C-ma'am

I actually felt a bit bad for her. She launched into her spiel hardly drawing breath, about how they had opted out of acting as an external resource the  VA use in the area. No doubt down to the VA not paying, and it wouldn't be the first time. She said Endocrinology still wanted the Dexa scan, did Himself have Medicare?  When I told her that he had died two months ago she gasped, and kept saying she was so so sorry. Not her fault. I did ring them in April to let them now he wouldn't be at the labs they ordered, but I suppose too many cooks.
 
Herself still searches. Usually in the evening after tea, she wants out and checks out all the usual  places. When she comes in she goes through the house as well, looks into the various rooms. She goes under the desk then and has a nap. If she hears a car out on the road she is away to the window with a speed that belies her age. Poor little lass.
 
I'm doing. Some days I can get through an entire list of things to do. Other days, like today, once I let her out and give her breakfast I go right back to bed.   Cristobal passed over head sometime in the night, and I usually get a migraine from lowered barometric pressure. Today I am paddling up a famous creek with a fork for a paddle. There is an early night in my future.
 

You have plenty of time to upvote all our posts, si C-ma'am ma'am!
You also have to order a Pre-Owned Toilet Seat, $i C-ma'am ma'am.

Hola! Sneaking in to say hi. Hope ya'll are doing well!
 
No time to read to catch up but *hugs* to @cdneh  ❤️
 
 

Hola! Sneaking in to say hi. Hope ya'll are doing well!
 
No time to read to catch up but *hugs* to @cdneh  ❤️
 
 

Hola! Sneaking in to say hi. Hope ya'll are doing well!
 
No time to read to catch up but *hugs* to @cdneh  ❤️
 
 

Just like a marriage anywhere, a divorce anywhere is valid.  File where you live.

I wouldn't quite go that far...just because it was not an issue in your case does not mean it won't be an issue in somebody else's case. Specifics matter. Timing matters.
 
It is not a reason for denial of the petition.
it is not a sole reason for refusal of the visa. It can be a consideration by the CO if the relationship is genuine.

You mention you met him while you were still married; I assume that was the only time you were together. 
This could bring even more scrutiny from the adjudicator, so it would be better to delay things in order to gather more substancial evidence -like meeting in person again-.
Regarding the advice of meeting after filing, it is useful for the second part of the process -the K1 visa interview-, but wouldn't help at all in the approval of the initial petition -the I-129f-.
 
Your other choice is planning a wedding for the next meeting and filing for a CR1 visa.

Pretty much a non issue with USCIS.  If you have proof that you entered the marriage in good faith you will be fine.   You do need to file a police report about the passport and green card.  The passport is property of the Nigerian government and  green card the US government.
 
If you have filed to ROC and didn't do it as a divorce waiver you will need to update that.

~~Moved to Working and Traveling, from K1 P&P - the OP is asking about traveling after entry on a K1~~
 
 
Mod hat off
Cruise are off limits. They will want to see a valid visa for reentry even if you are sticking to a closed loop cruise. 

@TransAtlanticLove
 
Have you asked your husband if he would be happier back in the UK with his mates and family and familiar things? 

Get him a link to USCIS manual titled Now that you’re a US permanent resident LPR and have him actually read it. It details his rights and responsibilities and different how to things. Link below: 
 
https://www.uscis.gov/tools/settling-us

I want to first tell the OP: it is okay to feel frustrated, sad, maybe even a little duped right now. We want to see the very best in the people we love, all the time, and we are often willing to give those people a pass for their negative or destructive behavior. It's natural, really, that you hoped for the best early on even when you saw red flags -- like the no reading books, which if I've calculated right was something you were aware of before you were married, and the overreliance on his family, and his, well, laziness. And the messiness, of course.
 
When I met my first husband, nearly every single problem and conflict that eventually ended our marriage reared its head within the first three months of our relationship. But we were young and in love, and it was all very romantic for me -- I was on a junior year abroad in the UK -- and I decided that I was imagining things. Um, no, I wasn't! Even when our mutual friends pointed out some of the glaring problems, I thought they were ridiculous. I kept an online diary during that time and I recently re-read it for the first time in nearly 10 years and WOW: I wish I could go back and say, hey Layla, don't shove that under the rug. 
 
