I cannot stand my crazy wife, Need tips in sending her back

[James P 0]

Well,

I was an idiot and married this girl from Argentina that is very attractive, or was. I guess I went by looks instead of dating her more to see all her defects. Anyway we got married and had a baby by accident.

Since the first day i noticed that she has issues. She would get extremely jealous or controlling over everything. Few examples, if there was pretty girl on tv or commercial she would accuse me of being a cheater and want to separate me for no reason. On the streets if a pretty girl went past me she would accuse me of staring at her breast or behind ect.. She would argue and fight with me over everything and be so close minded. Before i go any further, she told me that her ex, whom she never married but has a 13 year old with, cheated on her several times.....

Anyway After many many many fights and stress she put on me I tried to work things out. Talked to her man times, showed her love, even paid a lot of money to get her help which she didn't like going to. Anyway things got worse, she thinks I cheat with girls at work who she has never met, she acts like a kid and when i try to reason with her she leaves the house saying she is leaving me because am everything in the dictionry. I have to go after her and make her reason, knowing we will have this fight even more.

She has already stated she doesn't love me, she regrets getting with me, having my kid, and never wanted to have my kid. Which just tells me she got with me for papers for her and daughter, and the baby was just something by mistake. She never cleans, i come back from work tired and she sleeps all day and surf the internet, and tells me to watch the baby. If i try to tell her that she should be doing it, she throws a fit and calls me a cheater and ignores even her own daughter and wont do anything.

That’s just a little taste of my life with her. Anyway, several times she has made it obvious and has used indirect words letting me know she is only with me until the two years are up. And always threatens to ruin my life when she accuses me of cheating ec..... Here is the issue I never reported taxes bc i go to school, still am, and my parents signed the i864a, i think that is the name, without knowing they were responsible for this nut case for 10 years. I am also responsible.

So I am enduring all this abuse and stress in my life until her conditional gc expires, which she knows does. I have made her believe, which is in part true, that i want to re-do her papers and terminate the current one. I explained that i don’t want to file with my parents and that it would only take one month and that she would need to return to Argentina for one month. She has agreed, in some ways, but during fights tells me she is leaving and does not care about my parents ect...

Anyway, I plan to take her to her country in 7 months and leave her there for a few months, and i know i won’t have to ends things. Knowing how she is, she will fight about something and this time i will not put up with it. I also plan to divorce her in her county after this and get my daughter and move on.

I know many here want to give a lot of lectures or say “go see a lawyer or let her be and do it legally”, but you are not in my shoe. Plus, I don’t want to take any chances, so please give feedback on how to perfect my plan, and where i am making mistakes. Thank you

[Inky 1,110]

Does she have a 2 year conditional card or does she have a 10 year card?

You will need to get a lawyer for child custody issues. You cant just take the child.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,235]

I understand that when you're looking at a hot sports car or a hot young girl, you can sometimes make a quick decision out of the spur of the moment, like buying that Lamborghini on credit or marrying the smoking hot chick from the Copacabana.

If the car or the chick doesn't perform as desired, it helps to have purchased a "money back guarantee." On the same token is "having a child by accident" to be seen. Having a child is not an accident. It happens if you don't use birth control or fail to pull out in time. That's not an accident, that's extremely irresponsible, as the outcomes does not only effect you, but two more people. So it appears to me that you show a pattern of making irrational decisions in the spur of the moment without using much or the capacity the Almighty himself has given you so generously.

my thoughts to you therefore: think, think first, and think carefully, before you make any further decisions that can have a life-changing effect.

[Harsh_77 716]

I really don’t know if there is a way you can get rid of her – you can file for divorce.

You can leave her in her home country, she can still come back as she has GC and then file for 10 yr GC saying both of you entered in marriage with good faith.

If she becomes public charge after that, I believe you are still responsible and could be sued for the cost. (someone can correct me on this one)

[payxibka 10,044]

Does she have a 2 year conditional card or does she have a 10 year card?

You will need to get a lawyer for child custody issues. You cant just take the child.

per the OP's post, conditional

[Harsh_77 716]

I understand that when you're looking at a hot sports car or a hot young girl, you can sometimes make a quick decision out of the spur of the moment, like buying that Lamborghini on credit or marrying the smoking hot chick from the Copacabana.

If the car or the chick doesn't perform as desired, it helps to have purchased a "money back guarantee." On the same token is "having a child by accident" to be seen. Having a child is not an accident. It happens if you don't use birth control or fail to pull out in time. That's not an accident, that's extremely irresponsible, as the outcomes does not only effect you, but two more people. So it appears to me that you show a pattern of making irrational decisions in the spur of the moment without using much or the capacity the Almighty himself has given you so generously.

my thoughts to you therefore: think, think first, and think carefully, before you make any further decisions that can have a life-changing effect.

[Juan & Nan 12]

Well,

I was an idiot and married this girl from Argentina that is very attractive, or was. I guess I went by looks instead of dating her more to see all her defects. Anyway we got married and had a baby by accident.

