RO_AH

You had me following you for quite a while before you said this. You sound like you were not even ready for marriage yet. I blame you just as much, if not more than her. You probably should have sought counseling before you got to this point.
 
Now was she refusing sex? Or just refusing unprotected sex? She has a right to refuse either but a spouse refusing sex is a reason for divorce. If the "unprotected" part is the issue, then you two have a serious communication problem. A couple has kids when BOTH people decided to have kids because it is a life changing commitment. If you got engaged and then married without discussing if and when you plan to have kids, you had no business getting married.
 
Think about this...What did you accomplish by destroying the ring? What did it prove? Was that an adult way of communicating your feelings?
 
Just file for divorce and be done with it. You have been given enough advice to do that. 

You had me following you for quite a while before you said this. You sound like you were not even ready for marriage yet. I blame you just as much, if not more than her. You probably should have sought counseling before you got to this point.
 
Now was she refusing sex? Or just refusing unprotected sex? She has a right to refuse either but a spouse refusing sex is a reason for divorce. If the "unprotected" part is the issue, then you two have a serious communication problem. A couple has kids when BOTH people decided to have kids because it is a life changing commitment. If you got engaged and then married without discussing if and when you plan to have kids, you had no business getting married.
 
Think about this...What did you accomplish by destroying the ring? What did it prove? Was that an adult way of communicating your feelings?
 
Just file for divorce and be done with it. You have been given enough advice to do that. 

go to the police show them the messege and make a report about her blackmailing you. also send it to uscis and as other have said withdrawal the i864 and never be alone with her or else she can try and claim a vawa.

Please don't ever give a woman this kind of advise EVER! First of all, not all states allow for you to record them without the other persons knowledge and approval. Second #######? Do not ever give this advice ever again to anyone. 

This is terrible advice!! Why in the world would she purposely provoke her husband to abuse her??? 

If you do as he says, next thing that's gonna happen is that HE is going to file a divorce, you won't be able to appear in the case being stranded in another country, you'll default on it and he'll get whatever he asks in the petition. Be careful.

Oh I don't know, maybe you should ask that instead of assuming? As she has said later he had his reasons and still offered to do the AOS.
 
I think the biggest problem here is people living in a fantasy land and not taking near enough time to know and spend time together before committing their life to that person.
 
I will agree that there are USC's that treat the whole process wrong. There are just as many foreigners in it for the wrong reason. But worse than both of those are people who judge all under one assumption.

This is awful presumptuous of you. In the OP's original post she said we will divorce, it is not working out as we planned.

This is awful presumptuous of you. In the OP's original post she said we will divorce, it is not working out as we planned.

Oh I don't know, maybe you should ask that instead of assuming? As she has said later he had his reasons and still offered to do the AOS.
 
I think the biggest problem here is people living in a fantasy land and not taking near enough time to know and spend time together before committing their life to that person.
 
I will agree that there are USC's that treat the whole process wrong. There are just as many foreigners in it for the wrong reason. But worse than both of those are people who judge all under one assumption.

Actually, it's the intending immigrant's responsibility to file for AOS. Always has been. The USC's responsibility is to support them in their effort and provide a completed I-864. It's is not the USC's green card or status at risk...the intending immigrant's is and it's their responsibility to ensure it is filed for in a timely manner.
 
While very rare, it is technically possible to AOS even if you are divorced. However, the USC spouse must still be willing to complete the I-864. Without being married, there is usually no compelling reason for somebody to take on that kind of financial responsibility for up to 10 years. It's a decision entirely in their right to make - or not make.

This seems like your best option and gives you the best opportunity for your future. You could always find another and be able to come back. I hope for your sake that you really take the time to know someone before your next adventure. Some say just follow your heart, but I always say when you do use your mind as a filter to what goes into your heart. I bet if you were to look back now you would see plenty of warning signs that you ignored because you were only following your heart. Maybe I am wrong, but just my advice. I truly do wish you the best and hope you find your true love.

Some people can't afford to file right away.  
 
OP would you be willing to do therapy? The first 6 months are the hardest especially if you can't work and have nothing to do all day.  I know the first 3 months alone were fights every day.  It is not easy for anyone in this situation...it's new.  You are adjusting to a new country and marriage. While the USC is also adjusting to while trying to help you adjust.  This process is not easy but if you both can get through this it will be better.  Until the AOS papers were filed we fought constantly. The USC has to understand this is a huge change for you....it takes work on both parts. This is just such a huge adjustment 6 months has been the hardest for us. 

How do you know he wants the divorce? That's it what she said.  She said they are getting a divorce because it's not working out.  Also, your comment about a lot of US citizens that sponsor their significant others on K1 being pieces of work is a little rude.  Because it's not ever the immigrant that could be a piece of work? Being that they want to get a divorce and the marriage is over they cannot send aos papers in now.  It would most certainly be fraud if the USC sends in AOS papers with the intention of getting a green card and then divorcing. 

