Ash.1101

I think a lot of people are thinking that it's pretty awful that your wife is taking the hit for your "poor decisions" but you're not willing to take the hit for your "poor decisions".


Either way, actions have consequences. If you fly out before the charges are dropped, I would just eat the money loss and protect your wife from having any issues at the border.

But, I doubt you'll do that.

Don't take the trip. If you take the trip, go alone.

Don't put your wife through any more potentially bad situations because you have lapses in judgement, both when drunk and when sober. (I'm taking the fact that you're even THINKING about having her leave the country while all of this is going on as a lapse of judgement).

As others have said, she has to disclose it. You're going to the place that she immigrated from, someone could take that as she's trying to get away from the charges. They can use their own discretion.


Saying your sorry isn't to much and praising the woman you had arrested is a joke. I hope she takes all of your behavior into consideration for herself and the baby. Even with over drinking, that behavior is far from the norm unless you are controlling and are prone to anger. I wish her and her child the best of luck.

I don't know if he's looking for understanding per se, I think he's trying to find a way to deport her, which isn't going to come from this place either.

He just happened to have made himself look like a butt in the process of trying to figure out how to deport her lol.

Would have been better evidence to have screenshot facebook messenger showing the conversations between them with time stamps and dates the pictures were sent, which is what almost ANY other person would have done.. Just what you found looks more shady than anything else and makes your case look worse.

And again, you straight up said that you brought her here knowing this. Ya'll got married, maybe the relationship wasn't what she wanted and she talked to another guy. She may have totally of loved you WHEN she married you. Maybe in the back of her heart she wanted to try to make it work. That sucks for you, but then you still bring her here.You had to of, honesty would have said "I don't love this woman anymore, she cheated, I'm only here for my kid". 

You went to this AOS interview KNOWING you wanted to leave her, you also lied to the US government. Again, you still come across as an angry ex.

There is no real concrete proof without her straight up telling the guy "I'm going to bring you to the US once I divorce my husband".

I agree that you come off as a troll. Your evidence is INCREDIBLY weak and it looks fabricated.

As another said, this is something you knew about before bringing her to the country, USICS could have easily assumed that you got over it and worked through it.

"I discovered some months later she’d been writing love letters to another guy"

" I only discovered these the following May 2016"

According to the timeline first interview was March 2016, Second interview was June 2016, a month after you found out.

If you're going to prove fraud you need to get your facts straight for USCIS.

Def not ecidence of visa fraud, but I'm questioning if the letters are real.

Why would he have letters SHE wrote her lover three years ago? They look immaculate and the letter to her is still inside of a legal pad. None have been folded, none show wear and tear and again... still inside a legal pad... And note, these letters would have been written while she was in her country with her lover. The lovers letter is dated the day before her letter confessing his love to him, yet he's the one who says he loves her and then she confesses? One day mail? Did they slip these under doors and run? Again why would the OP have a letter his wife wrote and gave to someone else.

I think this is just a case of really angry ex "doing what he can for the best of his son". If he was willing to bring her here just to get his son, knowing they weren't going to stay together, who's to say he's not going to forge letters to keep her away.

Sometimes people project their own issues onto others. Maybe she's not the scammer here. 🤔

The second one is written on a legal pad.

... Like it's still inside of the legal pad. Did he send her a legal pad full of letters?

That and ... why would you have letters she wrote to him.. shouldn't those be with him...

You would have to prove that she married you for the purpose of immigration. Like hard actual proof, like an e-mail of her saying "I married this USC to come to the US. I plan on leaving him the second I touch land!" and then PLENTY of more proof of it. You saying "SHE WAS TALKING TO ANOTHER GUY" just comes across as an angry ex than someone worried about US security.

It's very possible she loved you when she married you and just happened to have strayed shortly later. It happens to regular couples all over the world, with or without immigration involved.

Ya the big issue is, is you’re out of status after 90 days. What ever you do between that 91st day and filing is on you.
 
the completed packet doesn’t matter, the only way you hold limbo status is with the NOA saying they received your I-485 form.
 
note we filed a couple of weeks after the 90 days expired but we were aware of the risks and what could happen. 
 
you are NOT required to file within the 90 days but if you don’t want a lapse in your legal status in the country it’s recommended that you should.
 
since you’re not required to file they are not required to put up that information. USCIS tends to expect everyone to know how their visas work.

That advice sounds a little shady to me.......and you are staying in the bad marriage due to fear of an interview.......and it sounds like you are trying to manufacture an illusion....

Glad I wasn't the only one who noticed that, especially within this thread!

I don't think shows like 90 day fiance helps with the mindset. Even though you're required to write a "yes I'll marry this person" letter, it seems like a lot of people want to test run the relationship in a more "real" setting at home by using the visa.

And it's not a good test anyway since the immigrant is going through a culture shock and doesn't have her own friends and social circle, cannot start working, often cannot even get a driver's license and the USC is going to work like normal. It's a very different dynamic from when you're actually accustomed to the new country and have your own social life. 

Glad I wasn't the only one who noticed that, especially within this thread!

I don't think shows like 90 day fiance helps with the mindset. Even though you're required to write a "yes I'll marry this person" letter, it seems like a lot of people want to test run the relationship in a more "real" setting at home by using the visa.