Since the first day i noticed that she has issues. She would get extremely jealous or controlling over everything. Few examples, if there was pretty girl on tv or commercial she would accuse me of being a cheater and want to separate me for no reason. On the streets if a pretty girl went past me she would accuse me of staring at her breast or behind ect.. She would argue and fight with me over everything and be so close minded. Before i go any further, she told me that her ex, whom she never married but has a 13 year old with, cheated on her several times.....

Anyway After many many many fights and stress she put on me I tried to work things out. Talked to her man times, showed her love, even paid a lot of money to get her help which she didn't like going to. Anyway things got worse, she thinks I cheat with girls at work who she has never met, she acts like a kid and when i try to reason with her she leaves the house saying she is leaving me because am everything in the dictionry. I have to go after her and make her reason, knowing we will have this fight even more.

She has already stated she doesn't love me, she regrets getting with me, having my kid, and never wanted to have my kid. Which just tells me she got with me for papers for her and daughter, and the baby was just something by mistake. She never cleans, i come back from work tired and she sleeps all day and surf the internet, and tells me to watch the baby. If i try to tell her that she should be doing it, she throws a fit and calls me a cheater and ignores even her own daughter and wont do anything.

That's just a little taste of my life with her. Anyway, several times she has made it obvious and has used indirect words letting me know she is only with me until the two years are up. And always threatens to ruin my life when she accuses me of cheating ec..... Here is the issue I never reported taxes bc i go to school, still am, and my parents signed the i864a, i think that is the name, without knowing they were responsible for this nut case for 10 years. I am also responsible.

So I am enduring all this abuse and stress in my life until her conditional gc expires, which she knows does. I have made her believe, which is in part true, that i want to re-do her papers and terminate the current one. I explained that i don't want to file with my parents and that it would only take one month and that she would need to return to Argentina for one month. She has agreed, in some ways, but during fights tells me she is leaving and does not care about my parents ect...

Anyway, I plan to take her to her country in 7 months and leave her there for a few months, and i know i won't have to ends things. Knowing how she is, she will fight about something and this time i will not put up with it. I also plan to divorce her in her county after this and get my daughter and move on.

I know many here want to give a lot of lectures or say "go see a lawyer or let her be and do it legally", but you are not in my shoe. Plus, I don't want to take any chances, so please give feedback on how to perfect my plan, and where i am making mistakes. Thank you

Just brainstorming, but could you just NOT file jointly for her 10 yr green card? Or not file at all. Let her do it by herself. I know that you woudl haveto endure the abuse due to that. If her 2 yr greecard expires, I believe USCIS will serve her with a hearing summons with an immigration judge? Then divorce her?

[sori i sponsored 0]

There should be an indepth warning BEFORE any U.S. citizen sponsors anyone. I know my crazy soon to be ex had to take a one day seminar about spousal abuse and probably the many ways they can drive thier husband crazy enough to divorce them and then the file for support under the I-864 which is a contract made in hell. They sell you the form telling you that its to verify your income and that you are responsible BUT they DON'T tell you that you can be responsible for your immigrating spouse EVEN after a divorce for up to 10 years and there is NO WAY OUT OF IT that I have seen.

[Inky 1,110]

Just brainstorming, but could you just NOT file jointly for her 10 yr green card? Or not file at all. Let her do it by herself. I know that you woudl haveto endure the abuse due to that. If her 2 yr greecard expires, I believe USCIS will serve her with a hearing summons with an immigration judge? Then divorce her?

she could file based on " good faith marriage " if she has any evidence. Filing based on abuse is not the only way to remove conditions without a spouse. if she did use him for a green card you can bet she has stuff saved for good faith marriage as she would have planned it all out from the start.

[James P 0]

Not really. She is very ignorant and doesn't care about anyone or anything. She has no idea about the procedure, although she does look it up. I'm sure if I got her in her country and we fought, she would be to proud or lazy to start trouble. For some reason she does it here more because she knowsshe can cause issues here.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Not really. She is very ignorant and doesn't care about anyone or anything. She has no idea about the procedure, although she does look it up. I'm sure if I got her in her country and we fought, she would be to proud or lazy to start trouble. For some reason she does it here more because she knowsshe can cause issues here.

Brother with all of these adjectives you just used to describe her, I wonder what ones she has for you. Think before you speak or ACT, with your small lxg.

[Jojo92122 1,924]

Your deception is going to bite you in the #######. At some point, you would need to deal with custody of the baby. The judge is not going to look favorably on your actions.

[James P 0]

How will a judge over there know... Specially I throw some money at him

[Penguin_ie 5,986]

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[Glyn and Kathy 288]

How will a judge over there know... Specially I throw some money at him

Wow, really??? You're coming on here asking us how to dump your wife off in her country...and to kidnap your child???? Oh...and you want to "pay off" a judge. You sound like great husband and father material.