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How would anyone here know if your spouse will know? 

As others have said, he will have to get a tourist visa on his own merit. Pakistan is not an easy country to get a tourist visa or a marriage visa from - there are people on here who have made 7+ trips and spent years trying and are still unsuccessful.  @Love To Teach
 
Furthermore, if he is able to get a tourist visa and comes to visit you, and it goes well - at some point in time, if you decide to divorce your husband and pursue this relationship, they will see that this relationship started while you were still married - not even legally separated, and it could cause more problems for you. 
 
If you do not want to be married, then divorce your husband first and pursue other opportunities after. 

Well your therapist definitely should not put anything about the psychological health of anyone they have not met with and had the opportunity to diagnosis with the pat persons permission. An opinion of someone else’s mental health they have never treated is not proof. Seems you just need to file the waiver and really don’t need to state your are visiting a therapist. 

Making him go through what process? He came to the US voluntarily. He married you voluntarily and he can't make you stay married if you don't want to, that's just how life works. You're not making him do anything. Don't let him hold you responsible for his misfortunes. He is a grown up.
 
I'm sorry you have to go through this. Your address is your business only.

Well your therapist definitely should not put anything about the psychological health of anyone they have not met with and had the opportunity to diagnosis with the pat persons permission. An opinion of someone else’s mental health they have never treated is not proof. Seems you just need to file the waiver and really don’t need to state your are visiting a therapist. 

Well your therapist definitely should not put anything about the psychological health of anyone they have not met with and had the opportunity to diagnosis with the pat persons permission. An opinion of someone else’s mental health they have never treated is not proof. Seems you just need to file the waiver and really don’t need to state your are visiting a therapist. 

Well your therapist definitely should not put anything about the psychological health of anyone they have not met with and had the opportunity to diagnosis with the pat persons permission. An opinion of someone else’s mental health they have never treated is not proof. Seems you just need to file the waiver and really don’t need to state your are visiting a therapist. 

Well your therapist definitely should not put anything about the psychological health of anyone they have not met with and had the opportunity to diagnosis with the pat persons permission. An opinion of someone else’s mental health they have never treated is not proof. Seems you just need to file the waiver and really don’t need to state your are visiting a therapist. 

A letter like that is irrelevant now that the divorce is finalized.
Unless you were hoping a letter like that would somehow add to proof of a bonafide marriage before divorcing, because you attended therapy/marriage counselling on your own?  (It wouldn't prove that, by the way)

Well your therapist definitely should not put anything about the psychological health of anyone they have not met with and had the opportunity to diagnosis with the pat persons permission. An opinion of someone else’s mental health they have never treated is not proof. Seems you just need to file the waiver and really don’t need to state your are visiting a therapist. 

Well your therapist definitely should not put anything about the psychological health of anyone they have not met with and had the opportunity to diagnosis with the pat persons permission. An opinion of someone else’s mental health they have never treated is not proof. Seems you just need to file the waiver and really don’t need to state your are visiting a therapist. 

Well, unfortunately there are rights and responsibilities (and restriction!) of the green card holder. If someone have issues with that, they should rethink their choice to become US legal resident. It's US (or USCIS ) law and they can come up with whatever they want and no one is "forced" to move to the US at the end. 
 
We can argue about it, discuss what we wish we could do, but rules are clear - must maintain residency.  If someone wants to feel "safe" when traveling abroad for a longer period, have them apply for a re-entry permit.
 
If someone wants to frequently travel back and forth between US and their home country, they should hold on until they receive their US residency. Nothing stops them then.
 
edit: Before someone comes here and tell me I'm unsympathetic (again!) - My husband soon leaves on a longer mission and I wish I could spend that time in my home country with my family instead of being alone. But I know the rules and I'm not going to mess up my immigration history and potentially add issues to future naturalization. Sometimes you just gotta suck it up.

Free might be a bit much...I worked a lot as did all my colleagues for the "free" PhD education we got. Still a good deal, IMHO, if you get a full ride.
 