Glad I wasn't the only one who noticed that, especially within this thread!

I don't think shows like 90 day fiance helps with the mindset. Even though you're required to write a "yes I'll marry this person" letter, it seems like a lot of people want to test run the relationship in a more "real" setting at home by using the visa.

Glad I wasn't the only one who noticed that, especially within this thread!

I don't think shows like 90 day fiance helps with the mindset. Even though you're required to write a "yes I'll marry this person" letter, it seems like a lot of people want to test run the relationship in a more "real" setting at home by using the visa.

Glad I wasn't the only one who noticed that, especially within this thread!

I don't think shows like 90 day fiance helps with the mindset. Even though you're required to write a "yes I'll marry this person" letter, it seems like a lot of people want to test run the relationship in a more "real" setting at home by using the visa.

K-1 because we didn't want to marry and then be seperated. Yes, we COULD have done it, as we were in a long distance relationship for years, but we didn't want too.

As for right now, some countries aren't allowing those from the US in, so a USC can't just go get married to someone else in a lot of countries and vice versa. K-1 may have a longer wait, but at least you don't have to figure out how you're going to get to each other countries to get married at the moment for CR-1.

Glad I wasn't the only one who noticed that, especially within this thread!

I don't think shows like 90 day fiance helps with the mindset. Even though you're required to write a "yes I'll marry this person" letter, it seems like a lot of people want to test run the relationship in a more "real" setting at home by using the visa.

Glad I wasn't the only one who noticed that, especially within this thread!

I don't think shows like 90 day fiance helps with the mindset. Even though you're required to write a "yes I'll marry this person" letter, it seems like a lot of people want to test run the relationship in a more "real" setting at home by using the visa.

Also seems like some people believe the K-1 visa is a "try before buy" visa. 

Way back when a K1 could take over a year and a spousal could take several so.. it made not much of a difference at the time. But for us, there wasn't any other workable options. Marriage in his country wasn't an option, and we didn't want to be apart from each other when married. We had been without each other for long enough. A K1 gives some advantage in that it gave him plenty of time to keep working and save up funds, while I planned what I could for a functional wedding (something I don't personally recommend). The part we didn't like obviously was the lengthy wait for AOS process. Having an EAD did not actually mean any employers understood what one was or even wanted to hire him.

You can’t. You can’t adjust from an ESTA on any basis other than IR. And you can’t adjust status from an overstay of any status through marriage to an LPR either. So it’s a double “you can’t”. Your AOS application will be denied and by the time that happens, you’ll have accrued enough overstay to face a ban as well. Your only option is to return home before your ESTA stay expires and await processing for an F2A visa.
 
 

You need to read the instructions and the form to be able to calculate your household size. You keep asking if your brother is included in the household size.
 
You need to send what you want them to see. Overthinking and sending more than what's absolutely necessary won't help your case.

This likely happens a whole lot more than we hear about it on this forum. I vaguely remember a couple of cases in the pass that were along the lines of the OP. This is an extremely difficult and embarrassing situation. I admire the courage of the OP to come here and discuss his options. But it also makes me wonder if he did it to get the 
 
I want to share a phrase I learned that should help you decide on what to do.... "Don't light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm."
 
You may love her, desire her, and she has a lot of things you want in a wife. But she may not be for you. You can love someone without being with them. There is no governing, spiritual, or physical law that states you HAVE to marry someone because your love them. Some times people are not good for each other no matter how they feel about each other. I'm all for giving someone a chance if they make a mistake. But this may be something that is beyond restoration in my opinion.
 
Here are things to consider:
You will be responsible for her and the child, even if you two divorce later. It is in the affidavit that you will sign for her. The bio father may want to be in the child's life and could very well have the right to say whether of not the child can leave the country. Having a child is stressful for any relationship. You two would be going from young loving newlyweds to a full family with huge responsibility and trust issues. You will not have given your marriage enough time to develop. The baby will multiply your financial expenses 10 fold. You don't seem the know the true nature of your fiance and the biofather's relationship. From your follow up post it seems you have little information about him. She may had some serious feelings for him now. Obviously, she has some feelings with him if she produced a child with him. But it could very well be more than a fling. This situation will put an extremely negative variable in your relationship. Immigration issues, assimilation issues, and financial issues are already waiting to put a burden on your relationship. Now you have to deal with trust and uncertainty. To answer your question, it is possible for you to go through with the K1. But there may be some tough questions during the interview. If you are there during the interview (and I HIGHLY suggest you be at the interview if you move forward with this), she will need to be 100% truthful. The interview is not the time for surprises to pop up. And those officers may ask some really tough questions.
 
 
At 31 y/o, you have to realize that life is just now starting for you. Don't start it off on the wrong foot. You have a choice to direct the path you want to take. You can start a successful business or backpack around the world if you wanted to. You can still care for her and be there as a friend to her. 
 
If you do decide to continue... at least make the choice to delay the interview. Tell her you need some time before move forward. Give yourself a few months or even a year before finishing the process.
 
I truly wish you the best of luck. And if I knew you personally, I would have a case of whatever your favorite beverage waiting for you.

Consulate can do math and will wonder why it's a  k2 and not a usc.

Your “fiancé” cheated on you and got pregnant. And you’re sticking around ? 
 
 
wow...