Or Women.........

He doesn't need one for the K1 visa. I don't know who told you he needed one.

When can you file the I-129F?  After you are both free to marry (which means once your fiancee has the final divorce decree) + plus have met in person within the past two years.    You have been there and met - keep all your boarding passes, etc. for evidence. so you have that handled.  The divorce will be final in another month so you so ... there is your answer.  In another month.
 
1) Nope not an issue that you met before the divorce was final.  
 
2)  Nope don't need the divorce recognition process from the Philippines, the USA recognized divorce and you are chasing a U.S. visa.   All is good
 
It is fine that she has a CEMAR from PSA instead of a CENOMAR, she will have copies of her final divorce decree so that base is covered.  Many before you have done this, and I have yet to see one have an issue.
 
There is info on the K-1 process from my signature below.  The process does change over time.
 
 

I'm guessing the CO might have thought you were visa shopping, OP.

Okay...there's a bunch of misunderstandings going on here.
An I-601 would be filed after the visa is refused (after the interview). An I-601 is not for a tourist visa. It must be filed in relation to immigrant visa application (includes K-1 despite actually being a non-immigrant visa). What inadmissibility does she need waived anyway? Refusal under 214(b) (aka "insufficient ties to return home" / "immigrant intent") is not waivable. DCF only exists for the I-130...i.e. if you were doing a spousal visa, not a fiance visa (which uses the I-129F instead). DCF requirements vary heavily from embassy to embassy...some only look for 6+ months of physical presence (+ maybe a signed lease) in that country while others require residency (meaning a valid visa/status that permits residency, not a tourist visa). So this may or may not be fine....just wanted to raise the point so you know to contact the embassy to get the specifics of what they will require for DCF eligibility so there are no surprises. K-1 takes about 6-8 months from I-129F filing to visa in hand, on average. YMMV Either way, it won't help "NOW".  
If you've previously brought somebody to the US and it turned out to be fraudulent, expect scrutiny.
 
The waiver for meeting in person is literally just an attachment (plus supporting evidences) you include with the I-129F. There is no premade form....you just write up the reason(s) you are requesting the waiver and fill in the I-129F appropriately. But like I said, the odds of approval are very close to zero. By the time they adjudicate your petition and waiver, you will likely be permitted to travel and therefore could then meet in person.

Oh boy. Believe it or not, but a person can scam you very easily just on those Skype calls and Facebook messages. I can start skyping with anyone now and create the whole different person that I am at the real life. And trust me they would never know the real me. It's easy.  It happened before, it will always happen. Uscis will not waive the meeting requirements for you.  You can travel to her when you recover or you can meet in some other country where she doesn't need a visa. 

Having the baby is a GREAT choice. You guys should be and I am sure you are, HAPPY. God has blessed you with a gift.  Ignore the negative comments. What you do is your business.
 
I wouldn't lose hope and would not stop trying to get an early or expedited appointment.  Keep calling NVC and get the MNL# because once you have that you can get started with paying your interview fee, completing the medical and also completing DS160. Don't schedule an appointment for a few days, but be looking on the schedule as much as you can. She can look and when she is sleeping you can watching for a cancellation and grab it.  I can remember a one or two years back we had very limited interview appointments and people couldn't get appointment because there were none to be had. They used a chrome extension to monitor the appointment page for changes. When the page changed then it would send a wake up to you and you could check in to the site and see what the change was. Most times it was an appointment that was open. Details below.
 
http://www.check4change.com/
 
 
Restrictions to Changing Appointments
 
Please be reminded that even though nonimmigrant visa fees are valid for one calendar year, options to schedule an appointment are limited. The U.S. Embassy in Manila schedules hundreds of thousands of nonimmigrant visa appointments each year and must accommodate requests both for new appointments and for those applicants who need to reschedule their appointments for whatever reason. Applicants are only allowed to reschedule twice (not including the initial appointment) without penalty. If the second rescheduling attempt is canceled, an applicant will only be allowed to reschedule a new date after a waiting period of 90 days. Please plan your visa application accordingly to avoid problems securing an interview appointment.
 
http://www.ustraveldocs.com/ph/ph-niv-appointmentschedule.asp

Thank you. Being pregnant and remaining pregnant is the best choice we made. I don't know about you but there was no other options once we found out but to keep the baby. I respect your opinion but I am sure people would do the same if they were in my shoes. 

that will raise a red flag for sure 20 years older and that she's handicapped and on welfare all i see is red flags

I chose CR1 due to money savings and and not having to do AOS after she arrives. Seems to be less headaches if you ask me.

I chose CR1 due to money savings and and not having to do AOS after she arrives. Seems to be less headaches if you ask me.