What I mean to say is that it can be very hard to accept that we have been mistaken about people we genuinely love. It hurts. It's sad. And I can see your love for your husband, and his love for you, shining through in your post. Sometimes we can have all the love in the world for one another and it's still not enough. And when we let the other spouse slide on their bad behavior because we love them so much, and we can see they are hurting, we're setting them up to fail again and again. Partners work together like oxen in a yoke -- you pull side by side, or you end up pulling the other one along. 
 
Don't get me started about British men and their refusal to go to therapy. I am on round number two with a Scottish man (number one was English) and he is just as unwilling as number one to open up to a third party. Even with a family history of depression, he thinks he can pummel his "little grey cloud" into submission without intervention. My only solace is that when I met him it was a "little black cloud." Culturally, they are not predisposed to letting people into their interior, difficult emotions. American men may be relatively more performatively macho, but they are (in my experience) more emotionally open after a bit of prodding. For a British man, it is box it up, stick in the ground, tamp the earth over it and pretend it isn't there. There are of course exceptions, and my fiance is trying to be more open to me but a lifetime of being taught "this is how you are a man" can be hard to undo. Patience is required, as well as persistence that doesn't veer into nagging. 
 
As others have said, only you can figure out if your marriage is worth saving. But you need to also consider your role in engendering the situation you now find yourself in, as much as his taking advantage (I mean that in a neutral sense) of your good nature. You haven't let him be a husband -- you've let him continue being a son, and a teenage son at that. He can clean up for himself, clean the house, assume responsibility for the home. He's an adult! My fiance was babied by his ex-wife and never had to lift a finger at home -- when he moved in with me, I let him get away with bad behavior for a while. I actually had to say: Socks and jeans go in the hamper. Plates and mugs and spoons and whatever go in the dishwasher. We wipe down counters. He couldn't even make food for himself unless it was something he put in the microwave! He zoned out on video games after work instead of talking to me. I finally laid down the law: we are both grown ups. I am marrying a grown up, and grown ups do boring things sometimes to keep life chugging along. He's not perfect yet, but he is trying, and I am too -- we have started playing video games together (some of the awesome people on here made recommendations on what we could play), and I don't expect it's going to be right all the time. The point is he is trying. My therapist said to me that I had to stop being his mum, because he needs a wife, not another mother. He needs a partner -- an equal. Otherwise the dynamic is a total mess.
 
Which brings me back to this: is your husband accepting he is your partner? He may be depressed, but he needs to do something to prove he sees this is worth fighting for. Right now, you are doing all the fighting. While there is always going to be give and take in a marriage -- sometimes you're leading a little, sometimes he is -- you are a team. 
 
Best of luck to you right now. I know this can be really hard. ❤️ 

Not all men are messy, in general throughout my relationships they tend to be messier.  My ex certainly wasnt but then when i put silverware in our sink he complained i was scratching the sink.  I was sweeping too hard(?). I didnt vacuum enough. So as our relationship spiraled downward with arguments he made his own lunches, i didnt do his laundry etc.  I just didnt care to take care of his wants, needs or desires.  And I left.  I grew up with a very controlling and emotionally abusive step-father.  While i learned chores, taking care of my things and responsibility, I also learned that berating someone because they do it different or slower isnt helpful to anyone.  (Im not saying you do this btw, there is a reason he was abusive and I dont assume you are!) I take that one step further even at work where I manage 18-30 year olds.  Im the boss that says thank you and well done.  And when I say something is bad they listen but I let them think of ways to improve so that they take ownership and responsibility for their own growth. I could give them my way but they are more likely to remember it when they think of it. 
 
So while my husband doesnt see the mess like I do or can happily live in the mess, having been in a controlling household growing up and in adulthood (do it my way etc) I wont be that person.  I'll just do it if I want it done or learn to ask. Sounds like you dont have an issue asking. I understand how frustrating it is when the same mess happens over and over and over.  I can remind him to do things that he said he would do and thats about as good as it gets. But also he can say no he doesnt want to do something.  I have to learn to accept that.  At least he's honest. It teaches me its also okay to say no, i don't want to do that for you and thats okay. 

