K-1 Visa--My responsibility

[jnjs 0]

We've completed the process, and she has the visa in hand. However, I have not pulled the trigger on bringing her over here, i.e., buying the plane ticket, because of certain things she has done and said lately. If I do not bring her over and the visa expires, am I responsible for notifying the embassy of why I didn't bring her over here, or is that simply my choice not to do so?

[canadian_wife 1,791]

You do not have to explain why you did not complete the process.

Good luck

[baron555 934]

We've completed the process, and she has the visa in hand. However, I have not pulled the trigger on bringing her over here, i.e., buying the plane ticket, because of certain things she has done and said lately. If I do not bring her over and the visa expires, am I responsible for notifying the embassy of why I didn't bring her over here, or is that simply my choice not to do so?

She can come over on her own, until you call the Embassy and invalidate the visa.

Sounds like your relationship is not that solid; since you've made it this far and had no concrete plans for the trip over.

Maybe you should jet on over there (wherever that is since you have no timeline or other info) and work it out.

You will have to explain what happened in your waiver letter for the next one.

Edited October 18, 2010 by baron555

[VanessaTony 3,567]

We've completed the process, and she has the visa in hand. However, I have not pulled the trigger on bringing her over here, i.e., buying the plane ticket, because of certain things she has done and said lately. If I do not bring her over and the visa expires, am I responsible for notifying the embassy of why I didn't bring her over here, or is that simply my choice not to do so?

As baron stated, she can come over of her own accord HOWEVER she needs you to adjust her status, or she can try the VAWA route (accuse you of abuse etc). She cannot simply marry someone else and live happily ever after based on your K1. She will need to leave the US and re-enter for that. But she can still use it to live here and meet someone else, or work and live under the radar... at the very least you should report that you aren't going ahead with it so it doesn't come back to bite you somehow.

If you truly believe you do not want to go ahead with it then cancel it. Bearing in mind if you chance your mind after that, you will need to re-apply.

Do you mind if I ask what she's said/done to 'cause you doubt? Maybe its a cultural difference thing? Maybe she's just scared? Sometimes it helps to have an impartial second (and third and forth etc) opinion. You don't need to respond if you don't feel comfortable but it might help.

**Correction - as payxiba pointed out, only if she marries you can she do the VAWA route, so if you are suspicious and there are red flags.. be aware this is a risk if you marry her.

Edited October 18, 2010 by Vanessa&Tony

[payxibka 10,044]

As baron stated, she can come over of her own accord HOWEVER she needs you to adjust her status, or she can try the VAWA route (accuse you of abuse etc). She cannot simply marry someone else and live happily ever after based on your K1. She will need to leave the US and re-enter for that. But she can still use it to live here and meet someone else, or work and live under the radar... at the very least you should report that you aren't going ahead with it so it doesn't come back to bite you somehow.

If you truly believe you do not want to go ahead with it then cancel it. Bearing in mind if you chance your mind after that, you will need to re-apply.

Do you mind if I ask what she's said/done to 'cause you doubt? Maybe its a cultural difference thing? Maybe she's just scared? Sometimes it helps to have an impartial second (and third and forth etc) opinion. You don't need to respond if you don't feel comfortable but it might help.

AFAIK, for a K-1 entrant, without a marriage to the USC... no VAWA route exists

[VanessaTony 3,567]

AFAIK, for a K-1 entrant, without a marriage to the USC... no VAWA route exists

AFAIK? You are correct, I should have mentioned that but I meant if she came over and "wooed" him over

[Gothika 0]

We've completed the process, and she has the visa in hand. However, I have not pulled the trigger on bringing her over here, i.e., buying the plane ticket, because of certain things she has done and said lately. If I do not bring her over and the visa expires, am I responsible for notifying the embassy of why I didn't bring her over here, or is that simply my choice not to do so?

My advice is get all in writing. Email the embassy and ask them to cancel her visa. If you belive that you been played, make sure you do all by the book and have all in hand in case if you are to petition of another finacee (i am sorry to come to a conclusion but i feel you shouldn't proceed to get married if you feel a vibe! Plus i know what you probably have gone thru already in regards to paper works as we both know how complicate the US immigration system is). These kind of a situation make things complicates for bonafide applicants. Please forgive me for saying all this. People outside US thinks this is a heaven but only we know how complicated and competetive the things are here...

We are on your side and do the right thing!

[sachinky 464]

If you no longer wish to continue with this relationship, notify the Embassy. They will 'flag' the visa so that she can not enter on her own.

After her visa expires (I think it is 6 months for the K-1 too) the visa is no longer valid.

[raymaga 25]

Do not just go along with the process if you are not completely sure about the relationship. Better to lose the money already spent than regret your decision to bring her here for the rest of your life.

Good luck.

[jalie 3]

[extract][/extract]If I were her I'd buy me the ticket myself, see the place myself... and examine my heart and conscience... Do I really love him? If yes then I'd stay... Does he really love me? I'd certainly know... and would stay or otherwise!!!

It's YOUR choice to notify the embassy that you have had cold feet... You're a law abiding US Citizen, aren't you? So, do whatever that suits the law!!

[JlovesA 109]

AFAIK? You are correct, I should have mentioned that but I meant if she came over and "wooed" him over

AFAIK= As far as I know.

[mikaila 0]

its a tough situation. if you feel that she will try to use you just to get in to the US then you better cancel her visa. but if its only because you feel having cold feet then let her come and see for yourself if she's the one for you and send her back if she's not.

[baron555 934]

[extract][/extract]If I were her I'd buy me the ticket myself, see the place myself... and examine my heart and conscience... Do I really love him? If yes then I'd stay... Does he really love me? I'd certainly know... and would stay or otherwise!!!

It's YOUR choice to notify the embassy that you have had cold feet... You're a law abiding US Citizen, aren't you? So, do whatever that suits the law!!

The K-1 is NOT a "Let's get together for 90 days and Check it Out" Visa.

Your relationship should be solid before you start the process.

If you're having doubts now before you even get together, then you should not continue and work on the relationship first.

When that is solid, then you start the visa process.

[Karonya and Adel 8]

its a tough situation. if you feel that she will try to use you just to get in to the US then you better cancel her visa. but if its only because you feel having cold feet then let her come and see for yourself if she's the one for you and send her back if she's not.

sounds kinda cold and heartless to take someone away from their family and life just to see if she works for you...plus saying send her back sounds like a package you're returning because it didn't fit. this is a person, no matter what her intentions are in the matter she's human and deserves to be treated so.

[Karonya and Adel 8]

The K-1 is NOT a "Let's get together for 90 days and Check it Out" Visa.

Your relationship should be solid before you start the process.

If you're having doubts now before you even get together, then you should not continue and work on the relationship first.

When that is solid, then you start the visa process.

Agreed!!!