1- Yes. That is not dependent on the visa but whether you get admitted to the PhD program. A different field but the same area is more likely than a totally different field (e.g. you studied Literature and you want to do a PhD in Astronomy, is 0 likely; you studied a social science and want to do a PhD in different social science, very likely) 
 
2- Recommendations have to be asked to professors that know you best and that interacted with you. If you have nobody, maybe do an MA in Italy before applying for a PhD. People that have publications, are known in the field, are better, those with PhD in the US much better. But the key is that they have to know you and write about you specifically and with examples, not general stuff like "very smart".
 
3- Most PhD are fully funded in top 30 schools. However, it can vary by field. Engineering is harder because funding usually comes from a professor's grant and working part-time in their Lab, and you get a tuition waiver from the university. Basically, you get a fellowship to cover living expenses and then, the tuition is waived. 
 
4- You get paid and you find somewhere to live. Some universities have graduate housing and you pay rent. Others, you rent your own place outside of campus. You are a grown up. You have to figure it out.
 
5- A PhD is full-time and it involves taking full-time classes the first 2 or 3 years, at some point you have to take qualifying exams and you get kicked out if you don't pass, you have to do well in classes too or you get kicked out, there are plenty of other requirements that depend on the program. Of course you can have a life, but a PhD is a full-time job. If you think the PhD is a medium to something else and not your goal, then you should not do it. 
 
And no, you cannot work because you are a full-time student. You can do odd jobs on campus, but you won't get approved for that. Usually, the department assigns you to be TA of a class or you can work as an RA for a professor. 
 
You cannot take classes outside of your PhD requirements. The university is not going to pay for your acting class if you are not doing something relevant. 
 
6- No, you are not on time. I think you have no clue about admissions and you have nothing ready. If you get lucky you might get admitted for August 2019, but given your questions it is unlikely.
 
You should post here https://forum.thegradcafe.com/ -- I think you are after the visa, not the PhD.

As you probably know the I-130/I-130A are for petitioning of an Alien Relative/Spouse. Assuming you married within the 90 days you wouldn't need I-130 (try to file the AOS within the 90 days as well). You should be filling I-485 (AOS) , I-765 (Employment Authorization), and I-131 (Advanced Parole). If you got married outside the 90 day window then you'd need the I130
 
Good luck

This is a silly question. 
 
The only reality there is is your perception. So if you are seeing red flags and considering ending the visa process and relationship, it doesnt matter why (if its cultural or fraud) it only matters that you see something that worries you enough to end your marriage. 

It is their passive aggressive method of encouraging people to apply for citizenship as soon as they're eligible (so more fees for USCIS, woo hoo!). Just kidding- I think...
 
 

Your money is her money. Her money is her money. Sounds fair.
Kick her out.

Your girlfriend might be qualified for a TN Work Visa as a professor. If she is and does find a job in Michigan, she could live there for up to 3 years at a time. That would eliminate your need to get married right away.
Check out this link and see what she thinks. https://www.uscis.gov/working-united-states/temporary-workers/tn-nafta-professionals
Good luck. My wife is from Windsor as well.

Curious, why if the number of days off is such an issue anyone moves to the USA or get jobs here? Agreed, that 2 weeks sucks but that is just part of the package. No one is forced to move to the US and why not have your spouses move to your countries where they can maybe get a job and 30+ days off?

I'm certain I have it right. Perhaps you noticed I didn't say anything about how hard anyone worked anywhere. Nor did I say anything about someone leaving the US for a "better life". Nor do I know your particulars but I do know we all have choices, and to say your man "can't" go there is an oversimplification. Maybe it is more difficult or he has a better income but people immigrate to the UK regularly.
Simply I stated why do people leave their country to come the US? The OP asked about benefits but in the form of complaining about time off and that information is readily available to anyone to search. There is no mandated time off which means the OP and everyone can negotiate with potential employers the number of days off they will receive, and for that matter what benefits they will receive. There is no magical answer to the original OP's question other than find a job the offers the benefits you want/need.