This seems to be fundamental.  "Age is just a number" except when "we don't know what we don't know" and resist learning what we need to know despite having been told that we need to.
 
Matters are complicated further by his introversion (which is not to be underemphasized) and the alien-to-him culture.
 
Only you can decide whether to keep applying effort.  As stated, you'll be responsible under the I-864 unless you withdraw it... and if he has his work permit already, AOS approval is probably not long off.

Sounds like the type of visa you chose is really hard on both of you.  Im sorry youre having so many issue, this is not ideal by any stretch of the imagination. Especially not your house burning down.  He can help find a new place btw, even if he cant help financially. 
 
 Im sure he doesnt like the fact he can't work either and being reminded of the fact you're the bread winner doesnt help his self esteem or depression issues.  Depression can make us not try.
 
My husband is a messy person.  You should see his desk... it drives me BANANAS! But if I didnt clean, he would eventually.  It just wouldnt be up to my standard so I clean to keep me happy and sane.  How many memes are there about men not cleaning or thinking there are magic tables?  My anxiety wont let me wait for him to clean. Which isnt his problem.  If we stop acting like Mom to them, they stop treating us like mom. 
 
I know my husband can save, he also doesnt believe we can take anything with us so will spend money if he goes out.  I can not buy things and stick to a list or budget.  This isnt necessarily a maturity thing as a personality thing.  I accept his personality, that is part of it. 
 
Are you getting angry at the person he is?  Some of who you see is the depression.  Some of who you see is a kid because you're acting like mom. Some of who you see is just who he is.  Can you accept that part? Can you love him? 
 
I can tell you that i try to do little things to make my husband happy.  I worry about his wellbeing.  He does the same for me which makes our marriage worth working for. 
 
But if you also have depression it would be beneficial to also have therapy alone.  Our mental health isn't something we should put a price tag on.  Maybe he would also feel better with singular counseling. 
 
If you divorce before the AOS is complete he will have to go back.  If you complete AOS you will be on the hook for the affidavit of support.  Sometimes divorce is necessary, sometimes it's the easy path. Only you guys can decide.  Best wishes. 

I've seen only a small handful of cases ever get that waiver approved. Temporary travel restrictions are almost certainly not going to cut it. They're going to want to see long-term causes of being unable to see each other.
Near-impossible IMO.
 
Best evidence is time spent physically together, of which you have none.

Any guess of when you will get a NOA2 is simply that... a guess. Like Geowrain mentioned, there are too many variables to be accurate. We can give you a timeframe like a week to a month or two. And that is if they accept your new evidence. Each case is different.

Ah, that was the problem then.
A notorized affidavit only verifies you signed it (not it's accuracy). This is a requirement they do not take at face value or at word...evidence is needed.
Pictures do not prove a verifiable date.
Facebook is the same way...very easy to backdate.
 
Passport stamps, receipts, boarding tickets, hotel invoices, event tickets, etc. show that you were in the same location and verify the date was within the past 2 years.

Out of everything you listed here, pictures were the only thing that holds a little weight. And even so, what in those pictures could prove that you met in 2 years? Yes a picture can prove you met in person... but within 2 years?
 
Notarized affidavits are meaningless. Notarized only proves the identity of the person signing the document. It does not mean everything in the document is true.
Facebook??? No comment as this is not a physical meeting
Same goes with postcards.
 
We can now see why you got the RFE. Don't take this critique the wrong way, I am only looking at this as if I was a officer reviewing your case. I would send out an RFE also.

On what basis was that reached, and how does that differ from the consensus?

Plenty of "award" winning members on this site who have been saying the same thing from the very beginning. 

**Post moved K1 to ROC, where similar posts are discussed.

*Post moved from Tourist Visas to AOS from work, student or tourist visas where similar posts are discussed

My wife brought 4 suitcases of personal items,  declared nothing