see your own child and still having to pay support to your spouse, even if you desert her in Argentina.

Edited September 14, 2011 by az110965

[Rebecca616 38]

sorry i mistakenly wrote a reply to your smiley face.

Edited September 14, 2011 by Rebecca616

[Rebecca616 38]

you wanna what?? ugh. I guess maybe its these kind of situations that make people frown on Fiance/Marriage Visas..and i dont mean just the people applying...they in-turn have to listen to their friends and family that hear about the negetivity involved. Of course you couldnt have known going in that she would turn into a loon but....geesh. I wouldnt go out of your way to make things worse than what they are. If she doesnt possess a rational mind, hire an attorney for you and one for her. Take the high road man. Its too bad your marriage didnt last..hopefully you'll both be at peace with whatever decisions are made involving your child.